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Crazy, Mean exes.

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I was thinking I can't be the only one on here that has had a mean or crazy ex. Everyone has to have some kind of crazy/mean story. I was in a relationship for 3 years and my ex was genuinely crazy. Really crazy. But when you love somebody you put up with the mean side and the crazy side, well I did anyway. My ex didn't seem the least bit crazy until we moved in together. I mean I expected little crazy things like not leaving the porch light on all night, grocery shopping at 11 pm, only using super unleaded gas for the car. Boy I was in for a huge suprise. Usually any arguments happened over the phone and would be taken care of over the phone also. I will always remember my first argument after we had moved in together. My ex got mad and burned my favorite picture of us and then dropped it on the floor while it was still burning. It should have clicked in my mind- this person is crazy. But it didnt. That was just the beginning of everything. The next arguments eventually led to me having my face smashed against the wall in our room, being punched, pushed, locked in the bathroom with the lights off, and spat on. I was never one to physically abuse the one I loved, I just did not do that.
One time, I had a bad day, I was tired and emotionally drained. It took all of my might to not fight back when I was pushed. I almost did and my ex saw that I almost did. My ex egged me on, told me to quit being a ***** and hit back. I snapped and did. I felt bad after, and was so guilty that I was the one aplogizing at the end.
I should have ended it there, but you do stupid things when you are in love.
My ex cheated on me, and I found out and ended it. I felt betrayed and when I started packing, the first things I moved were the precious TV's. That was my revenge in my own little way. My ex found out that I was leaving and came home from work to "beat my ass" (as I was told). I ended up leaving half my stuff there because I didnt have it in me to fight anymore. My ex took great pleasure in destroying my stuff. After of course attempting to run me down with the car while I was walking down the street to my parents house.(totally serious) I guess the message im trying to say is, if you are being hit, pushed, punched or assaulted in a relationship then you need to get out of it now. It only gets worse as time goes on. Dont be stubborn like me and think that they love you because if they loved you, they wold not hit you. I do not regret for one minute what happened because life lessons teach you amazing things. ( I should write a book huh lol.) If you read all that thank you for listening, its nice to get things out that I have held in for so long.

Danny

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11 years ago

Thank You, hopefully one day I will find true love.

11 years ago

first off i would like too say i think you are an awesome person too be able too have the strength too get out of an abusive relationship, that is a real tuff thing too do. i here storys like this sometimes and thank god i never had too put up with that . now i am 48 i have had a few relationshipos but honestly , most were pretty normal , soo my heart goes out too you and i pray you find true love , someone who will apreciate you , and love you, huggs too you and be safe

JohnnyBoy20012
11 years ago

Your welcome, remember people here are like one big happy family. We all love you buddy.

11 years ago

Thank you guys.

11 years ago

I am so sorry you had to go through that. You should never put up with abuse but that is so easy for me to say looking from the outside in, love is truly blind. I am sure you did every thing you could to try to make it work. He sounds like someone that needs to be in jail because he will do it again, he is an abuser plain and simple. He gets off on fear pain and the feeling of power. Again I am so very very sorry you had to endure that, I felt like crying as I read your blog. You should have a partner that respects you first and foremost, without respect there can never be love. Never let physical attraction blind you. I truly wish that you find happiness and a partner that respects and loves you with all his heart till the end of time. That goes for the rest of you also , My dear Andy, Johnny.

11 years ago

Andy, Danny, Johnny...my heart aches whenever I here these stories. It breaks my heart and like kokswallow I just want to hold you in my arms. Love leads us to let things happen in our lives that when we look back, we wonder why. And while there was great pain, don't let love not come into your life again. Be wary, but don't let the pain of the past determine the path of your future. There are loving people in this world. Waiting to love and to be loved by another. When you meet that person, let them in slowly and carefully. Hugs to all of you....Thomas

11 years ago

Thats bad, you deserve better! I should have seen the signs early on but I didnt. You will find your special someone! Danny

11 years ago

Thats bad, you deserve better! I should have seen the signs early on but I didnt. You will find your special someone! Danny

johnnybegood
11 years ago

Trust me I had an ex that tried to stab me with a knife, and hit me upside my head with a laptop and kicked me in the ribs and alot of emotional trama. When I found out she cheated on me, I tried to kill myself, she told me that I was in a state of dilussion and told me I was a Fag. Welp, I got seriously depressed and carved Faggot into my arm and it took away some of my pain and I leanred she was not worth it and now I decided to become bi and keep my options open for someone. You soul mate should not be defined by genitals. I believe you find someone and if you click its ment to be. I belive you can fall for someone man or women. But, I am traveling on another road, point is, dont get to the point I did cause its not worth it, if you get as bad as I did, ask for help!

11 years ago

Aww, I'm sorry Andy. You wiill find the perfect one! -Danny

nate88
11 years ago

Me too Danny. I got HURT - BAD, CRUSHED was more like it. To this day, I'm still shakey to establish a relationship. 1- don't want to get hurt again. 2- Stilllooking for my true life mate. Till then, I hang close with my fuck buddies. Andy

11 years ago

Thanky you, yes it still hurts when I tell them as well. Thank you. I appreciate it- Danny

Sneed
11 years ago

I know these tales aren't uncommon. Still hurts to read though. I hope you have a bright future ahead Danny. Everyone has a rough spot. But your sunshine must always come from within. Eventually, someone will want to share it and theirs with you. Good luck, best wishes.

11 years ago

lol. Yes Ive had alot of nice things happen along with the bad. This happened quite a while back, so its not recent. I just wanted to share though, hopefully it can help somebody who is going through this right now in their lives. Thats all I hope for.

Yes everything has made me stronger, I would rather it happened and I learn from it now than later on in my life. Sometimes its good to learn life lessons when you are young.

JohnnyBoy20012
11 years ago

Danny I glad to listen. What a sad story. I am crying right now because of it. I am sorry you had to go through this but it seems that you got stronger because of it. Remember you can always talk to me about anything. Big hugs to you. I know you need them.

11 years ago

OMG Danny! Have you EVER had anything nice happen in your life???? I just want to scoop you up in my arms and take you away from all these bad things and hug you for ever!!!!You deserve so much more out of life my friend.