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raped and being gay
Is there a connection with being raped and turning out gay? I was chatting with another member and we found out it was common between us. So is it common that if your raped you might turn out gay. Any studies been done on it? Anyone else fall in the same category?
Yes - you were a big girly fag bag long before you got raped haha! (stop making excuses dude)
See this is an old post that has been revived. Please forgive if much of what I am going to say has already been said.
First of all I am so sorry if anyone was raped and if anyone is still suffering the after effects. My heart goes out to anyone victimized. If this still haunts you, and you have not yet done so. if you do not want to report the rapist(s) for various reasons, at least seek counseling to talk through the issues. Rape is about someone exerting power, it is not necessarily about sex. Victims should not blame themselves and should not be ashamed of being overpowered by someone stronger.
Studies have been done by Kinsey and others indicating that sexuality if not strictly black or white. In essence, all human sexuality falls within a continuum with completely straight and completely gay at either end and bi in the middle. So in reality most men fall somewhere within the continuum. IF push came to shove, you might find that a male friend who identifies himself as 100% straight, might actually admit after a few drinks that he found some guys attractive (i.e. handsome, muscular, etc.) and even possibly allow himself to fantasize for about 20 seconds or so about what it would be like or even experiment a bit.
So being raped does not make you gay, but it might expedite your exploration of where you might fall within the continuum. Beyond the severe violation and sometime violent invasion of a victim's personal space and taking his innocence, I suspect society also makes things even doubly difficult for men to come to terms with their sexuality. First because "real men" are supposed to be strong and not victimized. And second, in many areas of the US and other countries there is still heavy religious and cultural influence associating negative connotations with someone who had gay sex (even against their will) or being found out to be gay.
I wish anyone who has been victimized does not blame themselves and eventually can find some kind of inner peace.
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Everyone are bi-sexual whether they realize it or naught. I'm sorry it took someone being raped before they figured it out themselves. That is sad.
Lol you don't turn gay i didn't wake up one morning and decide i wanted to be gay.Like a few of the members here i was gay before it was cool to be gay.I never wanted to be if i had a choice i wouldn't be.so i really doubt been raped Turns you gay ,are the members here that weren't raped straight?
all of my early sexual experiences were with boys, when I was 14 I consented to having anal sex with a much older guy not know how rough and painful it would be. I wasn't raped because I did want it, but I wanted it to be different
I knew I liked other boys long before I was molested and fucked... So, No that didn't make me gay. I already was Bi and stayed that way.
Any body who is gay may have just happend to get raped as a child...
I will say to anyone out there if you were raped or were traumatized at a young age there is help out there, do not feel ashamed to asked for help. ( I was ashamed to ask for help, boy was i wrong!)It was not your fault, no one has the wright to do that to you or anyone else.
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