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im having trouble coming out and i dont know how to do it.as i mentioned a friend that i am attracted to goes to kickboxing class with me . i wanna come out to him . but i dont know how to do it . i dont know if i should just tell him or if i should get naked in front of him in the locker room , or if in while in the locker room while hes changing i should slap his but and depending on how he reacts ill tell him. please help

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12 years ago

O.K. you smooth...hmmm..load of non experience soldiers...my dad searved the army for 22 years...your bros.

lol101
lol101
12 years ago

you can't expected him to automatically be gay because he might not be and if you slap his ass and then tell him and he isn't gay then he will take it badly, trust me i've tried

thomthumb666
thomthumb666
12 years ago

maybe you should "friend up" to him 1st as in going for coffee/pizza after class; notice if he pays attention to you and returns a lot of eye contact...or if he's just flirting or gawking at the waitresses and other females; see if he enjoys eating and chatting with you b4 U think about slappin his but or putting things up there; good luck

12 years ago

first of all if he aint gay too then nothing is gonna happen. dont pin your hopes on this one guy you might be disappointed, even if he is gay he might not want to hook up with you for a gzillion reasons. come out to mum first (she will tell dad), then the rest of the family, then friends, then everyone including your kickboxing friend. after that if he wants to hang with you - good sign. if he dont pull away when you touch his arm for that little bit longer than necessary - good sign. if he touches your arm for that little bit long than is necessary - bingo.

12 years ago

I have that problem with my dad...its frustrating not being able to come out to someone you share a bond with. But how can you come out to someone who told your own mother he'd lop off your head if your gay!!!(but thats just me) (in your case) If you feel comfortable about coming out to him because he seem trustworthy, then by all means suck it up and get over it. The worst that could happen is, he gonna call you a 'fag', probably tell his friends-makes jokes etc, But if he's the good friend you know he'll stick around and who know's y'all may even hit it off lolz

12 years ago

you could try getting a hard on and when he look say do you like it ?

12 years ago

if i tell him im gay he wont have a problem with it and if i slap his butt hi will think he is funny and he will laugh.he weighs 105lbs but his butt is so round and sexy.. my problem is how do i go from slapping his butt to making out with him and eventually having sex. any ideas?

1antoniomac
1antoniomac
12 years ago

i agree with toby slap his butt lol.............but really you should find out how he feels about gay guys (Privately some guys act different around others) you dont need to straight out and tell him just ease him into it..........but wat do i kno im just a 19 year old black kid.........gud luck man

12 years ago

first thing are you both 18 and you can tell if he like in a diffrent way but that does not mean he gay just if he hold you tight or slap your butt if just a mate thing i would say have pop round and sit and chat tell that your gay and see what his view are on gay if he a mate he undrestand if he run to the loo he not sure if he go stright to the door and run like the wind does me he upset he may try to come to term of been gay him self just take time to think it thourh dont just rush be am ate and thing will not happen if there ment to do so love is complate so i say just be a mate see how it go dont rush you end up in a mess i all way do this way been a mate and the gay god all way has shine on me so hope this help will see what other think so bee happy and gay love to all from boytalk

12 years ago

first thing are you both 18 and you can tell if he like in a diffrent way but that does not mean he gay just if he hold you tight or slap your butt if just a mate thing i would say have pop round and sit and chat tell that your gay and see what his view are on gay if he a mate he undrestand if he run to the loo he not sure if he go stright to the door and run like the wind does me he upset he may try to come to term of been gay him self just take time to think it thourh dont just rush be am ate and thing will not happen if there ment to do so love is complate so i say just be a mate see how it go dont rush you end up in a mess i all way do this way been a mate and the gay god all way has shine on me so hope this help will see what other think so bee happy and gay love to all from boytalk

12 years ago

first thing are you both 18 and you can tell if he like in a diffrent way but that does not mean he gay just if he hold you tight or slap your butt if just a mate thing i would say have pop round and sit and chat tell that your gay and see what his view are on gay if he a mate he undrestand if he run to the loo he not sure if he go stright to the door and run like the wind does me he upset he may try to come to term of been gay him self just take time to think it thourh dont just rush be am ate and thing will not happen if there ment to do so love is complate so i say just be a mate see how it go dont rush you end up in a mess i all way do this way been a mate and the gay god all way has shine on me so hope this help will see what other think so bee happy and gay love to all from boytalk

12 years ago

first thing are you both 18 and you can tell if he like in a diffrent way but that does not mean he gay just if he hold you tight or slap your butt if just a mate thing i would say have pop round and sit and chat tell that your gay and see what his view are on gay if he a mate he undrestand if he run to the loo he not sure if he go stright to the door and run like the wind does me he upset he may try to come to term of been gay him self just take time to think it thourh dont just rush be am ate and thing will not happen if there ment to do so love is complate so i say just be a mate see how it go dont rush you end up in a mess i all way do this way been a mate and the gay god all way has shine on me so hope this help will see what other think so bee happy and gay love to all from boytalk

12 years ago

first thing are you both 18 and you can tell if he like in a diffrent way but that does not mean he gay just if he hold you tight or slap your butt if just a mate thing i would say have pop round and sit and chat tell that your gay and see what his view are on gay if he a mate he undrestand if he run to the loo he not sure if he go stright to the door and run like the wind does me he upset he may try to come to term of been gay him self just take time to think it thourh dont just rush be am ate and thing will not happen if there ment to do so love is complate so i say just be a mate see how it go dont rush you end up in a mess i all way do this way been a mate and the gay god all way has shine on me so hope this help will see what other think so bee happy and gay love to all from boytalk

Toby19
Toby19
12 years ago

yeh a great idea, just slap his butt and if he doesnt punch you in the face then you know your in for a fun time.... seriously though.. how well do you know him, because if you know him really well and if he is a good friend it shouldnt matter to him, and you can take it from there. if he has a problem with it then he wasnt the friend you thought he was but at least you will be out to him..... just dont do it in the locker room, if you must then at least let him get dressed first....... slapping his ass or waving your cock in front of his face is not the best way to say your gay....