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how to talk to people?

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<p>how to meet strangers? and to be confident when going up to someone you want to talk to?</p>

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TheBurrhead
TheBurrhead
9 years ago

did you ever see someone in social setting and wanted to say hi and didn't? I did many times. There was this one young man who was instant omg wow gorgeous. I wished I said hi and didn't, and never saw him again. couldn't stop thinking of him and what an opportunity I missed out on. Just be you, go say hi and if you get shot down nothing lost but a few words and some of your time...if you connect zowee! you have a new friend and maybe more...Don't miss out on any chances JUST DO IT!-Brillo

JohnnyBoy20012
JohnnyBoy20012
9 years ago

Just be yourself, when I meet people that I seem interested in then I just talk to them. Find out what there interested in an make conversations about topics that both of you share. It not that hard but the hardest part is controlling your nervousness. If you need help message me I be here to help you.

9 years ago

If you just keep doing it, it gets easier and better with practice, but don't wait. Also, consider that it could be a life time problem. I was always afraid of new people; still am. With courage, you can do and try anything. With two drinks, I discovered courage.

swiftjohn
swiftjohn
9 years ago

Have something to say. If you have nothing to say, say nothing. A wise man speaks when he feels he has something to say. A fool speaks when he feels he has to say something. But if there is someone you really want to meet and talk to, especially if he's got a nice butt and bulge, start out by paying him a compliment but make sure it sounds genuine and relevant to whatever circumstances you find yourself in. Or, if he's taking to a group of people, wait for an opportune moment to agree with him or else ask a question. People love the sound of their own voices and will look kindly upon you for having the wisdom for wanting to hear what they have to say. Things will pretty much take care of themselves from then on.

9 years ago

@jase. TY 4 the idea. Will ask U that if we ever hookup. Thing is, what will Logan think/say? :))

Davey1965
Davey1965
9 years ago

The worst think to do is always imagine u wont know what to say so yr anxiety will increase and youll turn on yr safety dome and stay quiet.
Talking to people needs to come naturally just like eating or driving a car.My advise if u meet a stranger is to just talk about what ever comes to mind.Dont try to come up with a long thought out sentence as that just complicates things for you.

9 years ago

Well.. you're doing great so far by talking to us all on here. I'm sure you'll be fine ;)

9 years ago

kinda, but sounds interesting. i never thought of that.

9 years ago

Now that would be fun.... I am yet to actually engage in exercise or use equipment at the gym, despite having been a member for 3 years - I just head straight to the showers in the hopes of a 'workout' lol ...(ugh! does that make me sound really lecherous?)

9 years ago

@nick, maybe i will see you someday. do say hello!

gm4yngr
gm4yngr
9 years ago

Do the friends that you're going with know how you feel? Maybe they can help you break the ice. Ask them to get the ball rolling then "ditch you" with new people.

9 years ago

@jase - I "only" talk to guys in the gym showers LOL

9 years ago

pretend like the guy just asked you if he could suck your dick. after the shock, think, well yeh, but lets talk first. seriously, idn, it comes natural for me to talk to anyone. i even talk to guys at the gym showers.

archangel616
archangel616
9 years ago

its one of the few things i still get nervous about and im going outta town with a few friends for a weekend soon, and i dont wanna be disappointed in myself later because i sat on the sidelines and didnt meet new people, if that makes some sort of sense. so im open to everyones opinions and help :)

9 years ago

It is often the case that 'the other fellow' is in the same boat - he is nervous about talking to you...never let an opportunity pass to meet someone interesting...just say "hello"

9 years ago

I have the same problem. I've learned to cope by keeping myself calm and just being myself. I keep telling myself "At the end of the day there's no need to be nervous. Just keep calm and talk." :)

gm4yngr
gm4yngr
9 years ago

That's a good question. Like anything in life, practice makes perfect. Maybe you should start by trying to talk to people that you're not really fond of. That should take some pressure off you. Practice on strangers everywhere, just say "where'd you get that shirt" or "is it supposed to rain today" or some such garbage. If you can find a common interest, continue to talk about that. By talking to people that you don't care about, you can practice without fear of rejection. You may even really welcome rejection, but you can learn from your mistakes. Who knows, you might even accidentally get to know somebody and want to talk to a person that you didn't think that you'd want to.

9 years ago

Ever thought of saying "Hello my name is ____" ? (that sort of thing often helps when meeting new people)

9 years ago

I apparently have "the social skills of a gnat", so I've been told anyway... I'm really interested in what people might say. Who knows, I might be able to upgrade to the social skills of a grass hopper.

9 years ago

ya I use to be the same way I just started out by saying Hi and go from there bro you just have to go up and say Hi it works It's hard at first but the more you do It the better you get hope that helps a bit man have a sweet night...

archangel616
archangel616
9 years ago

i dont have amazing social skills, so i always have trouble talking to new people, especially people i'd want to talk to. so how can i help solve it?