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had the same problem. just my friend told me he was bi first and i was asking about it and he thought i was trying to offend him then to fix that problem i told him i was bi as well. that initially made our friendship way stronger (i think he liked me as more than just friends then) but as the year went on i decided i liked him too.. i have waited too long he no loner likes me this way. now its awkward because now he think everything i do near him is sexual... its not and he told me to "back off" when i did something not sexual at all. it has damaged the friend ship alot and i dont think it can be repaired

@Danny - it depends on the jurisdiction whether it is illegal. In Germany it is not illegal but I don't know about Ireland or Canada.

Texting him was the cowards way out. Were you afraid of rejection? You also set yourself up for some really bad times with the Police. By texting, you basically admitted in written form for any cop or prosecutor to use as damning evidence, not to mention this boys parents who will not see it the same way you do. Your "friend" will now have the upper hand on you, can you say blackmail? Dumb thing to do.

dude his 16 a child your 24 a man besides jail time his only a kid your taking advantage of him fucked up man

Another update, I saw my friend today, we hung out and it was fine. But on the way home, I broke down. I decided I couldn’t keep these feelings to myself anymore. On a side note, I should mention this. He is only 16, I am 24. I have decided that I don’t feel right for having these feelings towards someone who is 8 years younger than I am. I text messaged him and told him everything. How I felt and why I felt that way. I also told him I couldn’t hang out with him anymore because of how I felt.
He said that he had thought of me in sexual ways before. He also said that I have to be able to seperate my friends from people that are more than just friends. I agree with this statement, but I can’t hang out with him without feeling things and then feeling shitty because he doesn’t like me as much as I like him. I am so confused right now. I don’t know what the right thing to do here is. Am I doing the right thing? I don’t want to lose a friend.

you find a website? methinks you would have gbt bookmark :) anyways so happy you get things out in open. now have suggestion for you two bi boys. go see billy elliot the musical and BE FREE. i hope you both fall in love for real and make commitment to be together forever. best friends make the absolute best lover. all me hope for your happiness! oh ~ http://www.billyelliottour.com/us-tour

Hope it goes well for you:) xx

Glad for your update. Hope it works out for you both.

believe me if you had a big hardon while wrestling he would have know. glad it worked out for you.

Guys,

Sorry for the delay of an update of this situation. As of lately, there had been nothing new in regards to me and my undeniable crush of my best friend. But, since my last post here, I came to the decision that if it so happened that the topic came up, I would tell him about my sexuality and that I am BI. I am very much private about my BI-ness, but I thought, we are best friends and I at least owe it to him and myself to tell him the truth.
Here is where it gets interesting. We were hanging out at my place one night recently and we got into daring each other to do stupid stuff to kill time, like we usually do. We then somehow started talking about masturbation and how many times we each did it during the day, when he dared me to masturbate to gay porn. I told him I was down. So, I went to the computer in the adjacent room, found a website and got ready to do my thing, when he said from the other room “I would actually believe it if you were gay” bla bla bla (Keep in mind he thinks I’m straight). I thought to myself, this is the moment. I said “I am not gay but I am not straight”. I couldn’t believe I was actually telling him, and i waited for his response. The reaction I got from him couldn’t have gone better... He was extremely accepting and I told him he was the only person I have ever told in my life. I opened up to him and told him it was hard holding in feelings and having fear about how people would react. I told him I was very afraid to tell him. When I talked, I started to notice something in his understanding and his face, when after everything I said. He kept saying “I know the feeling” which led me to believe that he was just saying it out of friendly sympathy or something. Finally, after I was talking, and after he said “I know” again, I asked. “What do you mean by that?” and he said “because I am bi too”.... Guys, I couldn't believe what I WAS HEARING. My world just turned upside down. I would have NEVER expected this from him. He is VERY straight acting. I can’t believe how many feelings of joy and shock I was overwhelmed with. I was literally shaking and speechless.
We had a long talk, I feel now that this has brought our friendship to an even greater level. I feel that this door has been opened between us is creating a tension, in me at least. Since that night, I see everything he does as a “sign” and I get tense and wonder if he feels the same. I still really like him, and now that I know he is open to guys, I might have a tough time trying to hold myself back.
This whole thing is not done, but I wanted to update you guys. I can’t believe this happened and i am sure many of you know the feeling.

yes try it out how he handle with the truth and you find out if he is a real friend of yours.
i decided lately to my coming out and i know i wasted a lot of my best years and that s really bad.

Please do, and the best of luck. x

Wow, thank you all for the responses, and good advice. I've never posted a blog in this community before, but It feels so good to have a place to come to and get help on a topic that would otherwise be difficult to do so... I'll keep everyone posted on what happens next!

Personally at first I would start with telling him your unsure of your sexuality, ask him if he's ever questioned his sexuality. When I told my friends the biggest issue they had was if I was attracted to them. Don't go in and tell him everything, it maybe to much for him to take in at once. Test the waters first. One of my best friends first reaction to finding out I was gay was that she thought I was a pedo because she had a young son. It hurt like hell that she could even have those thoughts about me. But over time she came to understand me better. Everyone reacts in different ways. Take your time with him and keep his friendship, close friends are hard to find

Personally at first I would start with telling him your unsure of your sexuality, ask him if he's ever questioned his sexuality. When I told my friends the biggest issue they had was if I was attracted to them. Don't go in and tell him everything, it maybe to much for him to take in at once. Test the waters first. One of my best friends first reaction to finding out I was gay was that she thought I was a pedo because she had a young son. It hurt like hell that she could even have those thoughts about me. But over time she came to understand me better. Everyone reacts in different ways. Take your time with him and keep his friendship, close friends are hard to find

If I may suggest take your question to the aalex17 wall you will find many friends there to help you out in this matter.

read this to him

Almost cried cause i got the say problem i still dont know what to do

I have a similar problem with a friend like you .. and I still not confessed my friend that I'm gay and that I want him, but I am determined to tell him that within the next 4 weeks. After March, he will know it! If I were you I would tell him this, maybe he's bi and if not, he should be such a good friend, he will understand you! I wish you much success and I would be happy if you could keep up to date with what has happened in the end. Good luck =)

Wow dude, he must really be hott. Well i was the same way, me and my friend knew everything about each other. We new each other for about 3yrs and i knew he was.striaght. But he didnt know i was.gay and we would wrestle go skinny dippin and sleep together. I finally.told him i was gay. He got upset at first because i didnt tell,him sooner byt still to this day we are alot closer and he doesnt care if im gay plus he supports my decision. Fun thing is i finally got to suck him off and we still play around to this day. Just be honest with urself and him. If he is a true friend then he will understand u. Hope this helps. Let me know :)

Hello.....well if as you say you have known him for 3 years its now the time to tell him all if hes a good and true friend he will understand, tell him your bi and how much you fancy him and at least then its all out in the open and who knows he may be bi as well and you and he can get it going.....so good luck and let me know how it goes.