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gay in grade school in the 1950s...cold times...but the very best years of my life have been when i have been true to myself and to the people i know and love. The only way for me to eventually find satisfaction was to be open, also the only way to find lovers and true friends. Sometimes a move away from the familiar is required. Even a distance of a hundred miles from your home can make a big difference...it's good you're opening up here where you feel safe from discovery...keep in touch with this aspect of yorself.

Hi - I am a 20 year old who recently moved from a small town into a large city.Whilst at home I was unable to be myself and come out to folks (including family) for fear of being treated as some sort of freak.After moving to the city (San Francisco) I realised that it was my life and if people did not like the way I am then that's their problem not mine so I took the plunge and invited my parents up and told them.My mom was tearful,my pa was silent but thoughtful - now having time to digest that they will not get grandchildren from me they have been very supportive as has my cousin who I live with in SF (he is straight).
I suppose what I am trying to say is be true to yourself and who you are - people who genuinely like and love you will support you and those that do not are not worth your time.As has been said to you by Tolead if you want to chat privately then please don't be afraid to pm me as your current experience is what I have been through and come out the other side a better and more confident person.Lots of love xxx

i no what you are saying i new i was gay in grade school i was always attracted to guys but did not no wy but it not so bad i have more fun with guys so go have some fun and dont worrie aboutr it

I personally found that hiding myself from my loved ones was eating me up inside, my life was a lie. I was slowly dying. My body slowly filled with depression, anxiety and paranoia. I told myself that my friends and family would hate me. When it finally got too much I came out expecting the worst and it was the complete opposite. The only friends I lost was due to me pushing them away to protect myself, my paranoia had won and just over a year after coming out I'm still struggling with my depression. Basically what I'm saying is be honest, respectful, strong and proud of yourself and your friends and family will too. But also remember you've had time to accept and understand yourself so give them there time too. Good luck

Good luck with your new meaning in life, may your path be free and sweet

I'm happy for you. You can be gay, bi, straight, whatever so long as you're happy. You'll have to come out to your friends and family at your own pace. Friends aren't too bad, since you can pick and choose them. Family, however, is a bit tricky. I have only discussed my sexuality once with my mother, and the result wasn't bad or good. Families can get over things with time, though, so don't worry about them too much. Good luck with everything!

First, to reiterate what others haves. Be true to yourself. And by being true to yourself, you cannot and will not do harm to anyone. Families love their children and siblings. Yes, it may be a shock to them. Give them time. And a chance. But don't assume how everyone will react. Don't project your own, what appears to be internalized homophobia...take time to get yourself comfortable with where you are. If you want or need to talk, just pm me...Thomas xxooxxoo

its better fo rpeople to not like you for who you are...rather than have them like you for whom you aren't....your family will still love you..give them a chance...

Hi there!
I know how it feels and no matter how people will react, it's importnat to feel free and being who you are. Not how others want or like you to be.
My experience is that most of the time family reacts a bit shocked in the beginning, but afterwards are good with it and accept it.
For friends and other loved ones its a good way to filter who are the real friends and who aren't.
I don't know f this helps you in anyway, it's just how I feel it.
Being gay is not always easy, depends on where you live and how liberal people in your neighbourhood are.
But I know one thing, always be true to yourself, this is the only way you can enjoy your life to the fullest.
We don't know each other, but I wish you all the best and succes and you can be proud of yourself for taking this frst step!!

You can never psychologically harm anyone if your just being yourself. Thinking that your really Bi and not Gay could be whats upseting you. Gbt is a great place and your amongst friends here.
Dont tell yourself that being Gay has bad Connotations.You only feel that way because others have judged you or other Gays . Be proud of who you were born to be and then you will start to live a life of freedom and Happiness. We only just met but im proud of you talking about yr situation in these blogs. 8-)

Congratulations on figuring yourself out. Only you can make the desicion to tell others. A good friend told me today to "focus on the inside." As long as you are happy with the person that you are, then you don't have to fear the thoughts of others. Good luck in whatever you decide!