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I understand how you feel. As a very sensitive person, I dealt with allot of bullying when I was younger and I learned just how bad the human spirit can be. Over time I learned that it was not worth the time or effort to love or even to like someone, not to let anyone get to close to hurt me again. While that "armor" protected my feelings it also reinforced a wall behind which I hid for many years. But it was only with time that I learned that none of us can live alone and that was what I would end up being if I was so afraid of being hurt that I never took the time to see how wonderful people can be. It is only through love and loss that we grow into the people we are to become. To deny half of that equation will only make you less than everything you can be. There is a quote I heard a few years ago that is as true now as it was then: There is a greater darkness than the one we fight. It is the darkness of the soul that has lost its way. The war we fight is not against powers and principalities, it is against chaos and despair. Greater than the death of flesh is the death of hope, the death of dreams. Against this peril we can never surrender. The future is all around us, waiting, in moments of transition, to be born in moments of revelation. No one knows the shape of that future or where it will take us. We know only that it is always born in pain

Pretty much what Thomas says is right on. Couldn't have said it better.

Cole...my heart goes out to you. And I know it hurts, the break up hurts and the comes the protective mode...and then the feeling that you are alone.....and you will let someone in again....but take time for you....don't let the loneliness of today rush you into filling that void....love will find you....I am a believer in that you don't find it...it finds you....take each day as a new adventure....don't see your friend as a new boy friend...just accept him as a friend...have fun...but don't go into it with the thought that it should be or could be the next relationship....Hugs ....Thomas xxooxxoo

Message me - Andy xo

thanks for the feed back guys, I have major trust issues as a result I'm very hard to get to know personally. and I feel every time I open up to someone they use it to hurt me. I don't seem to have a problem moving on from a break up. just after I put up walls and I don't want to trust people again. and become very lonely. this is where I am right now. A week ago I was in bad shape because of my ex and I broke up a few weeks before that Well yesterday a friend I haven't heard from for a long time called me and we've been chatting I like him a lot and he likes me. but I'm afraid to get to close to him because I've heard rumors that he uses people and then dumps them I know just my luck but I really like him he's so much fun to be around... idk what to do... I'm afraid and confused I don't think I could stand another let down for a while cuz I've had 2 bad relationships just the last few months...

i fell in love with a girl..it was great...sex was a big part of it..after 2.5 years...debbie said..mike it be over....it hurt me but ..i was ready for a guy...we stayed friends for a while..she moved away..

Life can be cruel and unforgiven, but you get over it, doesnt mean that it wont hurt, but time is a good healer. You may fall in love again, embrace it for what it is. Letting people in through your barriers does leave you open to maybe getting hurt, but you cant love someone with them closed, you just put it down to experience, good or bad.

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