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SEX WITH JASE IS ALWAYS A COMPROMISE.

i think sex can sometimes be a compromise if both are not in the same mood. my partner knows there are no boundaries as to what and when he wants. it is his.

when i was younger i thought about sex all the time with high expectations that it would lead to life long partnerships and friendships but how wrong i was and got turned off from girls
because i wanted a guys (i am a twin) camaraderie ie friendship / companionship not romance or sentimentality - giles

Hi Nickblack.I completely agree with you . Sex with a sentimental involvement brings always – sooner or later – big relationship problems -.

haha , josh xD

BABYCOLFERS I UNDERSTAND THAT, BUT I HAVE TO BE IN LOVE WITH MY HAND FIRST. IT NEVER LETS ME DOWN.

Personally , I could only enjoy sex if its with someone I love , I don't know if its because I got a romance fetish but uh. Then again sex has never really been the focus of life for me , its been more enjoying being with someone that I can really connect to and doing things that give me pleasure , whether it be skiing , skydiving , or just playing a round of Mortal Combat with my boyfriend. :P in Conclusion , for me love and sex combined , is just one of the best feelings in the world.

SEX IS AN ADDICTION. A GOOD ONE TOO.

This may sound a bit odd....but I think the happiest gay relationships (or marriages, depending where you live) are those with the complete absence of sex - that you never, ever have sex with your partner leading to 'marital bliss' ...for sex you just shag vast numbers of cute guys at the sauna

In short you are an open minded kind of guy and well I agree with you. Although I am married I am not somebody's possession and neither is he

no darling, sex is a necessity lol

Good question. For me, sex is more than just sex... it's something special that happens. This will sound strange coming from me, but when I consent to sex with someone I love.. I feel that I am giving a part of myself up. To me, that is special because when you add love to the mix it makes it all that more special. I hope that makes sense? lol.

I'm a huge advocate for the principle and practice of enthusiastic consent. However many of missed interpretations of the partner makes me to try to re-define and re-think the ways and circumstances in which I want to have sex with.
I am in favor of non-monogamy so when I get involved with someone is just a mutual temporary consent of interest for both parties.
I admit that people can love each other’s. Mixing love with sex as a one feeling and a consequence is, for me, unthinkable.
Everyone is different from the others in their personalities, likings, reactions and so on.
I will never give up my freedom with a compromise just to do sex. Neither can I admit that someone can use sex to compromise myself. Even if you explain the rules for the act (especially if you repeat it) the partner can consider that you are compromised.
The partner psychological commitment and expectations it can be caused by endogenous or exogenous factors that I cannot know or control.
Then what to do?