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Being Called Gay
<p>A couple of weeks ago I was at the pool with a friend when a wasp landed on the sole of my foot. I quickly panicked because I'm terrified of wasps, bees, hornet, or any other insect that flies and stings. I thought it was just hanging out on my foot, so I begged my friend to look and see. After she let me know the coast was clear, I calmed down and she told me, "Wow, that's the gayest I've ever seen you act." I was pretty upset with this statement. Calling me gay to say that I like men is fine, but calling me gay to say I fit into ignorant, warped stereotypes bellittles me and crosses the line. Being more outspoken than ever these days, especially in the face of generalizations and statements without any foundation, I quickly gave her a piece of my mind. I really don't understand what acting gay, straight, feminine, or masculine means anyway. I'm not an actor, I don't fit into some role. I'm not acting anything, I'm being me.
In short: If the shoe fits, wear it. And if it doesn't, then don't. That philosophy always worked for me.