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lubemine Blog Last Activity 11 years ago 598 views 13 comments
Im an older guy whose been in the closet all my life.....its too late to come out now. So good to read about you younger guys who have much more freedom to be yourselved!!

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11 years ago

Thanks wisdomkpr x

wisdomkpr
wisdomkpr
11 years ago

DD I understand about work but why should they need to know? The people at mine dont know and frankly its not something most of them are concerned about. They, like the rest of us, are just to busy with living. I would suggest sharing it only with the poeple you love and trust. It is what makes you, you and that is something that the people who love you the most, including your son, should understand and be accepting of. I think being 45 and a single dad takes allot of guts anyway so you might find telling your friends and family allot easier :)

senip
senip
11 years ago

Im not one of the youngest people on here and i have only just come out . Everybody knows now , and like others have said before me , it is like a great weight being lifted from your'e shoulders . Good luck with whatever you decide to do .We are all behind you .

11 years ago

Cheers mike 1946 x

11 years ago

dd80.....you are concerned about your paycheck....not a minor detail..not cowardly at all...good luck..

11 years ago

Im 45 and single parent, my son turning 18 soon. Im ready to come out but not rushing into it, i think my son already knows and not really bothered about others knowing, the only things that does bother me is there is people with homophobic attitudes that i have to work with, am i just a coward?

wisdomkpr
wisdomkpr
11 years ago

My friend I am 45 and have only come out to my sibling and parents. When I told my family it was the most wonderful day of my life. I think my brother already new and mom suspected but it was wonderful to hear my dad say "You still ike beer right?" ahhh priceless. If anything it has allowed me to be much closer to my family and I wouldnt have traded it for the world. You might not feel comfortable yet coming out to the world but between family there is no obstacle or secret love cant overcome. Enjoy being you and let them see you for who you are, youwont be disappointed!!

11 years ago

It's never too late - although I am only young I have just come out to my parents and feel like a lead weight lifted from me.I can now live my life how I want to and even at your age I am sure you would feel similar.Staying in the closet is like living in a pressure cooker - come out to your friends and the steam will be released....good luck my friend.xx

stargeeyzer
stargeeyzer
11 years ago

All nice comments.....a new suggestion, there is a life that is now 50 or 60 years old..like me too the way you sound...we have all done something in the way of dating girls and guys, while some just know they are gay..well, if you tell everybody, good for you, especially at that age..i know, i've done it..i still hold out that hope that one day i might find someone to marry and have a child...Girl, ewww, i know, just kidding...I guess that i am truly bisexual in my mind, but when i find sex, it always seems to be gay...doesn't matter..do what you want, with whom you want, even when it feels good...we are all individual beings, and not stamped out from a factory.

mlant
mlant
11 years ago

I agree it is never to late. I am in the closet but it doesn't mean I will be in it forever. Coming out could be to one person or a few or the whole world, you would have to decide that. Take steps towards it and get there in the end, that is what I am doing.

Davey1965
Davey1965
11 years ago

Its never to late my friend . Once you do youll just wonder what all the worrying was all about haha. Just think that these are modern times and people are more liberal these days.

11 years ago

ok punk...the closet is sourounded...come out with your dick up...we want to probe you ...now..

11 years ago

I will be 60 this year. And truth be told I have been out for well over 30 years. But I will tell you it is never too late. To keep yourself from being your authentic self and being the real you is a liberating thing. So never think anything is too late. For it never is. Hugs...Thomas xxooxxoo