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Sorry, originally from the Canton, Oh area but now in Nevada. Uh it may ease the shock a little if you tell them your bi. They might take it a little better. Hit me up if you ever wanna chat.

Tyler!

NEPA also

I am from NEPA!

I am from Pittsburgh. Wait do not do it until we talk

I first told my sister, then I asked her to tell the rest of the family. I think it helped ease the transition a little. I was 25 and living on my own. But I'm not from PA or any of those other places.

Coming out to you parents is a big step. And an important one. But not something to take lightly. @gm4yngr makes some good points about making sure you are in a place that is financially secure. I would also suggest that it is very important to have a strong social network that is supporting of you as a gay man. A good place for some resources would be your local LGBT community center. There is no right way to tell your parents. It is an individual conversation. You probably already know how they feel about gay people, so you know at least in general where they might be on the spectrum of support. Also, remember you have had 18 years to get "comfortable" with being gay. They will need time as well after you talk to them. So the three things I would leave you with: 1. Make sure you are financially not dependent on them in case it doesn't go as you hope; 2. Make sure you have a support network to provide emotional support to you as you do this; 3. Give them time to digest what you tell them. It very well may not be what the expected, but they still love and care for you. Hope this helps some. Thomas

Telling your parents that you're gay is a very personal thing to do, it's not possible to tell you the best way to do it without knowing more about them. Hopefully they are not the type of people that think being gay is a bad thing. If you are still living with them, or if they are paying for your college, you should think carefully about what might happen. Some parents have kicked out their gay sons and disowned them, leaving them to make it alone in the world. If there is any chance that they might react like that, you should wait until you are not dependent on them. If you have a job and your own place to live then it is not as serious a problem. I hope that more members here will add more advice for you. If you add more info here about what your parents are like, it will help us give you better advice.