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Any Advice?????

robinson44 Blog Last Activity 11 years ago 1.1K views 17 comments
So here's my problem. I'm 41 and have fallen for a 20 year old. We've known each other for about 2 years. There's mutual attraction and I am crazy about him. He's wat I'm looking for in a forever partner. Not sure how he fells about ltr. Any advice??? Do u think it will work??? 2 big of an age gap?? My close friends have told me 2 go for it. That age is just a number. Any feedback wud be appreciated. Thanks

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11 years ago

i would do it.. but 1 day, he will wake up, look at you and say... what the hell have i done? maybe not...... think back to when you were 20... were you mixed up? did you know for sure abut anything?

11 years ago

COMMUNICATE with him...that's the foundation of any relationship..the age gap doesn't matter if you love each other

11 years ago

a lot say go for it. all i say is think about it. i say this from experience of first relationship with one 2x my age. i was 18 he was 36. he knows me for quite a while and also helps me with the life struggles i have. still he was 'an older man' and while i was legal, im still seen as a boy and also one with 'special need' (i hate that but it reality and sometimes reality suck!) so ok, our situation maybe a bit different. he work in me fam business. we must meet 'in secret' so he does not lose his job and reputation cos ome in me fam would do that to him. hell, some here make an issue about it in the past now water over dam but still, think for yourself. think for him. im just 21 and ok, i know a lot about neuro things cos i have the best docs for 16 years now help me get better and better from what first called 'severe autism' then change to aspergers (that some think means 'intelligence challenged' or that awful "R' word!) do i sound "R"? forgive the speech issue but for true, i know this from docs look out for me. the FACT is, the human brain does not turn on until 24-25 in females and 25-26 in males. for years insurance companies see this from the bath curve of accidents but only since mri doe we SEE that the frontal lobes dont become active until those ages. so he (and me too) still think from emotional glands rather than from reason. does not make us not sincere in love, but bottom line is you are advanced in thought process more than either of us are. that sayed, i wont say 'dont go for it' but that term 'go for it' is easy to say and also kind of makes it more of a game/quest instead of hope to build a lasting relationship that is there from 2 who want it and love themselfs enough to love another in dedication for all things in life not only the physical/sexual attraction. talk about it. take it slow. respect each others 'beings' and make sure you both love yourselfs enough to love another without become co-dependant or in otherwise unhealthy relationship. it is true the future is unknown but moreso true that if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. hey, you want to be together all this life? what's the hurry. take time. courtship and romance. enjoy simpler times and things and let it grow or if find out together you need to ~ let it go. me first love is still me friend. im happy he has another and now lol ~ they both work for me and will for the one i hope will be mine in matrimony :)

11 years ago

Enjoy the 'now' together. Don't get distracted by the future. For any age, the future is an unknown.

11 years ago

If you both care about each other and want to be together ... go for it !!! :-)

11 years ago

go for it you only live onece

onlyinvegas
11 years ago

I just ended a 12 yr relationship with a great guy who was 23 yrs younger than me. Here is what I have to say to you. go for it enjoy anytime you have with him. hopefully he will take you places sexually that you have never been and you will do the same for him. Nothing last for ever so take the time you have and go as long and as hard as you can for each other.

11 years ago

Now fallen and being in love are two different aspects I had a total infatuation to a friend of mine but was not in love with him. Commonality is a major part of a relation, the age has nothing to do with it, follow your heart not your hormones.

Davey1965
11 years ago

Age is a Number and it shouldnt get in the way of Love with the right guy for you.
If you dont speak up,It could take you years to find someone similar.

11 years ago

i was 27 and this girl was 17. (before i came out) she was sexually active. she wanted me bad. we started messin around. it got serious. we got married after a year. after 21/2 years she wanted out of the marriage. she was not ready for a lifetime thing. you and your friend may end like that, maybe not. take it one day at a time. love is in part lust. that wears out. its when you two have a strong friendship along with lust that longgevity can take place. good luck.

robinson44
11 years ago

Well, 251 days ago I wrote a blog regarding a potential relationship with a guy half my age. He's 20 and I am 41. We've taken the plunge and started dating over the last few months. We couldn't be happier!! We have soooo much in common it's scary!! Just wanted to say thanks for all the great advice and encouragement. Age is just a number. Love has no boundaries.....Don't wish for what culd have been.....

Toby19
12 years ago

Love is love .. it has no barriers, dont lose the chance of happiness, love is hard enough to find as it is. if he feels the same then what are you waiting for. .. It might last, it might not, no relationship has 100% guarantee attached to it .. as they say, nothing ventured nothing gained ..... :)

richie
12 years ago

I am 45 and my love in life is 63,and we are happy together since 7 years.
LOVE IS THE POWER!
Happy new year for you( two?)

12 years ago

It's not the age its the love that counts and this enables you to share your lifes and to cope with each other, keep in mind that you are the more mature and you have the longer life experience which means that you are an example for the younger and this means more responsiblity on your side. Wishing you all the best......Merry Xmas....!!!!

bkbb214
12 years ago

Your firends are right age is a number. Have a good life with him.
Be nice to see him and you

busdriver02
12 years ago

I hope age is only a Number! I'm hooked on a 18yr old.I'm 56, I don't really pay for it but you do, he is of course very amazing .do I need to tell you how hot his body is and his cork is its amazing and his come taste so good. So with this said good luck to both of us

deckerd
12 years ago

Go for it. Age as you say is just a number. dont live to regret what might have been.
Have a Happy Christmas and a good 2012.