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<p>I overheard a conversation about a guy that is suing his neighbor for the trauma he infliced on him when he molested him as a teenager. It happened only once over 10 years ago. I don't know exactly what happened. What I gleand from them is that he just 'remembered' this and it is only coincidental that the neighbor just inherited a large sum of money.</p>
<p>So I was molested/ raped by two older men when I was just short of 15 years old. It was not the way I would have wanted my first time to be, but, it didn't ruin my life or cause me any real harm. It awakend me to a whole new world. One that made me understand many of the feelings I had previously. Maybe I'm just stronger than others.</p>
<p>Anybody else have a similar experience that hurt them worth suing over?</p>
<p>So I was molested/ raped by two older men when I was just short of 15 years old. It was not the way I would have wanted my first time to be, but, it didn't ruin my life or cause me any real harm. It awakend me to a whole new world. One that made me understand many of the feelings I had previously. Maybe I'm just stronger than others.</p>
<p>Anybody else have a similar experience that hurt them worth suing over?</p>
At first I thought that my experience was unique. I was so naive! I had not even thought about sex, nor had I ever masturbated. I got erections but didn't know what to make of it, so I left it alone. It's a long story that leads up to my being raped. The fact is if they would have asked,I would have said yes. It was more forced. not violent. Maybe that's why I got through it unharmed.
It might also be that the experience of being molested adds to an already injured person.
I appreciate your comments.
After thinking about it a while I wanted to share some thoughts about it. The first is just because one person may have ( or feel that they have) no harmful effects of being molested as a minor does not mean another person doesn't have serious lingering issues. My father's youngest brother, a guy I grew up thinking a lot of for all the times he spent doing things with my cousins and I systematically molested several of his nephews including myself. It happened a couple of times to me the summer I was 13.
As an adult I look at it as a messed up situation and have moved on. Others were not so lucky as I had one cousin commit suicide at age 17 and two other deal with serious substance abuse. One other cousin went on to become a molester himself and is currently in prison. All of these things I feel is connected to the abuse.
My other thought is it's a hell of a lot easier to talk about this from behind my keyboard using an alias then in real life with my family. It has become over the years "the elephant" in the room so to speak and is never openly talked about to my knowledge.
Had it been, had my other cousins or myself felt we could talk to someone, report it like we should have done may have prevented some of the ruined lives that resulted. Instead at least in my case I thought I was somehow responsible which I later came to understand was simply not true. Not everyone can put something like that behind them though.
I guess the "repressed memories" and then wanting money for it is what I have a hard time with. In fact I didn't really think about my experience very often at all after it was over. I didn't forget it. It was just part of my growing up.
I heard from two other people that were molested by priests and sued the church. They didn't say how they were harmed or if it was lasting and required counseling . One said his father saw an opportunity to get some money.
I never told anyone what happened but I did not feel any shame either. In fact I went back two days later for more. It turned out to be a year long adventure that I wouldn't change if I had the opportunity.
I love teen boys too, and my experience runs counter to that. You would think I would like older guys.
My experience was completely the opposite.
I never felt it was my 'fault'. I should have seen it coming... maybe I did and didn't do anything to prevent it.