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my thought is and has always been, "you got nuttin" nice to say, then don't say it", it helps everyone!!!!!!!!!!!. i'm not a twink, 36 , but am balding and if you see me pics i'm not FAT, but that is not a bad thing, it's whats inside that count's and love to see all you older, fat hater's in 10- 20 years, LMFAO...

btw ~ have been in touch with pandamandanny who make the ageism video and he ask me if he could see this (wishing only more would see it on his page where it counts the views on yt) but i share it with him and hope that he gets props for making that and some other really good videos on his channel that is http://www.youtube.com/user/pandamandanny

crikey i never expect some of this! but i do respect free speech and i absolutely welcome danny visiting here who i think did a great job presenting topic and producing video :)

well davz, i hope you dont think of me or the maker of that vid as 'young upstarts'. to me what danny does is like an anti-bully video for those who need to see it from their own age. so many are concern for bullying and also suicide prevention and that is good. i know of 2 persons who take their life cos called 'faggot' etc but they cant take it any more and they were NOT queer. the mean-spirited things go on in our 'community' make the term 'gay' a joke! i dont like using it even more because of that other than the big orgs just like some pacs always ask for money and a lot of times not well spent. my uncle, a volunteer for harvey milk say that leader would be angry at the commercialising of gay events, the arrogance and (quote chrisinthecity) 'hate within the hated.' why cant we just be a bit kinder to each other. i do say you are at very least honest about your underlying wishes. but rather than say 'talk to hand' when one gets all snap snap snappity, i think you like all our brothers who have lived this life longer have the brag rights to say, 'you know how much better you have it cos of people like me?!' but then, so many dont even know about harvey milk. the ones who dont know why the pink triangle used need spend a bit of time searching that. i was taught to respect those who not only struggle but also die for how things change. danny was so right when he put up his fingers make the quote marks when he speak about "community".

I've just had a look at that ageism video posted recently on here and YouTube. In my comment below I did say I admire all youth, I do, but. And the but is, us oldies have hands too and when a young upstart mouths off at me I raise my hand, turn and walk away. Talk to the hand lad, just talk to the hand because the rest of me does not give a fuck about what you think or have to say. OMG, how awefull am I, sorry for any offense.

I'm old and fat but thankfully not bald...at least not yet anyway. Everyone gets old, even those vain and in love with themselves. But I admire all youth, even those that would hate me. For I too was young and vain and hated those I have become. However I did have old gay friends and they were my guides and mentors and while they may have longed for my cock they respected me and honoured my friendship. But I will be honest and tell the truth and confess to all the young lads who cross my path that an underlying wish is take them off to my bed. I would not consider myself to be normal if I didn't.

[[[[ There are plenty of vain and highly judgmental people in our community. They are superficial ]]]

Yup ... the word you're looking for is " Narcissism. "

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism

See the photo on the right side of the above web link. Nuff said !!!!

There are plenty of vain and highly judgmental people in our community. They are superficial and only want friends that look a certain way. That's not friendship. It's a mutual admiration society. Looks are not what define a person. It's our heart, soul and character that defines each of us. I'd rather be friends with someone ordinary looking than an insincere skinny twink.

i am not alone ... http://www.gayboystube.com/video/188103/ageism-in-the-gay-community

i like what u say billy, also like ur name :) i have a few older friends here and they hv never hit on my or said anything bad 2 me, thats a true friend, i do get sum strange PM's but i just ignore them if i keep getting PM's from the same person over again i will let them know i am not interested and to leave me alone. then i will tell my older brother and he will let them know also, all my friends here and yes even the older ones help me out from time 2 time and tell me what i am doing wrong, RD, joe is sum of them. thanks again billy 4 posting this blog. But remember billy most ppl 4 on here 4 the porn and yes even sex, so the turn on's and turn off's r there to let ppl know what they r interested in. I do agree that a better choice of words can b used, 'bald, fat, hairy, old r sum mean words to post or say.

Turn ons...Turn offs. You can enjoy the company and conversation of someone without necessarily wanting to fuck him (or wanting him to fuck you). By the same token, you can want to fuck someone (or him fuck you) and not be interested by anything he has to say. Such is life.

The thing about this particular theme of blog, and there have been quite a few lately, is that the terms "turn on" and "turn off" are almost exclusively used in a sexual manner; in this context, in it's simplest terms "what gets you hard" and "what doesn't". Yet people seem to be interpreting this as something more sinister and hateful. If someone states that, as an example a turn off is "overweight" people, then that person has every right to say that, and no one on here has the right to say other wise. People seem to confuse "turn ons/turn offs" as someone stating categorically that they dislike all overweight people no matter what; when in fact it's just a sexual preference.

Someone stating on their profile that they will not talk to anyone overweight... That's another matter entirely, as prejudice... Especially based on looks, weight and age is prevelent in gay society, to the detriment of our society. I've been told by young 18 year old guys on here that they won't talk to me coz I'm too old, I'm 32 by the way, but I've also been told by guys in their 50's that they don't wanna talk to me coz... Again... I'm too old?! That's hurtful, and indicative of society in general and that I take issue with!
A persons turn ons and turn offs are their own business and we have no right to condeme or criticise... But a persons attitude towards others is what matters. I personally don't find "bear" type guys sexually attractive (No offence meant) but my best friend in the world is a guy who is the definition of "bear"... I don't find him attractive, as is my right, but I love him as my best friend.

billy as alway right on the money... your boy has a good catch in you...stay well

ashley and some others know this and now i dont mind talk about it at all. my first real relationship with someone 2x my age. i was 18 and he was 36. we had to break off cos of business and family. now i have come out about it in both area and tell all it was heartbreak for me at the time but i do grow from it and also he is with another now and happy, as i am with another i hope for the rest of my life and that mean we grow older together! i think one thing all who want love should do, is love the being first and the body later. of course same gender attraction is part of dating process but i am glad my heart love first and other parts later on. i did not mean to offend anyone by make this post, i just ask we be better to each other cos the rest of the world out there to put us down enough! many say stop the hate ~ ok maybe this not exactly same thing ~ i just say let us stop the hurt in community with each other :) happy hugs and buddy love to all! ashley, you know what i mean and i love you total and unconditional always :)

u r so right Billy..older guys tend to b more experienced and can give some good advice when needed

@boytalk I always do that so i can rush through the registration process. I corrected it after i realized this was actually a pretty social website.

I entered this conversation before. I understand all too clearly about peoples turn ons and turn offs. I know my age. I know what I am and look like. I don't mind if you say you aren't turned on by someone over an age. I may be 59 years old. But I am not old. I may have lost my hair, but bald is beautiful. My issue is always with the tone and the add on language. It is the ugh after old. We all age. And that is a fact. One can state one's desires with about being pejorative about it. Just my two cents.

Thomas

I FRIEND PEOPLE WHO I LIKE THIER VID LIKES/FAVORITES...THIS MAKES IT EASIER TO WIDEN MY AVAILIABLE VIDS TO PREVIEW, RATHER THAN JUST THE FRONT PAGE OF THIS SITE...I ASSUME THAT OTHERS HAVE LIKED MY PAGE FOR THAT REASON BECAUSE I STATE THAT I AM OLD, FAT, HAIRY...THAT ACTUALLY MEANS THAT I AM NOT LOOKING FOR LOVE ON THIS SITE.

I can see both sides of the coin, but ultimately i agree with Billy and Nate. I agree that the turn on and turn off boxes are to give people viewing your profile an idea of what you are into, but i also agree with Billy, Nate and some others that there are some who describe there turn offs in a demeaning way to others. Of course though everyone is free to put what they want on there profile, after all no one can help what turns them on or off, but i think the point is just that we can all help weather we hurt someones feelings or not by the way we describe our tastes.

What is wrong with KINDNESS? What is wrong with being HURTFUL. Why does this have to be so hard to UNDERSTAND? The sex likes or dislikes should be in the Idela Partner area. I feel the turn ons or turn offs should be honest and about how YOU and your life walk - the impotant thing is to not DELIBERATLEY be hurtful to anyone. ALL people have feelings and no one wants to deal with the pain and hurt of being singeled out. One day, I'll be old, might get fat or loose my hair. I believe in treating others the same way I want them to treat me. Hope this topice can finally come to a close with KINDNESS.

well im a little sad to see what says below. but just point out in 'random information' area in 'edit profile' it ask 'favorite sex categories' but display as 'favorite categories' so i have 'short films'. also ask 'favorite ideal sex partner' but displays 'ideal partner' so i put me boyfriend there of course!

below some, it has data field for 'Turn Ons' and "Turn Offs'. says naught about sex or sexual and ultimate i disagree about saying hurtful things that make one feel bad or sad or less than human. it is at least mean spirited. if said sex or sexual than just say 'i like slim' or 'close to my age' (then put your real age!) and just be nicer about it.

maybe i am mistake to see gbt more than 'just porn site' but i have a lot of friends who think it more like a community and in community we can be civil and respectful.

again just point out some here have told me of the hurt it bring them. cost naught but a few seconds to reword and be consderate of others feelins.

but if im wrong, im sorry and i deal with it as i come to think more meself about this.

Hmmm... you're right when you say, "friends do not mean sexual partner." With that being said, you voided your argument about the "bald, fat, hairy, and old" turn offs. The turn off/on lists are explicitly for sexual purposes.