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Coming Out

peterjohn Blog Last Activity 11 years ago 601 views 8 comments
Well after 22 years of no one knowing i have came out to 5 people this week as bi. I thought it would give me relief from being fake for so long but has made things a little strange. How does it go from here?

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11 years ago

I came out at 14 and always wondered why I waited so long.

peterjohn
11 years ago

Thanks All. A update. Out to 6 friends now and the hard part 1 family member. That was last night and harder than i thought. Not the reaction i hoped for but not horrible. Good luck all

senip
11 years ago

I am in the proceeds of coming out myself , i have told six of my closest friends . Two of which were the beginning of the week and one was about 3 hours ago . Have to say , they have all been absolutely brilliant about it . I feel so much better about myself already ,i dont have to go on living a lie anymore and being careful about how i act or what i say to people . I feel full of confidence at the moment and totally relaxed about who i am . Hope all goes well for you . It has taken me a long time to do this but somehow you know when it is the right time . Take care buddy.

11 years ago

My 2 cents is be who you are. I have never felt the need to advertise who I am or my sexual prefrence to my non sexual friends. My parents are both dead and I dont have any family. So I guess things are different for me. I travel a lot and dont have any close relationships. In high school, I was known for being a walking penis. My cock grew to full size when I was about 13 and in Gymn class or at swim meets when you are in the locker room with a soft 7 incher guys tend to notice (yes even the straight ones I was a skinny kid so it looked even bigger) So it wasnt long before people wanted to go out with me. By junior year I was my full height and had filled out so it was much easier to get laid. I basiclly fucked anything that moved. Guys girls, some I wasnt too sure of. But when I was out with friends I never found it necessary to proclaim I liked it both ways. In the Army I didnt either, The "Dont ask dont tell" was a stupid rule but I tell you this when the bulletts start whizzing by everyone is equal! Sexuality doesnt even enter into the mix nor does your sex organs. Your just soldiers. Nothing makes our problems at home seem more trivial than the sound of a round passing your head by inches.

When I came home and started to travel I just didnt feel it necessary to meet somone in a diner or a hotel/motel and say "Hi I'm Tommy I just got home from Iraq and I'm Bisexual. Believe me if I am looking for sex and you attract me and I believe you feel the same male or female you will know that I have you in my sights. Otherwise my sexuality is none of anyones business.

Now that being said if I meet a guy and fall deeply into that once in a lifetime love and want to get married then obviously people will know. But still I dont think I need to wear a T-shirt.

Forgive me if I have offended anyone, I am just not a Walker on a picket line with a sign. I feel I fought for freedom, and that gives me the freedom to choose also.

11 years ago

Congrats buddy. I wish I could tell you how it goes from here, but I honestly have no clue. I hope that it all works out for the best. Danny

scotty96
11 years ago

i havent come out completely yet either but i did tell 2 people, my mom and my best friend and it feels really good to have done that (even tho they both told me they already knew lol). I am going to be out completely when i can move someplace better to be gay.

onlyinvegas
11 years ago

you will no who your friend really are. and you can be yourself. enjoy your new life

deckerd
11 years ago

Well done Pj you have taken the first big step, now go on and enjoy your sexuality. I am sure every thing will be OK. I have requested friendship. Take care Derek in sunny England XX