maxumillion21's Blogs

"The utopian idea of not worrying about pregnancy.". You forget that there are also men who have vaginas.

the best part of a relationship is to be madly in love and share each other's life together. to share in the good times and the bad. to have someone you can cry in front of...or with. to feel their heart pumping against your body. to feel their comfort, protection, admiration and intimacy. and lastly, to give each other pleasure that will blow their minds.

I have been in one and only one relationship and still in it. I think some of those who have been or are in a long term relationship will tell you its the same for a gay couple as it is for a straight couple. It is also like Ron (DKR) said, its not at all about sex, sex comes with it but its not what its about. I can not really put into words what it is, I guess its about caring and purpose. You tend to lead your life for your partner and vice versa, you love and care for each other, comfort each other when the need comes and the relationship provides you a guiding purpose in your life. You love someone so much that you will give anything for them, including your life. I am in my relationship for life and there is not the slightest doubt in my mind it will last a lifetime.

I've had a lot of one-nighters but I've cut that out now because they're empty and I'd rather just rub one out here at GBT :) I've had three long-term relationships but only two loves. I agree with Scottas below, curling up together on the couch is one of the most beautiful things in a relationship. Waking up together. And fuckit, yes I am a softy at heart, but holding hands in the cinema. That kind of thing. But relationships are hard and much like straight relationships they take work. One of my loves was unrequited. I never got off first base with him but we did have a long friendship. My other love was an alcoholic and just became intolerable, but I did love him. He just wasn't prepared to take the leap with me and kick the booze. I was with him for about 14 months, left him and often wish I hadn't, but you've got to be very careful about trying to "save" anyone. That always ends in tears. The other two long relationships I had were just ok. After the initial bliss of trust and acceptance, one turned out to be ruthlessly ambitious and freakishly over-concerned about his career (I don't mind that but it's not the kind of person for me) and the other one was, frankly, quite a dumb, fashion-obsessed queen who wanted his life to be one big catwalk. Again, "horses for courses" and this one wasn't for me. I keep looking but I don't have the same sense of urgency now. I think I've settled into being myself. I think in my "hunting" days I was looking for affirmation at least as much as love. It's important to know the difference. Dream guy may come. He may not. I'm not too bothered. I've got rich experience and memories, travel, poetry, books, rural life and my dog. What to aim for always either in a relationship or for yourself is contentedness. (Sorry, this turned into something a 70-year-old might write. Most people still guess I'm in my 20s. Suits me!) Best of luck and enjoy the hunt. It's pretty good fuckin' fun!

ive been in a relationship for the first time with a wonderful guy since july of 2014, sex isn't that important in our relationship, but what I think is important, doing things together, going places, doing things you find fun, cuddling is always a fav of mine wheather lying with him in bed or on the couch, having him in my arms is the greatest feeling in the world, just my thoughts

nothing to do with sex..it's being ONE!