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Hey Its Ruslan :) I am posting this Blog because i think it's important . I want to ask Gay Boys here to post the positive and the not so positive . Real stories of what happened when they came out . This will be an ongoing Blog . I hope it will give Gay Boys ideas and encouragement :) Please share your story . You are not alone and you will see that in the stories guys post. :)
Hello, I finally came out at the age of 34. My mom was like, "yes honey, I know, but I still love, your my son." My dad said, "well that explains why you've never dated a girl or had any girlfriends, ever!" My older sister said the same thing my mom did, my younger sister was like, "ew-gross" and my little sister already knew because she caught me in the act when I was still just a teenager. Probably the best part of this story was the fact that the cute young and slightly effeminate black boy I was involved in a LTR with at the time was almost sitting in my lap on our couch while my parents were trying to put their mind around it, but it was time and it felt SO GOOD to finally be myself in public.
my mother was okay about it when i told her..she said to me son as long as you are happy you enjoy life...and i do!!!
I hope this is my "not so good" english here can read :)
But now to my real story.
I was with 19 father and I got married, the marriage did not last long, and I have to get divorced after 1 1/2 years. During this time my son was born, then I have just brought up. So I was a single father. It was a beautiful and sometimes difficult time. Over the years I've noticed I'm more on men and on women who had an affair and others. Over the years I had noticed that I was sick of me to "hide" still, I wanted to live my homosexuality openly, but as I tell my mother and my son. The years passed, now I was about 30, my son 17 years old it was time to come out with at last.
I invited my mother and her best friend in a restaurant and tell you what's what, I'm gay. My friend did it before that, my mother was shocked, she had taken a while, but she accepted it and loves me just as I am, I have not changed so I'm still the same person as before.
My son had already thought of it that I'm gay, and he had accepted from the outset, he had got along very well even with my friends, well, who were also younger than me ;)
Only my father would have nothing more to do with us, now we have over 15 years of no contact. But more than me does not like me, has just been unlucky.
I've become very good friends and girlfriends who take me as I am. I get along with my son and my mother's super good.
So, I can only say that after an outing at ease and feel free. If we are to men, we are not other people.
Now I'm over 40 and nearly n 'old bag' ;-) and still love men.
My motto is and will remain ... Live Your Life ... * Smile
Anyone who has questions may be pleased to contact you
i just turned 20 but for at least half my life i knew i liked other boys. i had a very bad first experience and it was done by someone older and i am still pissed because he took advantage of me when my autism was very bad. but now i am over that and i get more upset about others who are taking their own life. i almost did once but will never try that again and to anybody on this board especially ones who maybe should not be, please know you are not alone and a starting point is here http://www.gayboysupport.nl/en and there are more. Ruslan, lets find every support site out there and build a massive resource center. enough of the sadness. we should not lose one more!
first please don't think I'm and old troll, just old I came out in the early '70s and we (young gay men were anything but liked). It was 1973 and I was stationed on the USS Constellation CVA 64, any who might not know it was an aircraft carrier. We had returned from a 6 mo. tour of duty off the coast of Viet Nam. During this, my first cruise of three, 30 young sailers had been Court Martialed and given Dishounorable Discharges for being gay. I knew I was, but had never done anything other than JO to gay porn.One afternoon while sitting in the E M club a couple of guys that I had met onboard came over and asked if I'd Like to go in town (San Deigo) with them and so I found my self in a gay bar for the first time. Several hours of talking and drinking passed and we went to one of their friends appartment, they knew I was a virgin and at the age of 20, thought I should come out of my closet. that evening here was a daisy chain of 4 people sucking this is how i came to know the pleasures of men. It didn't change who I was or the way I acted just how I felt about myself.
One month later and quite a few experiences under my belt, so to speak, we were on our way back to Viet Nam. At which time I wrote to my parents who were quit upset when I went in the military (they were pasifists Mennonites) and explained in a long letter that I was gay and knew I had been gay all my life. The reply was pretty much expected " your sick, we can get you help". It took some time and a lot of explaining but they finally came around and accepted me for who I truly was. More Later.
A real coming out the first time was totally accidental. I had a bud sleeping over, and I thought I had hidden all th gay porn in my dresser. While I ws in the shower, my bud found a telltale dvd in my dresser. We were like 17. He told me he was gunna borrow a pair of boxers......((like what ever happened to ASKING FIRST??)) So I was like totally caught. I knew him for a long time, and I told him I liked girls, but guys turned me on too. And that's why I had the gay porn. he kinda freaked and asked if I wanted to suck his dick too. Real smartass like. I told him being bi (or gay) wasn't like that, and tried 2 explain to him why guys turned me on too. He didn't believe me, so I challenged him to watch the dvd w me. I told him if he was that homophobic and that str8 he wouldn't be turned on or get a hardon. Well, needless to say we watched for like 15 minutes, and he did get hard. (We had shorts on). We talked for a while, and ended up jerking off lying next to one another watching the porno. It seemed ok as long as we didn't touch.
We didn't talk for a LONG time, and he didn't say anything until after we went to bed and th lights were out. It was pretty hard to get him to understand I was the same guy he knew b4 he found th dvd. I told him too that I believed all people were al least bi, given the right circumstances. I asked him what he thought of two girls being together, and he said it was hot. He couldn't explain why he felt different about guys, and I convinced him finally there was none. He admitted he dated one girl who thot boys togethr was hot. He admitted that if it woulda gotten him into HER panties, he mighta considered it.
So our friendship was a little straind for a couple of weeks, but he finally said he didn't want to loose me as a friend just because I liked guys. We started hanging around 2gether again, and stayed friends until he moved away. We still text tho, and now he asks if I've "found anyone hot..." meaning a guy.
My folks are a kinda don't ask don't tell. About 25% of my friends know I'm bi now, and its ok cuz most of them are bi too.