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I really appreciate all the replys you guys have put here, it has made me feel really lucky to have such nice friends on here, words cant express how I feel, but thanks again.

hi scott....just be yourself,and be greatful that your able to spend time with the person,make them laugh,tell jokes of stupid things you did,you will both laugh.....hugs and kisses from Billyxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxox

your personal thing as long you want to share it. up to you. hugs BSB

It's natural for your emotions to be in rollercoaster mode at the moment, especially if you've never experienced the loss of a loved one before. Death is something that most of us have difficulty coming to terms with as it's not something that we experience very often.
You say below that you don't know what to say. I guess you mean when talking the person who is dying. My advice is; talk to them as you normally would. Try not to let their imminent departure get in the way of your relationship. Cherish every second that you spend with him/her. They will appreciate that. In the modern world, we are very bad at coping with death. It has been sanitized and taken a step away from us, yet it is a natural part of life and something that we must all experience at some point on our journey. Take heart from knowing that lots of your friends here are holding your hand, at least spiritually, and will be here to support you whenever the burden becomes great.
Take care, stay strong. We will be here for you.
Steve xx

Your pain is shared by those who know...the process of ultimately dealing with loss is different for each, but similar are steps from denial to anger, depressiion, acceptance. Read Larry McWilliams or Helen Kubler Ross and they will help you through this too...Peace

Thanks guys, for all your kind words and support, its difficult in knowing what to say.

hey Scott, i feel for you and i send you all my love to comfort and support you.

My brother died two years ago and it was so difficult. Feel free to contact me my beloved Scott, i luv you and I'm at your disposal. Joel

Scott....we all process it differently. And it is completely normal to have your emotions run from top to bottom and back again. Death is never easy. And we are never really prepared. Take time for yourself during this period. You can only support him if you can support yourself. Reach out to those close to you, lean on them. As Randy says, it is a part of life, not the part that most of us gain any real experience in dealing with. Share your feelings with the person, let them share with you. Cry together.....laugh together....remember together. I wish I could offer an easy answer. But the journey is different for each person. If you need to talk....you know you have friends and family here. Whether on a blog, a pm or a chat. You are not alone. And it is hard. Take my hand, and squeeze it hard. Thomas

you are being very normal. death is a very strange thing if you don't see a lot of it. it's quite natural...and is part of life. if sum1 is afraid of death then they are afraid of life as well.
my thoughts are with you scott... hang in there
big hugs!!

Your in a good place my friend because im sure many will help. Emotions are funny things and can be set off by the slightest thing.I cant say ive lost anyone for sometime but if i could give any advise i would try to prepare yrself for that final day so you dont just fall apart.
Be with family as much as you can so you can deal with it together and not on yr own.

I DO UNDERSTAND. Allyou can do is be there with caring and SUPPORT - Andy