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How did your mother/father react when you came out. How did other family members react? If you are uncomfortable telling in a blog, you can email me also.
I know its a very personal subject but I was just wondering. Did they react the way you thought they would? I imagine telling my mother sometimes but I know it would change our relationship for the worst. I like our relationship the way it is now. I am bisexual but I have heard family members say its impossible to be bi, you have to like one or the other. Plus my brothers are dicks already. If they knew,it would be worse. We used to be close as kids but we are total opposites, he smokes- I hate smoke, He likes rap- I hate it,etc etc. Actually all of my siblings and my mother have went through a lot of bad stuff. Especially in my childhood. Ive told a few people,never any family members. Its just that when ever I bring up the past, my mom acts as if wasnt a big deal. I love my mother to death, she is amazing and these past two years our bond has grown a lot. Part of me just hates the fact that she didnt do more to better protect us as kids. I dont understand why. I mean, as a parent, isnt it your job to protect your kids. To protect them from abuse,verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse. As a kid, my parents were divorced, but neither of them were good at showing and speaking their emotions. Their parents never did it and so they didnt either. I dont think they did it intentionally they just didnt know what it was like to do that. They didnt notice that they werent even doing it. My siblings seem to have erased the last 17 years from their head. They never talk about it. Everything that has happened has made me paranoid about everything. If I ever have kids I don't know what I would do. I don't think I would trust anyone to watch them other than me. Not that they would intentionally harm my kid,its just in my head I am always like what if. I guess its because I know if I did have a kid,and if anyone were to hurt or disrespect them, I believe I would go off. I guess I am scared of me not being able to protect them from the world. So many people do horrible things to kids and it terrifies me. Me and an old gf were engaged when we found out she cold not have kids. It was ok with me. I told her we cold always adopt. All that matters is your love that you have to give. She ended up talking to her mom about it. Her mom told her not to do it because she would never accept someone who wasnt blood related. But if you knew your daughter couldnt have kids and wanted them, wouldnt ou at least want her to be happy?
Enough of my rant, I have went off on several different things here but it wouldnt be oe of my blogs if I didn't - Danny
I know its a very personal subject but I was just wondering. Did they react the way you thought they would? I imagine telling my mother sometimes but I know it would change our relationship for the worst. I like our relationship the way it is now. I am bisexual but I have heard family members say its impossible to be bi, you have to like one or the other. Plus my brothers are dicks already. If they knew,it would be worse. We used to be close as kids but we are total opposites, he smokes- I hate smoke, He likes rap- I hate it,etc etc. Actually all of my siblings and my mother have went through a lot of bad stuff. Especially in my childhood. Ive told a few people,never any family members. Its just that when ever I bring up the past, my mom acts as if wasnt a big deal. I love my mother to death, she is amazing and these past two years our bond has grown a lot. Part of me just hates the fact that she didnt do more to better protect us as kids. I dont understand why. I mean, as a parent, isnt it your job to protect your kids. To protect them from abuse,verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse. As a kid, my parents were divorced, but neither of them were good at showing and speaking their emotions. Their parents never did it and so they didnt either. I dont think they did it intentionally they just didnt know what it was like to do that. They didnt notice that they werent even doing it. My siblings seem to have erased the last 17 years from their head. They never talk about it. Everything that has happened has made me paranoid about everything. If I ever have kids I don't know what I would do. I don't think I would trust anyone to watch them other than me. Not that they would intentionally harm my kid,its just in my head I am always like what if. I guess its because I know if I did have a kid,and if anyone were to hurt or disrespect them, I believe I would go off. I guess I am scared of me not being able to protect them from the world. So many people do horrible things to kids and it terrifies me. Me and an old gf were engaged when we found out she cold not have kids. It was ok with me. I told her we cold always adopt. All that matters is your love that you have to give. She ended up talking to her mom about it. Her mom told her not to do it because she would never accept someone who wasnt blood related. But if you knew your daughter couldnt have kids and wanted them, wouldnt ou at least want her to be happy?
Enough of my rant, I have went off on several different things here but it wouldnt be oe of my blogs if I didn't - Danny
But everyone's story will be different. Religion, age, education levels, all play a part in how it will go. I tend to agree with Johnny, that doing it when you are independent is safer...I work with our local LGBT center and 35% of the youth in our programs, came out and now have no permanent home. They are referred to as coach surfers.