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That's what the closet is for. Learn to live there and you can still have what you want.

thanx guys for your advice it helped me alot :)

I know your having a tough time with it... for some its east for other very hard.. I was very hard. but I became so unhappy. that I finally told my family.. Believe me when i tell you my family is very back woods and hillbilly... all my brother jocks as i was. my father a 6th grade education. So if he can except it most will as well. but even if you just come out a family member one at a time you will feel the weight of your soul which you find so heavy now. anyone a best friend you will start to feel better about who you are. best of luck

ismalan has said it most eloquently....it is a journey that is never easy, but not impossible. As mikeyboy says...not being true to you can be worse than what you imagine would happen if you told your family. I am not sure when you say family, is it a wife and children...or your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles. mikeyboi face the first one....the all of us end up facing the second one. There are many here who will lend a ear to listen to your issues and provide support to the decision that is right for you. There is no single answer. It is about you being true to yourself.

ismalan has said it most eloquently....it is a journey that is never easy, but not impossible. As mikeyboy says...not being true to you can be worse than what you imagine would happen if you told your family. I am not sure when you say family, is it a wife and children...or your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles. mikeyboi face the first one....the all of us end up facing the second one. There are many here who will lend a ear to listen to your issues and provide support to the decision that is right for you. There is no single answer. It is about you being true to yourself.

ismalan has said it most eloquently....it is a journey that is never easy, but not impossible. As mikeyboy says...not being true to you can be worse than what you imagine would happen if you told your family. I am not sure when you say family, is it a wife and children...or your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles. mikeyboi face the first one....the all of us end up facing the second one. There are many here who will lend a ear to listen to your issues and provide support to the decision that is right for you. There is no single answer. It is about you being true to yourself.

ismalan has said it most eloquently....it is a journey that is never easy, but not impossible. As miekyboy says...not being true to you can be worse than what you imagine would happen if you told your family. I am not sure when you say family, is it a wife and children...or your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles. mikeyboi face the first one....the all of us end up facing the second one. There are many here who will lend a ear to listen to your issues and provide support to the decision that is right for you. There is no single answer. It is about you being true to yourself.

I don’t think your experiencing anything that most gay people have not experienced at one time or another. I know I have and still do. It’s not easy to have feelings and emotions that are not main stream, especially ones that are so personal. I know I went through my teens and now early 20’s hating myself for the feelings I was having and living a lie because I bent in the direction the pressure guided me. Its your life, you are who you are and you need to be true to yourself, its easy to say but hard to do, I know I still don’t completely live by the rule but it really the best thing to do in the long run. Do you really think your family would consider it a let down if you live the life your soul wants you to live? If your gay your gay, that’s it, your not defective, your not sick, there is nothing wrong with you mentally, your not unbalanced, your just gay, nothing more and nothing less, go out and love who your heart tells you to love.

I was married, I ended up going through years of depression because I was lying to myself and my family. My wife knew I was into guys from the start of our relationship, in the end I had to live the life I was meant to live. The hardest thing was leaving everything and starting again. I have a beautiful daughter but if I wasn't living as a gay man now then I would still be alive. Be true to your family and most importantly be true to yourself. good luck, feel free to pm me if you want to know more

Ooh, that's not easy. Do you love your family, do you love a certain guy? I have a family, too. For myself I have decided that the familiy ist most important to me. That might change, when I really fall in love with a guy, but that would be the same if I was 100 % straight. If it is only Lust, I would stick to the family.