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Bisexual friend experimentation

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<p>I have a bisexual friend who i have known for some time now. He has hit on me a little but does not act disrespectful or overstep boundries as he thinks i am straight. I have recently been having thoughts that maybe i could try out some gay sex to see if i do like it. However im not overly attracted to him its more so the thought of doing it and experience rather than anything else. Im curious if this may ruin a good friendship, and whats the chances of him keeping my secret. i know its hard to judge without knowing someone but just a general opinion or past experiences would be helpful... Thanks</p>

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8 years ago

Trusgold1089 - Your hearts in the right place, however before jumping to your conclusions be aware that not everyone becomes automatically emotionally attached. Some people and even friends are happy just to have some fun. There was no leading on in this situation, we both knew what it was before we started anything. If i thought it was going to string him along i wouldn't have done it, i do have a heart. He was attracted to me but doesn't want any relationship, he has his own life and i have mine. We had fun and i learned some things about myself in the process... We would do it again for the hell of it...

trusgold1089
8 years ago

People are disposable nor are they around you to be used for experiment into your sexuality. You do that and you are leading him on and it;'s a good thing you asked because that is totaly wrongheaded. Hey can I USE you to see if I should find a guy to date. If he is your friend have a little respect for him and find some other prson to use and toss away after your eperiment.

8 years ago

Sweet! Glad it worked out ok for you both and now you have a new type of relationship. def worth a 5.

darkknightreturns
8 years ago

for the longest time I was str8 acting, so I thought, then bi with growing urges towards being gay. Everyone is different. Don't deny any feelings you may have to experiment, you are young and need to find and enjoy your sexual identity. Be you not what you expect society wants you to be. best of luck free yourself from doubts.

9 years ago

Lol... yeah mate i did talk to him... It came about one late night around the time i posted this blog... He was very nice to me that particular evening :-) I was honest with him and he liked me a hell of alot more for it... We shared a sexual experience, i wont get into the details but he did show me alot of attention and spend alot of time on me, particularly the lower part of my body... We are still friends and i'm glad it happened but it did change our relationship...

9 years ago

Ok, so what happened? Did you at least talk to him I hope.

Amyntas43
9 years ago

There is thin ice on this pool or crevasses in your snowfield. One false step, one revealing word and you can lose a friend. There is quite a literature on this (on Virtual Teen for example). A common 'way-in' seems to be to contrive a situation in which you invite him to watch straight porn but and see how his focus shifts from the lovely chick to the horny boy. It can be helped a long by such things as 'I wish mine was that strong/ large/ hard' So I'm told!

9 years ago

As other people have said here, this is a difficult situation and you need to be extremely careful. Your bisexual friend is obviously attracted to you, but you have no way of knowing how strong his feelings are. You say that you're not particularly attracted to him, so if you respond in a sexual way, you may provoke a situation that has a complex or even tragic outcome. Be careful not to play with his emotions in order to satisfy your curiosity. Sex is not a game, it gives rise to very real and enduring emotional and physical consequences. Friendship is a very precious thing, so don't spoil it for the sake of a few moments of pleasure. It would probably be safer for all concerned if you find someone who is openly and happily gay and experiment with him.

darkknightreturns
9 years ago

I'd ask him what it's like doing it with a guy and let him explain then tell him it sounds hot. See what he does or where it leads?

9 years ago

Yeah i think that will be the approach petrovskyv. We get along quite well and can talk without fear of being judged or what not. My only concerns with it all is the aftermath but i guess you cant live too much if you are always thinking what if... Ill put some feelers out next time and keep some room for moving/abandoning/modifying :-)

9 years ago

Perhaps some carefully thought-out talking between the two of you might be a way to begin? Perhaps a hypothetical...along the lines of "How would you react if someone you knew came out to you as gay? What if they wanted to get it on with you but it had to be a secret between the two of you?" Depending upon his response you could then decide what to do next, it would give you room to move/abandon/modify your position, without burning your bridges and perhaps losing his friendship. Keep it very general, nothing too specific.

9 years ago

that is a hard one but it could ruin the friendship good luck m8