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i think you have to Use some "strategy", i got the same problem with my parents. I teached a "coming out strategy" to a friend, and i'ts ok with his parents for now. (and his parents are and old french redneck...)

Hey I have the same problem, my mother and sister are homophbes and my brother was too but now he's cool about it about me being gay but hey buddy hang in there thing's will get better. Mike

i too am in the same boat...i am slowly coming out though. two co-workers know that i am bi. your story actually mirrors mine almost perfectly. my parents, i believe, have somewhat an idea. i have two older siblings, but my brother would be okay with it. i am afraid of what my family would think(living in vt there are too many close-minded people) lets chat...

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Thanks so much, everybody. I'm so happy with the amount of support I'm getting for this.

@pitwhiffer: Thank you for your offer of friendship and a shoulder to cry on. You have no idea how much that means to me. I would also like to extend the same to you. I can promise you that I will think of this if the thought to take my own life ever crosses my mind. It just isn't worth it. Thank you again for your kind words and friendship.

I'll not tell you what you SHOULD do like others have, it's not my place to do that. You go the way you are led and in that, I offer my support and understanding. Be cautious but honest with yourself. When you reach this level of confidence then you do what you'll do. Contact me any time you like or when you need a friend. Good Luck and Best Wishes.

i by this message post, promise to be your friend for life, not your life partner but a buddy, a chum , a mate, a pal. i will let you cry on my shoulder. i will hold you when you feel alone, misfit, unloved or unwanted. mutually promise me, you will never attempt to take your own life, will reach out to me for help whenever you need it and be patient with me to be there for you the best i can, knowing no matter how i love you and value your life as i do my own.

got courage? yeah i back it up with my phone number and sky and whatever. this is for real and for life. anyone else ready to do this?

this type of thing takes times. dont rush for anything. but keep in mind that you are who you are.
im not an expert in this field, but if you need help with anything, drop me inbox :)

Thanks guys. I'm not completely sure if I'm ready, but I'm working on it. Thanks for the advice.

i have to agree with the statement above. im 27, came out to me parents at 24. i was overseas when i told them. i told me mom: mom, im gay. i dont want to be, but i am. her reply: if you dont want to be gay, dont be gay. i told her its not simply. as the matter of fact, i cant change that. she then told me sisters who were next to me mom when i called her, that im disgusting. she didnt say it to the phone, but i heard her. i wasnt so sad, really, just take it as nothing.
then me dad (my parents divorce when i was little). told him that its in my dna, and i cant change it even if i want to. his reaction ? he blamed himself to have a gay son.
i know that im gay when i was in high school, but i dun have the courage to tell others. its only when i moved here (australia), i start my life anew, and meet new people and things, that change my view of the world: love yourself, whatever you are, whoever you are. if people hates you because you are gay or lesbian or bisexual, its their problem. seriously. im not robbing others property, aint kill no one, so, why would they hate me for ? gay or les is not a crime.
i myself have a younger brother, who still cant accept who i really am, and we live together under one roof. although he dont really care about my sexuality preference, but deep down, i know that he dont really like me. but, who cares ?? i dont. if he cant accept me as who i am, fine with me. i cant change it, so deal with it, or go away.
you're 19. there are whole world in front of you. dont let your sexuality hold your back. seriously. you should

Hi

You should come out to your parent. and tell them you are worried how your siblings will take it. As for there help. IF they love you they will help you. And your mom has no place telling any one anything. Your older brother if he loves you now he will still love to afterwards. It will just take him some time to deal with it all. And if he does not come around its his loss.

Just a few thoughts. Once you're gay you're gay - there's no switching back later. Sounds like your brother should be told so he can process the data and if he cannot deal with it then its his problem. This isn't a disagreement over a shirt or record album, it cuts right to the essence of who you are and he's not going to change that by slapping you around, so he might as well accept it. Siblings have gone their separate ways in life over far lesser things.

As for you, to live a life ashamed or in constant fear is no way to be. You're 19 and gay, its the greatest time of your life. Your potential mates at that age are as fun, interesting, and hot as they are ever going to be. Everyone should be loved and you demonstrate the right attitude about it in the first part of your post. Don't miss out on your opportunity to be happy.

I'm 54 years old and only came out to my parents when I turned 50. Everyone was really too old to care. I never came out earlier because I figured if str8 people do not feel the need to tell the world their sexuality why should I. Being gay makes us special but not so special that we need to make a song and dance about it. I tried to hide in the closet a few times but when college friends or work mates ask about girlfriends or a wife and I reply "no" then it does not take long for them to figure it out. Very few really gave me a hard time about being "single". We may not be able to choose our family but we can pick our friends, my advice to any gay guy is to choose wisely...........................By the way, being homosexual was not a bad thing in the distant past. Gay guys were treated as being special and gifted. In tribal societies gays were Shamen and were almost worshipped. The Spartans were encourage to take a boyfriend before they married. Spartan soldiers were feared and having your lover fight by your side meant that you both fought like heroes to save each other. That made Spartans braver and most feared of all warriors. Be proud your gay.

I'm 54 years old and only came out to my parents when I turned 50. Everyone was really too old to care. I never came out earlier because I figured if str8 people do not feel the need to tell the world their sexuality why should I. Being gay makes us special but not so special that we need to make a song and dance about it. I tried to hide in the closet a few times but when college friends or work mates ask about girlfriends or a wife and I reply "no" then it does not take long for them to figure it out. Very few really gave me a hard time about being "single". We may not be able to choose our family but we can pick our friends, my advice to any gay guy is to choose wisely...........................By the way, being homosexual was not a bad thing in the distant past. Gay guys were treated as being special and gifted. In tribal societies gays were Shamen and were almost worshipped. The Spartans were encourage to take a boyfriend before they married. Spartan soldiers were feared and having your lover fight by your side meant that you both fought like heroes to save each other. That made Spartans braver and most feared of all warriors. Be proud your gay.