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I am Kind of Pathetic :(

HornyInVT Blog Last Activity 12 years ago 547 views 6 comments
I've been lying here thinking of how my life is right now. I'm starting to get the confidence to come out to close friends and possibly family, but then , I realized. I don't actually have any close friends anymore who I feel I could really trust with something like this. I'm so busy with school that I haven't really made any friends that I could confide in. I mean, I am the president of a club, an editor for the university's newspaper, and I play the saxophone and violin for a few bands on campus, but I haven't taken the time to hang out with any of the people I go to school with. I am friendly with a lot of people, but I still am a bit of a loner. I've come a long way since I was in middle school and high school, but I still have a long way to go. I don't really have anywhere to turn.

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12 years ago

any groups at college to join? not have to be political cos must be just social ones. what about gay community center? not go into details but i have social problems and by volunteer get welcome for helpin and meet people. you talk about bein loner. do you 'coop' at home? make yourself go out and easy to say but start even with walk near house. just got big talk from family member tellin get out of me and in community. hugs and hope it gets better :)

12 years ago

Sometimes it helps to look at the big picture. More so than in any other time in life, it is important that young people navigate their 20's successfully, which it sounds like you are trying to do. You're paying your dues in college, setting yourself up to begin a productive well-organized career, which is good. You're healthy and active, which is good. You're engaged in multiple intellectual activities, which is good. Too often people pop out the other end at 30 in relationships their forever stuck in, with few lucrative career options, no education, etc. and that is not you. Screw up the 20's and life get's so much more complicated from then on out. That's not you. As for the friendship problem, recall that college is but a brief time in life and you are right to concentrate on the things that matter in the long run. Its amazing how people were such great friends and then after graduation you never see them again. The better approach might be to assess now whether you have a social anxiety disorder, and if so, see your primary care provider to discuss ways to manage this heading forward. Do some reading on line to see if it sounds like you, you never know. Finally good luck and don't get down. Mail me if you'd like to talk, H-

12 years ago

people can sense if you want to be superficial or close. if you take an interest in someone and really are interested in them, the relationship will grow. you have a busy life and are always on the way to the next thing. friends take time. it is up to you to invest your time in friendship,or not.

12 years ago

and still have enough courage to walk the street when I must. Pathetic you?? NOT EVEN. Pathetic is this.. taking anger management out on the destruction of property, Now I have to wait around with memories of what I did when I did for what reason it was for. inepts to say evety hole has it's lost forgotten memory piled over another remembering that last.

12 years ago

you don't need to have friends to trust when coming out dude, the whole world is behind you and this post to I say ok with homosexuality. Regardless of what you make as a profile for yourself you are pretty much out dude. I came out with a fit fury rage about what happened to me as a child

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12 years ago

The trust between people builds up only slowly, if you have more time for you to want to spend with your new friends or trying to time it might be good if you abgibst a few tasks. With your young age you're pretty much and have little time for you once you own attempts to take the time to hang out and you'll see that life has also beautiful pages.

I myself was once also a loner, but I learned about my depression, it also has beautiful sites and have learned more time for me to hang out with my friends more.