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The problem with being in high school is that you're fishing in a small pond as well as everybody talks about you and everyone else. This makes it difficult to find others like yourself since we gays tend to hide our true nature from everyone in such a captive environment if for no other reason than to avoid bullying and ridicule. I'll give you some advice that I wish someone had given me when I was in high school and I was looking for a gay friend. The gays tend not to fit in. They're quiet, standoffish, don't socialize with anyone, tend to be the loners, try not to be noticed, many have negative feelings about themselves arising from the conflict they feel about their sexual desires. Start paying close attention to all those around you and look for these behaviors. If you spot someone displaying these behavior patterns and you find him sexually attractive, then find any excuse to make a little harmless small talk with him. If he responds with hostility or attitude, excuse yourself and walk away. The guy is that way because he's a head case. However, if he responds favorably to your approach, then try to pursue a friendship with him. In time as you get more comfortable with each other, find a pretext to bring up the subject of masturbation. Talk about how you love doing it and get him to admit he does it too. Everybody masturbates and whoever says they don't is either a liar or getting regular cock and doesn't need to. When he admits it, ask if he would like to masturbate with you. Odds are he'll go for it if he really is gay. After a few sessions, produce a tube of KY Jelly from the drug store and suggest masturbating each other. Assuming he does, watch his face as he jacks you. If he's smiling and enjoying the feel of your hard cock in his hand then you're almost there. The next time you're together, tell him you'd like to try sucking his cock. At this point he will let you. Suck him for a while but not to orgasm just yet. Say your jaws net a rest and ask him he would like to try it for a while. If he's come this far he will. But you ejaculate in his mouth first. You want him to be in a state of sexual arousal the first time he has a cock in his mouth and tastes another guy's sperm. Then you bring him to orgasm in your mouth. From that point on, it'll be nothing but cock sucking. Remember that this is a seduction that progresses at it own unpredictable pace. How long it takes until you get your cocks in each others' mouths you'll just have to play by ear. Everyone's different. But the rewards are well worth the effort. If it turns out you can't find a good candidate, then a nearby college is a great place to look. It's a much bigger pond to fish in and usually has some gay organizations and activities which are really just ways for gay guys to meet and hook up. And you don't even have to attend the college - just be gay and you'll be welcomed with open arms (and hard dicks). If that's not an option, try joining a gym and go often. Lots of gays belong to gyms. That's where I found the guy for my first homosexual experience and I've been finding them there ever since. Good luck .

a huge dilemma we all went through in high school. You are not alone...hhhmmmm sometimes "gaydar" kicks in, or perhaps as has been suggested visit groups at a LBGT counselling facility, don't be shy nobody will know. Athletics maybe if you know someone who likes to run after school, don't forget "sleepovers " lol. worked for me lol. Most guys 14-16 will experiment with guys, because its difficult to have girls over their house, and the fear of pregnancy. Just try watch, and get yourself out there. Best of luck Ron hugz xoxo

Lots of good advise here....I think the best way to meet other gay guys is thru local LGBT organizations. Get involved in them. All the str8's are weeded out and every guy there is a potential partner. Same goes with gay clubs/bars...but if you're still in HS maybe bars are off limits until u reach the legal age in your community. You know, it's funny, but one of the guys I messed around with often when I was in my teens and 20's was my 'str8' next door neighbor buddy. Ya never know bud, so keep positive and optimistic. (((hugz))) to you and good luck.

don't forget that there's nothing gained without giving something up in return. If you're unwilling to risk rejection, you'll regret never having tried! You just have to be a little more coy about asking in high school but they're out there :)

Be patient and careful, there are certainly other guys in your school with the same problem. Look closely at how other guys are behaving, you should be able to spot some signs if you watch others closely. Be friendly and supportive of guys that seem to be lonely. The guys who seem to be "loners" may be avoiding interaction because they are afraid of their desires being known. Of course there are probably some closet gays among the poplar crowd too. If you watch others close enough you may catch some friendly glances or quick smiles that would otherwise go unnoticed. I never had any luck when I was in high school but back then being gay was much more taboo than it is now. Seems like your best chance would be guys involved in the band, glee club and school play but those are only stereotypical examples. I'm sure there are also willing guys involved in sports. Go to games and meets, watching not only the athletes, but the other spectators too. You may find a spectator that has a crush on a certain athlete. Just keep your eyes open and be patient, put out some subtle signs yourself in case others are watching you. I hope this helps you, wishing you the very best of luck in your quest!

I really did have some of my best sex at High School with friends just experimenting and all ended up being 'str8' to the best of my knowledge! a few years ago now so I am sure things will have changed, for the better? who know!

it WILL get better. trust me (us)

███ As below...but check out those,from the OTHER college,to the one you are at.??..sounds crazy..but it works..also 1st week of study year is best,for greatest meetings...DAVE...███

words of wisdom you will hear from several. don't make dates online and meet strangers. too risky and most will be much older than they represented themselves to be. find local gay clubs or organizations to meet guys your age.or just buy a fleshjack and enjoy yourself.

There are a few important things you should never forget:
- You are not alone means there are others looking for you
- Never give up, because when you give up looking, the man of your dreams passes by unnoticed
- Always be safe!

Of course, spouting cheap wisdom is easier than living up to them right now, but it's something all have to go through. I wish you the best of luck!

Yeah it blows sometimes but keep trying theyre out there feeling the same way you are. just be safe & meet them in public somewhere first so you know theyre for real

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