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Try and plan to do something good for yourself this year turn the bad memories into good ones. Dont allow anyone to hold dominion over you, take back your feelings and turn them into happy ones. I know all that sounds easy and i know it is not, but only you can do it. Good luck the holidays are an amazing time of the year when people seem to be at thier kindest and most generous and its only fair you are able to be part of that. best wishes

Aww buddy I think I know what happened since you told me alot about your life. Buddy my best bet is to try to move forward and try to keep the past behind. This time of the year is to have a great time so don't let the past bring you down. If this is something that you have yet to tell me feel free to talk online about it. I will be glad to.listen to you. Danny I am free for a bit tonight if you want to chat if not catch me Wednesday since I should be free then. Danny keep you head up high and don't let it hurt you. Big hugs to you.

First of all Danny I want to thank u for being brave, leaving ur comfort zone and opening up and telling the world about what u went through. I admire u for doing so. The first step in mending a broken heart is to share ur experience with others. It's necessary that u do this so pls don't feel badly that u may be bringing others down. That's what good friends are for. That's why we are here for u. To share in ur pain, give u an understanding shoulder to cry on, and to help lift u up. We've all been through it. It's why we support each other. Because we ALL need to break down and get it out of our systems from time to time. Sometimes we need to do this over and over again before the pain becomes managable.....because the pain is so great. When I read ur story I just wanted to hold u in my arms in friendship and let u cry urself to sleep....and assure you that it does...and will get better in time Danny. It doesn't help that ur heart was broken during the holidays, but it doesn't hurt any less, nor do u think about it less when it happens during any other time of the year. There would have been different triggers during that time that would be constantly reminding u of ur great loss. Ur pain is so great because ur love and happiness was so great at the time. However in order to find such wonderful happiness and love it's necessary to trust someone so much that u are willing to open up completely and let them hold ur precious heart in their hand. You did the right thing Danny. You did exactly that. You found someone special that was worth taking a chance on to find that happiness with and allowed urself to be vulnerable to whatever lies ahead. This time it didn't work out. No matter how much u loved him, if he at some point discovers that he cannot love u back just as much in return, then reaching the pinacle of love together was not possible for either of u. To choose to never let anyone get that close to u again is to choose a lifetime without great happiness and love.....to choose a lifetime of bitterness and scorn for others. Your much too sweet of a boy to go there. Often finding that special someone is not easy, and ur deep desire to find 'him' soon makes the wait seem like forever. But I promise u Danny that if u believe in urself and that Mr. Right is out there.....if you continue to be the sweet and special person that u are, in time, u will find 'him'....or he will find you, because he will be able to see the light of ur soul shining brightly. You are a sparkling jewel Danny....a flame that will light up someones heart like a roman candle someday and give them unimaginable happiness and love....and they in return will do the same for u my friend, and all this pain will become nothing more than a faded and distant memory. Believe and stay positive Danny. You never know who is watching you from afar and sees ur flame....and great possibilities for lasting love. BIG (((HUGS))) to you Danny. :Dennis

I can only imagine what it must have been like for you, I have only been though a couple of “breakups” and I am not sure that would even be the right word as the relationship was not really there to begin with. In both cases it was more of a relief and a chance to move on so I was not in the deep relationship you obviously were in so I did not experience anything like it. Having said that Thomas is quite right, you can not let the past define your future. I wish I had some good advice on how to accomplish that but I don’t, just keep trying and be tough, don’t give in to depression.

Danny....we all hold things from our past as memorials of where we have been. And I know that it was a thing that ripped your life open....and it is not wrong to remember...but do not let it, or him...or anyone else define you....you are a your own person...and you will find love again...and it is not a question of if...it is a question of when...and in time...it will become a thing that does not drag you down...but rather only a part of you that let you grow into the person you are now...kind, caring and loving....Hugs my friend...Thomas xxooxxoo

It sounds as if you were understandably very upset at the break up of a relationship rather than the death of a relative? If so I think you need to move on after a while especially as you are still young. Take comfort from the fact that the one you lost was not the only one in the world who was right for you... you cannot really believe that among the millions of people it was miraculously arranged that you should meet the only perfect partner (which he or she was not anyway)... get out there and find someone else worthy of your love but remember he will not be perfect either.

What exactly hapened on that day? its not to clear from what u've written - was this a reltionship or yr parents? (or someting else?)