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I really do not know where else to ask about this. But i sure as hell could do with some help
Does this sound foolish or is it possible to still be abused by your father at the age of 18 nearly 19? Like would you consider this abuse....Today my dad would not stop shouting at me calling me ''simple and worthless'' over really little things that i do wrong. Like it's been this way for years. He's made it clear to me since i was at least 10 that i was a mistake and my other brothers are his favourite and he has no time for me. Every week theres always something he will call (not in a joking way, but just in a way to knock my selfconfidence and make me feel like shit). I have to walk around the house looking at the ground so i dont make eye contact with him because if i do it will just be a cold stare off him or he would shake his head at me.
I would move out but i have zero money or i would get a job but theres absolutely no jobs.
Do i sound stupid? or can you really still get ''mentally abused'' at my age?
my self esteem and confidence is already low enough im not sure i can take alot more of this. i would love to hit him in the face but he would just hit back.
i started to shove a pin into myself the last couple of days to block getting angry but one of my friends seen all the dots on my arm from doing that and doesnt think its such a good idea!
I didnt lie about a thing i just said there. i really do need some answers!
To put it correctly im extremely fucking miserable.
i told him today im hoping to go on holidays for a week and he just laughed at me and just said il never do anything with my life.
He says that alot that i will never do anything with my life...and the worst part is im starting to believe him! i dont think i could spend another minute doing nothing with my life and being at home.
i no i may sound silly, im really not trying to. i just really cant explain it
please anyone know what i can do?
I would move out but i have zero money or i would get a job but theres absolutely no jobs.
Do i sound stupid? or can you really still get ''mentally abused'' at my age?
my self esteem and confidence is already low enough im not sure i can take alot more of this. i would love to hit him in the face but he would just hit back.
i started to shove a pin into myself the last couple of days to block getting angry but one of my friends seen all the dots on my arm from doing that and doesnt think its such a good idea!
I didnt lie about a thing i just said there. i really do need some answers!
To put it correctly im extremely fucking miserable.
i told him today im hoping to go on holidays for a week and he just laughed at me and just said il never do anything with my life.
He says that alot that i will never do anything with my life...and the worst part is im starting to believe him! i dont think i could spend another minute doing nothing with my life and being at home.
i no i may sound silly, im really not trying to. i just really cant explain it
please anyone know what i can do?
Thanks again for writing back guys :) had another horribly miserable and awkward day. of minding my own business and getting taunted at and doors closed in my face.dunno why iv left this go on for so long. like i cant even remmeber howi used to manage it as a child. just a good thiing i blocked alot of my childhood out i suppose. btw im gonna set up a msn account and itd be great if some of u could add me just for support. i think my only friend that knows about this is starting to feel the weight of everytime im feeling like jumping off a cliff or having to stick his finger down my troat. thanks x
i hope that it all works out for you..msg me if u want any advice..HUGS Russ.
My heart bleeds for you and I can't hope to understand what you are going through. Your father is shit. But it maybe time for you to move on in your life. Look forward and not backwards. Remember thousands of people your age died in the world wars. So please move on and find a place where you are happy (it does happen). Do not get me wrong, I am not saying you are a kid and needs to grow up. All of us need to grow up more. You are gay so what?
AS Kipling said and I paraphrase " you are a man my son" but the transition from boy to man can be hard. I wish I could beside you and hold you. Anyone can abuse you mentally but erect a barrier and say I am a man and say to yourself I am what I am and you should go away.
If you wish to chat I am always available
Love David