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Be strong and let i take time. Of course it is a hard task to com out.
But its adorable and god loves you for keeping in truth with yourselves
and your feeling of love.

That's what we're here for... xxx Christopher

I'm so surprised by the comments I got. I guess I shouldn't be as I read some of the older blogs here. It was really good to have some support. What makes it even better is I haven't met any of you in person before and none of you know me but helped me by saying some kind words. Thanks so much!

tc brother - giles

be strong brother. it is now their problem to deal with, not yours. you are free of hiding, lying and denying. be proud of who you are and let them see how proud and happy you are. life is good my friend, especially as a gay man.

About your coming out to your family...I don't know...I'm just hypothesizing here BUT I personally think that everyone are bisexual whether they realize it or not. I believe you are either fucking someone or you are not...everything else is just bullshit. SO I would tell them that you think just that. Then they will be confused about everything AND that will leave door open both for you and in their minds that you could still be willing to fuck pussy in the future. Neat, huh? I just don't like people having closed minds one way or the other when it comes down to it.

No, you weren't being selfish, you were just being who you are. The people who were selfish were those who didn't take it well, they reacted the way they did because you no longer fitted their selfish image of you. They saw the real you and were pissed. It gets better. You were braver than i was and am. Hugs from Andrew.

Congrats to you on your brave decision. I know what you mean about small towns in the Midwest. Last year I moved from a town of about 2,000 to one of about 4,200 people. Both are redneck towns (big surprise). I wish I could be out to the whole world but there are some really hateful people at my new job. I like my job and don't want any friction there, if I came out to some people in this town, the news would surely spread. Small towns are nice and friendly but there are also a lot of nosey people that enjoy gossip. I am out to my sisters, who live far away and to a handful of friends nearby. It is a good feeling to be honest with the ones you care about, but I'm leery about everybody knowing. As gays, we live lives that are more complicated than most, it's a shame that it has to be this way. The world has become much more accepting and I hold hopes for a brighter future, be glad that you didn't live through the 60s and 70s. I hope your life can be a happy one, you're doing the right thing by coming out to the people that matter in your life. You are not being selfish at all, you are showing that you care by being honest. If you ever need to talk, there is a whole community of good people here who will be glad to help.

You took a big step...about being the real you...and think of the time it took for you to realize who you are and what that means....family needs that time as well...and some will make the journey with you..and others may not...but being true to yourself is the bigger accomplishment..and with time as others have said..they will realize you are still the person you were before...just more open and honest and willing to share...it is never easy...it is never quite what we imagine it will be...but it is a powerful step to make...know you are cared for here...and time is on your side...Hugs...Thomas

The kind responses you've had below are typical of the people on this site, so as they say, never forget that we're here for you. Congratulations, you've taken a courageous step - but in a sense, coming out is a lifelong process; with each new person you meet you'll have to decide if, when and how you're going to tell them ... and remember it's your decision, not someone else's. Yes, it does get better - and no, you weren't being selfish ... although that depends on how your family and friends define the word 'selfish' - perhaps for them it means you doing something that they don't want you to do. But you're part of a community here, so if you need to talk, we're all just a pm away. xxx Christopher

It's always best to proceed with caution when coming out, but now that you've done it, keep loving and communicating with your family and friends. It's THEIR loss if they don't support you. best of luck hugz Ron xoxo

I agree about 'give it time'. Some of your friends and family will realize soon that you're the same person they have known for your entire lifetime, or at least for a long period of time. They just have to get past the shock/surprise. "Being Gay" is just one aspect of who you are. Hopefully they'll all understand that soon. For those who cannot accept that, then it is their shortcoming, not yours.

Stay strong. Surround yourself with people that accept you for who you are. If some people close to you seem to get upset over the news try not to react rashly to it. Like all things, it takes time. I think I can speak for most of us here at GBT, we're here to support you. Good luck and congratulations for taking a first step towards true happiness. :-)

No idea where the rest of my post went. I talked about my grampa who I love and who was devastated. My cousins who thought I couldn't be gay because of the stuff we did with girls together.
How I feel I have hurt those who I love the most and my boyfriend Jordan who has be so understanding through this.
Does it get better? My small home town is just not used to this yet, or my family. Was I being selfish?