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austinpscottt Blog Last Activity 10 years ago 414 views 4 comments
<p>how do we deal when someone loses someone close,do we honor their grievement, or create some humour into their life, people create a blog for different reasons, people write replies, some are comforting, others may not be appropriate at that moment in time, but sometimes it may be that when you take a step back and view what they say, it might be this is the only way they can deal with the situation at hand. It is a big thing opening your heart on here on how you deal with your grief, because we are all different individuals, it can cause further heartache within, I know I lost my brother this year.</p>

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10 years ago

I always find myself to be a bit awkward in dealing with death and illness. I do think of the poem "Death is Nothing at All" by Henry Scott Holland. I try to remind people of their faith, whatever it may be, so that they may find strength and acceptance. Regardless of faith, the best things to do are cry (and cry as hard as you like), talk about the one you've lost, then remember them as they were. It's also important to gather with other love ones because you don't have to go through this alone.

10 years ago

I just remember them as they were, but cannot help feeling a sense of loss at not being able to do the things I used to do with them any longer... 2013 has certainly been a year for funerals, alas; 5 so far (probably a 6th very soon as a friend has just entered a hospice) ..What does piss me off are those who try to somehow make out their sense of loss is greater than everybody else.

10 years ago

Monday I just went through a celebration of life for my friends wife, who died of cancer very quickly at 52 yrs. old. The service was not a funeral, but a celebration. They had a TV with many pics of her and family, smiling and doing things they did in her life. My friend and one of his friends gave an overview of her life, at times choking back tears as we all did. Scott all you can do is give a hug, understand their pain, and help them to move on. Live life every day you young guys ..I have more days behind me, than ahead of me at almost 61. it's a lesson I learned in 1995 when I had a head on collision and the other driver died a month before his pension. Give of yourself, be kind, see the world, you are wealthy with friends not money.....THIS I HAVE LEARNED....hugz to ya Scott paparon xoxox

10 years ago

The only thing you can do if someone you know loses somebody... is make the person aware you are there for him or her and then give the person some personal time alone. Losing someone is not easy... I really do understand how it feels because the first partner I had I lost in a railway related accident. Yes I still miss him very much but I have had to move on which was the difficult part.

If the person does need comforting.. you will soon know and I am sure the offer of a shoulder to cry on will be greatly appreciated :)