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It seems that people have some kind of problem with the "bigger" guys

dailysexblog Blog Last Activity 10 years ago 1.3K views 48 comments
<p>I'm not trying to start anything with anybody, simply posting what I have observed, both online and in real life. For whatever reason, with the experience I have in the homosexual community, it seems to be a mainstreamed idea that those of us who are a little, say, huskier, are shunned from our more porcelian peers.</p>
<p>Granted, there is a large sector in our community that has a thing for huskier guys, but they are rather hard to find (in my experience).</p>
<p>I'd also like to say that I'm not just talking about attraction. From what I have experienced, people in our community seem to not even want to be around us "bigger" guys. They don't want to talk to us, or even really be seen with us. Why is that?</p>
<p>So, for all of you out there that don't have a thing for bigger guys, why? Is it simply an issue with attraction, that you're not in the least bit attracted to this kind of man, or is it something more?</p>

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gm4yngr
10 years ago

@2chill2trip - I'm glad you feel better about yourself now. If you don't like you, nobody else will. A few years ago I was up to 210# and wasn't happy about that, now I'm 185-190# and feel better about myself. Feeling good about yourself really does make others feel good about you.

10 years ago

wells this is on your profile ?????? I am by no means skinny and would not fit any kind of label that you would apply to me. I'm a chubbier guy and kind of hairy, and am working on MYSELF to accept the body that I have been given. If YOU cannot accept that, then I cannot accept you. SO WHO ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT???

Davey1965
10 years ago

This was a good subject dailysexblog and it was well worth posting.
Even tho there are silly comments from the same old people i hope
some of the comments you found interesting .We cant all be Smooth
twink types so we should respect all types of guys and wish them well
in there sex and love lives.

10 years ago

true and if not careful may get voted off the island lol!

10 years ago

One who posts a deliberately provocative message to a newsgroup or message board with the intention of causing maximum disruption and argument. Definition of troll from UrbanDictionary.com If the shoe fits, wear it. LOL ;--)))

dailysexblog
10 years ago

@oldaforyounger - where did I once say I was FAT and that we were talking about ME? I was simply asking a question about the general population of larger guys. I really find your comments hurtful, and if you actually took the time to properly read comments that I have made you would understand the scope of this conversation. I'm really surprised at the amount of ignorant comments that have been posted on this blog; a blog that started out as a simple question seems to have been blown way out of proportion. It's rather sad, really.

10 years ago

Billy Bunter? LOL I get it now. I read some of those when I was a kid, and they were ancient then. Now I know where you get your overweight guy with 40 hamburgers and deceitful behavior from. News flash Nick, Bunter is a fictional character, that means he's NOT real. But you know that don't you. You're trolling again, you need to stop, its so unbecoming. It seems you never agree with anyone, and when you do you must make some controversial comment. I swear you're doing this deliberately to get a rise from everyone. That's called trolling.

gm4yngr
10 years ago

@onlyinvegas - Very well said. One of my best friends is quite overweight, she is a selfless, loving, caring gal with a great sense of humor. Her old man is not a terrible guy, he is average build but somewhat grumpy, opinionated and selfish. I don't know how she puts up with him at times, guess she's just that good-hearted.

onlyinvegas
10 years ago

there is a difference between sexual attraction and friendship. Sexually I prefer a smaller thin guy. As for friends I look to see if the person is respectful, trust worthy and has a great sense of humor. there are other qualities as well. I can only speak for myself as to what i like in a friendship but size never enters into who I like as a friend. For the shallow out there ... well you have to live with what you think.

10 years ago

Btw don't start a convo with NickBlack , he is a troll he pulled the same crap on my old blog post , that I actually had to delete because there was to much arguing and trolling going on.

10 years ago

""BIGGER" GUYS" are not really my type but its perfectly fine to be big and beutiful.

gm4yngr
10 years ago

@cornchip, marshmont and batmanseeksrobin, you have all made good points, nice to hear from the three of you, thanks!

10 years ago

@nickblack.. excuse me??? overweight people are "fat slobs" I tend to be very tidy! you wrote "...is this really someone to take home and introduce to your Mother? ...is this someone possessing self control?...concern for others?...self discipline?...does this strike you as someone who has ever given a f*** about anyone other than himself and his own gratification? ....what fat people do not realise is you 'radiate' these qualities to others" .............WTF? wow THAT is probably the most hateful and inaccurate statement I've read on this site! You once again display your intolerance and stereotyping...but we all just accept from who it comes I guess. Pretty shitty attitude! we try to be kind towards people who are different here..I honestly think this board was a kinder place until you got here mate. give it a fuckin rest!

10 years ago

@marshmont - that is the point I was making...it is not being fat which is the problem...if a guy wants to be a fat slob that is his affair... but the personal qualities such a person must possess...Mr Billy Bunter, with a plate of 42 hamburgers in front of him, shoving them down his throat...probably talking with his mouthful...spraying mustard and bits of beef over everybody...calling out "gimme gimme more!! gimme more!!"...(getting almost orgasmic pleasure from the food)....does this sound like a nice sort of guy? ...is this really someone to take home and introduce to your Mother? ...is this someone possessing self control?...concern for others?...self discipline?...does this strike you as someone who has ever given a f*** about anyone other than himself and his own gratification? ....what fat people do not realise is you 'radiate' these qualities to others....(and I won't even comment on the sweating and stink and belching and waddling down the street)....but this is a free country - if this sort of person turns you on then go for it! ...to those criticising my accurate portrayal of fat people I have a challenge for all the fatties - stop eating for a week...(you have plenty of 'fat' to fall back on lol)...just stop eating until you drop 10 kilograms...what - no takers? ...too much like self control? ...too much discipline? ...too much self denial? (thought so! LOL!!)

cornchip
10 years ago

I guess we shouldn't be surprised at the stupidity and bigotry from some in the "straight" community when we find that same sort of stupidity, bigotry, and generalized prejudice within our own community. But, then, being gay is no guarantee of intelligence, as has been amply demonstrated by a few comments here.

To offer an opinion on the original question, though, we all have our preferences as to body-types we're attracted to. Some are quite narrow in their preference while others are only interested in whether he's still breathing :-) Some folks (straight, gay, bi, and everything in between) seem to be incapable of separating physical attraction from the simple act of making friends.

I pity those people, as they'll miss out on so much.

10 years ago

I love huskier guys!

gm4yngr
10 years ago

@Nickblack, I stated a FACT, I know some overweight and even obese people who are NOT selfish, greedy or self-centered. It is sad that you think you know exactly what EVERY overweight person is like. You say that you were giving him THE ANSWER. I say that you have giving your opinion. Saying that all "fat" people are the same is like saying that all gay people are the same. Maybe you need to travel away from your little island and meet more people in the world. Three days ago I posted a short observation, which is one possible reason that overweight guys are shunned. You have made your opinion painfully obvious. I know that you enjoy fueling blogs with your input. I'll check back on this blog to read the opinion of OTHERS. I have given mine, you have given yours, I'm glad that we are done. Looking forward to reading OTHER opinions.

10 years ago

Just so I know out of curiosity... how does being fat make one dishonest? I've never heard of that one, and probably most here haven't either. At least you have your "model" fat guy on a diet, in your first post he's eating 15 hamburgers and a side of beef, now it's down to 10 hamburgers and ice cream.

10 years ago

@gm4yngr - I hope I sound 'honest' to others, which I am...if you are looking for the usual politically correct lies you have come to the wrong chap.....Dailysexblog asks why fat guys are 'shunned' - why no one wants to be around them, wants to talk to them, or be seen with them.....and I was giving him the answer....or do you think large numbers gay men secretly lust after some selfish, greedy, self centred bovine creature stuffing themselves with 10 hamburgers and a pot of ice cream for breakfast? ....that everyone secretly wants to take an ugly fat guy home to meet their parents (and eat the parents out of house and home in a day)....that every cute twink wants their parents and friends to roar with laughter and ask "with your good looks, and after all the abuse you get for being a fag - is THAT the best you can do?" ...and I take issue with your contention that fat people are 'honest' - it simply isn't true; in the same way every alcoholic 'always has a story' so does every fat person.

10 years ago

we agree with what we are, and we have to accept ourselves and others do too ..not all people fit into the "cookie cutter" mentality of the media stereotypes. I'm me get over it folks ..or move on lol!

gm4yngr
10 years ago

@Nickblack, WOW! Ease up already. Maybe the "fat" people that you know are that way but I know some overweight people that are very sweet, honest and caring. I just had an overweight friend spend a week caring for me after my surgery. She stayed at my house the whole week. She ate less than me and was quite active. She is diabetic and I honestly believe that her genetics and medications are the reason that she is overweight. Her mother is very obese (built like a pumpkin), she is also a VERY SWEET, LOVING AND CARING person. You should read your last post and ask yourself how you sound to others.