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The last few weeks I have had a sense of estrangement or disconnect from the community here. I communicate with my friends and them with me, but it somehow has felt empty to my inside. And I do not blame my friends or the community. It is probably my own over sensitivity to tone and actions. Or just the early stages of old age.
I have shared more of my life here than I have with anyone else in the world. Including my class mates at I pursued by masters in psychology, which included an awful lot of sharing. I don’t regret having shared any of it. And if, in some way by sharing it helped someone see their own life better, I am a better person for having done it. But at the same time, I often feel that I don’t fit here. Maybe it is the age thing…hell for many of you I am as older than your parents and could be as old as your grandparents. And at the same time, you all make my feel young again. And your acceptance of me as a friend has been remarkable.
I realize I am rambling here, perhaps I am in a stream of conscious moment, but I don’t have another place to put today. I don’t have a place to share that I am comforted by the friendships here….and at the same time feeling dislocation. And maybe it is because, here, I always try to be the strong caring supportive listening person….and today…I needed someone to listen to me.
So, I am going to post this. It is a rambling and incoherent thing, but I needed to get it out of my mind and as the Gestalt would say….PUBLISH IT.
So thanks for reading…comments not expected, required or needed.
Thomas
I have shared more of my life here than I have with anyone else in the world. Including my class mates at I pursued by masters in psychology, which included an awful lot of sharing. I don’t regret having shared any of it. And if, in some way by sharing it helped someone see their own life better, I am a better person for having done it. But at the same time, I often feel that I don’t fit here. Maybe it is the age thing…hell for many of you I am as older than your parents and could be as old as your grandparents. And at the same time, you all make my feel young again. And your acceptance of me as a friend has been remarkable.
I realize I am rambling here, perhaps I am in a stream of conscious moment, but I don’t have another place to put today. I don’t have a place to share that I am comforted by the friendships here….and at the same time feeling dislocation. And maybe it is because, here, I always try to be the strong caring supportive listening person….and today…I needed someone to listen to me.
So, I am going to post this. It is a rambling and incoherent thing, but I needed to get it out of my mind and as the Gestalt would say….PUBLISH IT.
So thanks for reading…comments not expected, required or needed.
Thomas
Have a great day Tolead
I had a day where I didn't feel good about me. We all have them. I usually just journal and move on. Yesterday, it stuck with me. In my background, when it is stuck, you share it in what I learned as a safe container. A place with people that you trust, so that you can let the issue out...as I said in the Gestalt view it is called publishing. So I did that. And as the day went on, I revised and shared more about why and how I felt that way. And I got more feedback. And I appreciate all of it, and I do mean all of it.
So today, where am I. First I am humbled by what many of you said. Second, I feel free of the weight that I created for myself. When arrick1993 said "Thomas, I think you are one of the most revered and respected members of our community." first I was embarrassed and then I felt proud...but with that came that part of my issue was that I was presenting only part of my self. I am just a regular guy...with a few years under his belt...but still none the less just a regular person. And, I needed this community to know that. I come with the same fears, blemishes and issues we all have....and sometimes, I am not wise...sometimes I need the wisdom of others.
So I thank you all for helping me through a crappy day....And now...I need to get busy...I have some porn to watch :) Thomas
BTW, I know how you feel when looking in the mirror, I have a very young mind, it's just the bloody shell thats getting old and tatty (lol).