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out to everyone and everyone i told more or less knew. told my parents when i was 16 and Mum said she knew anyway and my Dad said whatever and carried on watching TV lol. i guess the way i look and my slightly squeaky voice gives it away as well haha

I have never had any problems coming out to anyone in my life. Whether it is a friend, family member, or a work person. Everyone I ever told I was gay was excepting of it and supportive. I may have taken my parents a few years to come around to the idea of it, but they did and they did not make it horrible for me. Everyone has their own story, yours will be your own too. Good luck and hope it goes well.

its a minefield - growing up i thought it was obvious but my family were in denial i didnt feel the need to out myself - i minded my own business and did my own thing - why dont you have a girlfriend ? my reply was do i need one - the reaction was oh you cant form relationships so i said think about it and no one did - then i told my twin bro he said dont shout about it then my sis she was ok but dosent like to talk about it now shes religous and has connections in uganda as for parents no they are blissfully unaware so im better just being me in my own skin - giles

coming out is not the end of the world. it's facing the facts and reality that you are scared to death to share. why live your life in such great fear? it causes depression and stress at an age when life should be exciting and fun. i experienced a tremendous relief at age 18 after graduation when i told my parents. my siblings already knew, it is telling the rents that eats you up. it went bad. anger, hate, the whole bit. i cried, but you know the relief i felt...felt better than any pain they could try to inflict upon me. i was anxious to tell my closest friends. they could accept it or leave it, i was now being honest with myself and could take anything. i had the support of a bf which i'm sure made me so much stronger, but brought with it the cover up of a relationship that people saw an overnight change from best buds to lovers. that was hard for some people. my recommendation is to come out when your single. but do plan to do it, set a date and don't live in darkness for too long. at 23 now, i can't imagine the fun and openness i have felt the last 5 years.

I told my mum I was getting a divorce, I was in a happy loving relationship but my desires to be gay were too strong. mum asked me why? I said Mum i'm gay. oh are you sure? yes mum I've tested the theory and yes, yes I am.... oh ahhh ummm okayyyy..

Since I don't have "I AM GAY" tattooed on my fore head, coming out is ongoing. New social situations, new coworkers, etc. require me to make the decision to come out or not, or if people already know, to what extent do I express myself in terms of the "gay life". Generally, I'm reserved about it unless I'm around other GBLT people. If I had a partner, it would be hard for people to ignore, and I would probably be less reserved.

I wrote my experience elsewhere on the blogs.. but to give you an idea, my "parents" reacted diffrently. Mother accepted but I discovered she lied and said that I was 'filth' and Father just hated me more. But, as I said in the other post I'm not going to let that ruin me. I'm happy with who, and what I am and can now hold my head up high :)

After reading this one about my mate I'm interested in hearing everyone's, I'm also looking for ideas. After finding out my friend did it I want to do the same http://www.gaysurfers.net/2014/03/growing-up-in-ireland/