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School sucks. To much homework. I have managed not to get into any fights so far this year lol. I  have a friend who thinks we are boyfriends. He is nice and I like him but he thinks I have to tell him everything I do each day. He is smothering me and I don't know how to react to that anymore.

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gm4yngr
8 years ago

Well Benji, how did things work out over the weekend? I know many of us would like to know if you had a good talk with your friend, or is he your boyfriend now?

8 years ago

for some school will always suck. for others they love it. don't fight it, roll with it. there is good advice below. communicate with him if you like him. tell him what annoys you, but also tell him what you like. just don't hurt his feelings.

swiftjohn
8 years ago

You haven't actually said it but other than acknowledging that the two of you are gay, are the two of you actively engaged in a regular, ongoing sexual relationship? If so, then you're boyfriends. Consider yourself lucky that you have a friend to enjoy gay sex with despite his clinging. Most gay boys in your situation wish they could be so lucky so don't take him for granted. And introducing him to GBT is a great idea. It's like throwing your dog a chew toy to amuse himself with when you want to be left alone. A big part of life is learning to adapt yourself to the diverse personalities of others and how to tolerate their little annoyances for the greater good for yourself. And the greater good is always having a male sex partner. This is especially true when you get older and move out into the wider gay world where you will meet some real characters. What would you do if you drove him away? Are there other gay boys in your immediate world that you can quickly take up with? If not, then it's back to masturbating and wishing for the real thing again. On the other hand, if the two of you are not having sex with each other, then it's time to force the issue and for you make a sexual advance on him with the understanding that your continued relationship will also be a sexual relationship. If he won't go through with it, then most likely he will go away and the problem will solve itself. And you'll be free to start chasing other boys who may be more amenable to a sexual relationship. But remember one thing. The world does not revolve around you. All people pursue their own self interest and are not going sacrifice their self interest just to accommodate you. Recognize this fundamental truth and adapt yourself and your expectations of others accordingly. And do your fucking homework and stop whining about it. Slacking now will follow you for the rest of your life.

8 years ago

Don't have sex with him anymore

gm4yngr
8 years ago

While he is staying with you this weekend maybe you should introduce him to GBT and any other gay social sites that you know of. I think that he is smothering you because you are the only gay friend that he has. Hopefully he has internet at home that is not monitored by his parents and he can spend some time online with new gay friends. That would take up some of his time and take some pressure off you. If you decide to do this, you may want to delete this blog first. You do need to talk it out with him, hope it all works out for both of you. Hugs, Fred

darkknightreturns
8 years ago

it sounds to me like your friend has an insecurity or issue of trust. Communication is the foundation of any friendship or relationship. Try talk to him.

8 years ago

Thanks everyone. My friend is staying the weekend. Hopefully we can work this out.

8 years ago

I am sorry you are having a rough time, and I hope every thing turns out well with your friend. Hang in there.

8 years ago

You can not look at anything as your fault. You can only be a friend and be there to listen if needed. you still need to set limits, or you will be over yours and it could cause you to say something you might regret. Let him know you are his friend, but need some privacy and space at times. I have had something like this happen to me and it is not easy but being his friend also means you must set some limits. I not have the experience some here might have, this is all i know from what happen to me and learning from my mistakes, every situation different. He must be responsible for his own feelings and the feelings of his family are things he needs to deal with and he might need to reach out to older relative he can trust to help him with problems at home. I hope I helped some, but I only speak from what happen to me, others here might have better advice for you. I hope things work out for you and your friend.

8 years ago

I don't want to see my friend get hurt. I am the first gay person he has ever meet. His parents will not take it well if they ever find out he is gay. He isn't ready for any of this. It's my fault.

8 years ago

I agree with robsdreamworld. Open, direct but still polite communication is a key to any relationship, even if it is just good friends. My 8 1/2 year old grandson complains about too much homework, too.

8 years ago

Explain to him how you feel. If he is a true friend he will understand. Let him know you need some privacy and a lil space at times. And yes it appears homework is double this year. Teachers but get a bonus for handing out homework.