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MARRIAGE? CIVIL PARTNERSHIP? OR NONE OF THE ABOVE?

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<p>Marriage and civil partnerships are now legal realities for gay couples in many countries, with more set to follow this encouraging trend. So if you and your boyfriend decided that you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together, what would it be, and why? Civil marriage, a religious ceremony, a civil partnership or simply an informal arrangement? And would you want to adopt children?

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guynflint
guynflint
9 years ago

i always thought that this "unionship" of 2 people is very interesting since the motives are as wide spread as the people involved. in your opinion why do people feel the need to "partner up"? is it really instinct or, public demand? just curious to understand

9 years ago

Some wonderfully thoughtful comments here, thanks guys. Times are certainly changing.

TheBurrhead
TheBurrhead
9 years ago

yes I agree. It is a must especially if you want to adopt, for the child's interest in the event something happens. Also for the protection of the child and determining who has legal possession if something happens. It's strange that a piece of paper , (a marriage certificate) becomes as important as having a power of attorney assigned, a will, a living will, and a directive for your health care should you become unable to handle your own affairs.-Burrhead

darkknightreturns
darkknightreturns
9 years ago

for me if I had a partner I would insist a marriage without any religious involvement not only to cement our relationship, but to ensure my younger partner has all the legalized benefits and insurance owing to him should I pass. I want to make sure he is left comfortable and legally entitled to my estate. It would be foolish not to do it.

9 years ago

That would have been the first one Mike...to the wife.

onlyinvegas
onlyinvegas
9 years ago

we already got married... and loving it

9 years ago

I think it changes as to where your life is and your circumstances. My partner and I have been together for nearly 32 years. And while we never could have imagined that legal recognition of our relationship could be a reality. It is now. And today, we are considering marriage. Not so much as the celebration of our love, for we have done that, and do not need the government's approval. But at least here in America, there are benefits and advantages that the government bestows on the legal union of a couple. Inheritance rights, tax advantages, medical and other decision making rights. And for probably those reasons now, we are actively working towards a marriage. In some ways, it seems less about love and more about financial and legal planning. But at the same time, there is some joy in knowing that the government will now honor us as any other couple that has endured life's challenges and joys. There will be no religion involved. And most likely a quiet ceremony with only a few friends.