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Lonely but picky?

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I have noticed that many people - specially gay people - seem to be very lonely. Many need soneone to talk to and many are looking for friends or partners. That sounds good. I specially point this blog entry to the people that need someone to talk. If you look closer you will find that many of that boys are very picky.

- no older people (over 30 is old, even over 25 is old for some people)
- no fat people (weight is important for a conversation??)
- no this and no that

come on people, thats so stupid. Older people are not "mummies" and most of them are very good chatters. There are poeple that just want to have a sex chat in every age-rank. So dont think older chatters are naughty perverts.

Body stats are not a sign for a good chatter too. If you are complaining about the society and its tolerance against gays , think about your behaviour too.

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11 years ago

Yeah I have noticed and I guess I don't get it either, leaves me scratching my head. I also know exactly what Bllybuddy is saying because I followed his blog that he is referring to and some members went right into attack mode, just baffling.

onlyinvegas
11 years ago

I am he and he is me and you are me and we are all together co co ka ckoo

11 years ago

I will gladly admit I was drawn to GBT for the porn. However, I have made some friends here that have become important in my life. And I am one of those older guys. At this point, friendships are about sharing experiences, learning new things and being supportive of my friends. Knowing that many find "old men" as perverts, I always let the person who reaches out set the boundaries. I am old enough to not let the tough words of people influence my self identity.

I just hope that my experience in life can be of some use for others.

Thomas

11 years ago

many good words written here. i'll try to help someone in need. people come here for the porn. how much they want to interact varies. i don't get upset at the ones who only want young contact. glad to hear from twig again. mike.

11 years ago

There are some great comments and we could all benifit from the input givin,
Stop getting your sexual preferances and social expectations mixed up :(
I've watched this site evolve and mature over the past few years a would like to see it become a viable social network .

jagain569
11 years ago

personally i am turned off by fat and old etc.. but the older members here are the best to talk to. they have seen more and experienced more. if you have any questions or problems they are most sertanly going to give their honest answers and best advice. and unlike younger members they most likely have experienced the same problem before.

they can give you advice and give you a damn good reason why. you just dont find that in younger members.
im not going to fool around with them but then im not going to fool around with a younger person here aether. its the internet i came here for the porn not a boyfriend or anything. the community here is a bonus that i do have to say is great. and very helpful. just reading some blogs here have helped me out a lot and its why im not even looking at other sites

onlyinvegas
11 years ago

what a great tribute to a friend. well said scorpion well said... same to you nate88 be honored to be your friends

scorpion1955
11 years ago

its funny that their is such a great value on old things such as coins,cars,stamps,wines
but when it comes to older people their isnt, older peoples life experiences should by
priceless, i know this by experience, the 1955 on my avatar name is the birthdate of
a friend i had through out most of my college time, we were very close up to his death
not to long ago, i learned so much from this man alot of his ideals play in my life
today. the 1955 on my avatar name is there in his memory, so all you older guys you
have a friend here message me anytime i will be most happy to hear from you...michael

nate88
11 years ago

I'm 24 and some of my BEST and truest friends are over 50 and a few in their 60's. We don't chat about 'sex fantasy' we talk about our lives and what is going on. They have given me some very valuable advice along the way. None of my older friends are perverts or pedofiles. At least they are honest and post real photos and their true age. Thinkof others who don't. It's everyones free choice to acceptor reject who they want to associate with - most often sex never comes into the picture. I have one older friend that was so hurt, over nasty comments about his age, we only chat now on email. His account is open but he rarely usses it anymore because of hurtful comments - Such a SHAME - Andy

11 years ago

great to see you back, twig. nice blog. being better than everyone, i'm not sure what to say..

onlyinvegas
11 years ago

well said canada well said... i would take door number two any day

11 years ago

One advantage of getting older, is you get a better understanding of human nature, and can pick out (more easily) the lemons from the diamonds. I've noticed there seem to be two types of guys in the gay community : (1) The Narcissist .. a guy who is good looking, knows it, and obssesses over it. He tends to see his partners/boyfriends more like fashion accessories to serve his needs, than people. Not a satisfying guy to be in a relationship with ... spends more time looking at himself in the mirror, then he does at his partner/boyfriend. Sexy on the outside .. ugly on the inside. (2) The Average Guy .. not stunning to look at, but okay. Makes up for the fact he'll never be on the cover of GQ Magazine by being a loyal and loving partner/boyfriend. As concerned about your happiness as he is about his own. Obviously, a desirable partner/boyfriend, if you can accept that he's not the "perfect" ideal of gay sexuality. He may not look like a sex god, but he's good in bed, and cares about you.

Which one do you want ?

11 years ago

i just blogged this same topic few days ago. was real sad by some responses. but like one friend right me, i met my bf here so not all bad. just wish we all be nicer to each other.

onlyinvegas
11 years ago

Nice post, I'm about to turn 55 next month. I weight train 17 to 23 yr. old guys at a gym I attend. What I find rather funny is there comments to me. I train power lifting on bench press. Out of all these guys who consider them selves to be studs none can match me on any lift. They seem to be amazed yet they hang on every word that I say to them. I get a chance to break down thew all of ignorance to show them that yes I am older and have experienced much in my life gone threw much of the same that they are about to go threw.

In our conversations many topics come up about sex and sexuality. I never let them speak in derogatory ways weather they talk about str8 sex or gay sex. I tell them that if the only way you can talk about thing you dont understand is in a derogatory way then its best to be quite. Not all people wear the sexuality on their sleeve.

What I find most amusing is about this site is most guys on here don't even use their own pictures they use someone else. Yet they exclude even in chat because of age which most seem to not be truthful about as well.

SO LOOK INWARD WHEN YOU EXCLUDE using labels you would not like to labled as in your self. we were you once and sooner than you think you will be us.

11 years ago

i know that my analysis is too simple - but maybe the discussion about it will help

klausab
11 years ago

That sounds a bit like "beggars can't be choosers" but don't you think that is wrong too? From my point of view being lonely is no question of being gay but of the personality. And I think the main problem is not the sex, but maybe I am not a typical guy, when I find sex ist not so important. Maybe the common man lives for sex mainly. When you are joining sex chats you must be prepared to meet guys for sex and they will look for guys who meet their wants. When you have the choice between a 20 yo sportive guy and a 50 yo overweight to have a sexchat with, how would you choose? The 50 yo out of kindness?

I think you are right, pointing out the problem of lonelyness. But to do something against it needs a more elaborate approach. Also there is a difference between being lonely because you have no partner an being lonely because you have noone. I don't want to offer a solution but maybe we get a discussion here.