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@HornyTinksCock15...I posted something on your wall about coming out. It is different for every person. Make sure you are emotionally ready for some bad reactions. It happens. Make sure you are in a place where you are physically and financially able to take care of yourself. If you are a student and dependent on your parent's for financial support, make sure you know where they stand on the issues of gays in the world. Do not put yourself at risk just to be out. While I believe that in the long term your will be healthier and happier when you can come out. Don't do it rashly just to do it. If there is an LGBT Community Center close to you or if you are a college student there is most likely a GSA or LGBT group on campus. Stop and and talk with them. They can help you sort through any issues you might have and provide a support network for you when you do choose to come out. And while I have dwelled alot on the possible negative things, your parents may just look at you and say...you are our son..we love you they way you are meant to be. But only you know the right time for you. Sometimes parents aren't the right first place. If you have a good friend that you trust and feel that they are open to gay people, that quite often is the best first person to tell. Create an ally to support you as you prepare to be open to more people. But do create a support network for yourself.

Just say...Mom....Dad.....there is no grandkids in your future and leave it at that.

Just wondering: I've been gay for about 2 yrs but haven't really told my parents OR anyone. I feel like i should come out finally, but what should i say exactly?!

I have been open about being gay since I was 11 year old. I have not experienced the difficulties and hardships others have had and am very fortunate. I can only say I wish anyone the best when they choose to come out to others. The human race can be cruel so please have somewhere to turn to if needed when you choose to come out. Support and community groups may also be a way to find support and guidance (Google information about them for your area).

“Make no mistake, hiding one's true self away in a closet and creating a facade of heterosexuality is not without its consequences. It may appear to have a degree of safety but from my experience they are very unhealthy places and do all kinds of terrible things to individuals psychologically, emotionally and behaviourally.....to say nothing of projection. The damage of the fear, shame, guilt and self-loathing that exist inside a closet are often reflected unknowingly in the external life of the individual. In or out of the closet; there is a price to pay. Each individual must weigh up the consequences of honesty, openness, secrecy and deception for themselves. Coming out, for most of us, is like an exorcism that releases us of the darkness we have lived in for years and caused us to believe awful things about ourselves. On the other side of the looking glass are freedom, light and life.”
― Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

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