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Decline Friendship Request

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Is it so wrong to decline a request for friendship? It is unlikely I am ever going to meet anyone on here face to face. The only way a person is able to convey their nature and character is by what they have written on their profile. There is much that be taken from what a person writes, especially in the ABOUT ME section. There is also an indication of their nature and character in the blogs they have created or the blogs in which they have contributed to. There are many guys on GBT I would not have as friends in the real world and I see no reason to have them as friends in this virtual world. I'm sorry if my refusal to accept your request for friendship offends, but please, get over yourselves. If I accept an offer of friendship it's because I have something in common with you and because we have that connection. There are some guys on GBT who have also set conditions to accepting friendship requests, I am doing the same. Please accept my right to do so.

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nate88
11 years ago

Your right to accept or reject is respected. We make our own choices by our own standards. I do agree with many where sometimes youjust have to'clean house'. I asked and you rarely or never reply to messages. there is no Bond for friendship.

Davey1965
11 years ago

It means that when ever they upload a video,You get a message telling you to visit there page

11 years ago

What does 'subscribe' actually mean on this site? how does 'subscribing' to someone (!) differ from being their friend?

11 years ago

I'm going to use the subscribe button if I want to share others' taste in porn.

11 years ago

For me, I have a number of "friends" on my list, but my very best friends are the ones I communicate with by proper email - and I only have one of those at present. He is very sweet and I love hearing from him and sharing stuff. If I want to start a friendship with someone, it starts with a PM from this site and see where it goes from there. Having said that, I am happy to make friends with guys around the world - you only have to ask :)

11 years ago

I think is difficult enough to have a "NET" friend must people will write what ever in their profile but not real stuff, I am shy and I mean shy so for me to ask for a new friend I think is a waste of time, people will say anything but reality is different, some people in here wants photo ok but if you are shy? . Then are the professionals members that have thousands and thousands of "friends" really? and the only thing they want is numbers (today some 1555555 visited my page) wow, so? others tell some unreal stuff should I write about my new Ferrari? for what? so you will feel envy? my reality is that I own a skate-board. when I joined I thought maybe I can find a friend, but then I came into my senses and I know that I am a lonely wolf and I will be a lonely wolf.

11 years ago

Ok I can see that. I guess so far I have just responded to people and not initated the conversation.

11 years ago

Jed...for me at least, the friendship list give me an easy way to access the people I am friends with. Both to get to their walls for posting as Fearless has pointed out that I do. And for some, the conversation that people have are through the pm function, so it is also an easy way to get to the name they use on the site. Just makes organizing some things a little easier.

Fearless, thanks for noticing that I do post on my friends walls. Because this is a virtual world it is the same thing I do in my real life. For those I see daily, we exchange greetings and stories. For those in my real life that I don't see as often, we email and text and talk on the phone. Probably daily. So for me, the posting on friends walls is just about acknowledging our friendship here.

Thomas

11 years ago

Jed you was a Bazooka Joe fan wasn't you

11 years ago

@cutkiwi...I love cut guys ;)....It would be impossible to go through my teenage years without having older guys for friends. I've shared a bed with a gay guy of 39 and he adores me and I love him for it. But he never ever lays a hand on me. I tease him and he just says to me I'm the son he always wanted but never got. It's a long long story but he is a friend of my father and now he is my friend. My father is dead but he is still a friend of my father< i just wanted to put that in. ive touched him up in bed tho', I'm not sure if he was awake or not but he never followed it through. We have distant relatives in New Zealand, my grandfathers brother moved out there a very long time ago.

11 years ago

I dont quite understand the point of the friendship request? Dont we all talk anyway? Do you get something special? A secret decoder ring? Glow in the dark condom? GBT T-shirt?

11 years ago

So far I dont think I have turned anyone down. my profile is pretty much me. Or at least as much as I want to put on this site. I doubt anyone is gonna put thier name address and telephone number if they do I suspect it wont stay up very long

11 years ago

tolead. I know you post daily on some of your friends pages and that is rather admirable. I imagine those guys appreciate an early morning greeting, sets the day off with a positive vibe. Some folks live alone and any kind of contact is very much a good thing. I see that nate88 is in contact with a guy called Toby who is ill and I bet he looks forward to his chats with his friends on GBT. However, I share your thoughts about those "friends" who do nothing more than send a friend request. I want my friends on GBT to be just like your closest friends and stay in contact on a regular basis.

11 years ago

I believe that most of the people on my friends list are the result of what @arick1993 has said. I am not generally asking others for friendship...the vast bulk of my friends are people that sent me a request. I would have to assume like @arrick1993 is because they liked something I have posted. Since in most cases I never hear from them. In the end, it is up to the individual to decide what a "friend" on gbt is for them. But in the end, I do know the 25 or so people on that list that I consider friends and communicate with many times a week. Thomas

11 years ago

It is up to the individual to accept or decline I suppose; I have thought about sending you a friend request Fearless because you said you were from the Scottish Hihglands - a place I have read quite a bit about and would love to visit one day, and think it would be great to have an online friend from there.

When you say there are many guys you would not have as friends in the real world - what are you meaning? you mean old guys? or what?

11 years ago

no not at all I do it all the time

11 years ago

thats a good way to look at it arick1993, people want friendship because they share your tastes in porn?, makes sense

11 years ago

I tend to look at friend requests as a vote of approval for my postings. So I am fairly lenient about accepting requests. It's just not that big of a deal.

scotty96
11 years ago

I usually just accept so long as when i look at their profile they haven't said mean things, which some guys do. Also i dont accept any invites if a guy has said that he is *straight acting* or he is only looking somebody *straight acting*. Thats just a thing with me that really annoys me lol. But i agree it is weird some guys who write nothing at all on their profiles...whats up with that??

11 years ago

anyone want to be my friend? just ask. i don't have any requirements to be my friend. however, if i deem you a pain in the ass on the site, i will remove you. i have kicked one person off my friends list. having said that, i think each guy should manage his friends list as he seez fit.

11 years ago

happy to be your friend