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Where you abused when you where younger? Do you fell that is the reason you are gay?

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<p>I was abused as a kid and sometimes I wonder maybe thats why I am gay because I was introduced to sex with another guy so early. Maybe everyone has there own opinion :)</p>

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jakeswims09
jakeswims09
10 years ago

I was fondled and had my dick sucked when I was young but I will never say I was abused because I enjoyed every minute of it. It continued for several years. The truth is, I wanted it and knew I wanted it. I let him see my dick "accidentally" because I thought he wanted it because of the way he seemed to be checking me out. I knew I was gay before it happened so I will never say I was abused or molested.

richie
richie
10 years ago

i dont know if i was abused,my elder brother told me he was but he didnt told me from whom he gets abused.
maybe i was abused too and i banned it out of my mind,the only thing i know is that i got sexually aroused by the look at a picture of prometheus chained on a rock in a book of classical storys from greece when i was 5 or 6 years old and i always whant to be chained and i am still into bdsm. maybe i was bondaged and abused at the age of 6 years or earlier. my brother said that he get his memorys from his abuse by an hypnosis session and since i heard this i always thought to try it by myself to get aware if something happened in my early youth( i always guess there had something happened in that way ).
but i (have to)accept my sexual feelings in every way

10 years ago

I was abused my my uncle

10 years ago

I wasn't abused by anyone. I just like getting Air Tight with guys.

austinpscottt
austinpscottt
10 years ago

so sorry to hear that, giving you some warmth, take care

pb2013
pb2013
10 years ago

I agree with Nick and Jonpitko. System is unfair and complex too. Sex with underage (consensual or non consensual) is considered a crime by law but majority of convicts are sent to hospital for treatment. So the strange fact is law decides what is right and what is wrong and medical world has to accept that as clinical diagnosis and offer treatment. Very strange and further more law varies with countries so AOC in Spain is 13 but in UK is 16.

10 years ago

Nonsense.

10 years ago

@jon - yes, I expect so. He would have let her off with a 'jolly good talking to'

10 years ago

Nick, if old Rumpole were the "circus judge" on this case, bet he'd have had some juicy remarks, eh?! lol :))

10 years ago

In my country the age of consent is 16. If both guys are under 16 then it is legal; if one is 16 or older it is rape. There was an interesting Court case a while back where a girl had sex with a 15 year old boy...on her 16th birthday. Technically she was guilty of rape, and the Judge pointed out the absurdity of the law, but his hands were tied.

10 years ago

If that's the case, the law should be changed, or just ignored. Which is what happens most of the time. Many laws relating to the AOC are very old (like centuries) and/or outmoded. Some of the laws still on the books about lots of things are so ridiculous as to be laughable. Law enf. types will tell you they never enforce them anyway and haven't for many years. Good thing there were never "chastity belts" for boys! So let's be thankful for small mercies! lol :))

pb2013
pb2013
10 years ago

Consensual sex with underage (AOC varies with countries) is rape. Legally speaking my friend neergone's experiences were punishable crimes if the camp councillor or piano teacher were 18 or over even though he enjoyed it and participated willingly.

10 years ago

For what this is worth, I was never abused at home or anywhere. My parents loved me, they always have and I do not recall any family strife, my folks don't even argue. I was never picked on in school in no way bullied by anyone. y I got along with just about everyone in school and made lots of friends both male and female. The earliest I can remember having any attractions were always boys, I have always been homosexual and I am positive I was born that way.

10 years ago

consensual sex is not rape ;)

10 years ago

Is it considered rape if you enjoy it?

neergone
neergone
10 years ago

I guess it depends on how you define abuse. My piano teacher was sucking my cock when I was 12 and I practice super hard everyday so we had more time to play with each other when he came over for my lessons. He sucked me and a jacked him off. I loved it, looked forward to it and was devastated when he graduated from grad school and moved away for a job. I started sucking adult cock when I was 13 at summer camp (spent six weeks having sex with my counselor)and learned the wonder of tasting and then swallowing cum. He taught me how to fuck and be fucked. I cried my eyes out when I had to go home at the end of the summer.
So, was I abused? I don't think so. I still have the fondest memories of those two men and often jack off reliving some of those experiences. Did it make me gay? I can this without hesitation...if I wasn't gay when I went to summer camp, I sure was when I came home.
I have been playing with boys/men since I was 8 or 9 and haven't slowed down since then and I don't plan to.

bqhickory
bqhickory
10 years ago

u know i comment much on things here u know however with subject i shall put in my 2cents when i was i guess 13 or 14 i had a older man pay me for sex i choose to take it. did it make gay no i don't think so cause for as far back as i can remember i always thought about how attractive men were or well when i was that age boys. however i still dated women and even thou i was with them when we would make out or whatever i would still think about men. i feel as thou i was really born this way however i have always wondered what my life would have been like if i was straight.

dickskinlvr
dickskinlvr
10 years ago

Wow this is a very interesting subject..I am a 50yo gay man who was abused by an older relative from age 8 to 17. How ever I do not feel it has anything to do with the life that I live and enjoy so much. I was married as well and truly know that being with man is what is meant to be for me.I also fell you are born Gay and that it s not a chose.Who in there right mind would chose to be judged for a life style...That's my thoughts...DSL

Davey1965
Davey1965
10 years ago

Good to see a Blog with some good discussion .
I was prayed upon by a Cousin but i was 19
and didnt mind at all .It taught me that i
could be Gay so it was a Good experience for me.

10 years ago

Exactly, gayallday is right. It is like suggesting there is a pill you can take to turn gay.

gayallday
gayallday
10 years ago

I belive that the whole agrument that you are gay because you are abused is bull shit. I was not abused my boyfriend was not abused many gay men are not abused. being gay is in your DNA it is not a choice or an effect of something