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mcstephen76: I know for a fact that the guy I like is gay. He is out and very open about his sexuality. The only thing I'm afraid of is what if he doesn't find me attractive. Many of our mutual friends think I have a good chance with him, but I'm still really self conscious.

sawndry: Merci de tes mots sympas! Je ne parle pas français très bien parce que je l'étudie encore à l'université, mais je te comprends. I may have to take you upon your offer when I become more fluent.

Bonjour,
J'ai vu que tu étudis le francais. Tu étudis aussi ton orientation sexuelle.

Et ton père semble t'envoyer des messages contradictoires. (mixed messages much)

Mon père a fait la meme chose et ma confusion a durée des années. Ne compte pas trop sur ton père pour te dire qui tu es. Tu perdrais des années précieuses.

La question est : qu'est-ce qui te fait bander? Si c'est comme tu le dis c'est la vue d'un pénis tu as ta réponse. Lorsque tu le vois en érection et que ca te fais la même chose ton corps sait qui tu es.


Hi I saw you live confusion about your sexual orientation. Don't count on you father for a good answer. Too much often family sold her own opinion, own desires. It cost to me many years...

Listen your body!
ps. if you wish chat in french, it may be possible. C'est ma première langue. bye

Have a great day
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Here is my personal experience that may help you, hopefully. I knew I liked boys since I was about 10. I also liked girls, but I NEVER had dreams about a girl, they were always about a boy. I had a few g/f's, and I was, and still am, in the closet. Well, when I was about 27, my parents stayed the night with me, and mom snooped in the "my documents" folder on my computer and found a pic of a hot blond with a big 8" boner. Well, mom called dad in, and I thought I was dead meat....Dad had told my sister that if I was gay, he would disown me. Mom and Dad just joked about it, but after that happened, they still would act like I only liked girls. Who is she? What is HER name, etc. I think cockfiend is right. As for asking the guy out, kinda test the waters to see if he has an interest in you. It would suck to get your hopes up and find out that he's str8 as an arrow.

One of my friends was having a similar problem, he asked his dad 'how do you know you love women?' his dad said 'I just know' my friend said 'well that's how I know I know I'm gay, I just know' good luck, my dad tried to hit me when I came out so at least you have some support :)

Thanks for all the help guys. I told him how I feel, but he's not getting it. I don't think he'll believe me until I'm in some kind of relationship. I guess I may still have some soul searching to do. There's this guy at my school whom I've liked since I first met him last year. I think I'm going to ask him out when we get back to school. He is the sweetest guy, and I always visualize myself just lying in his arms, listening to the beating of his heart. Even as I type this, my heart is racing and I feel giddy inside. I just hope he feels the same way.

Well listen ... its hard for dads to accept that their sons maybe gay. Figure while he was raising you he always had the image/vision of you being like him. getting married datting and what not. At the same time he does love you and wants to support you. we arent the only people that suffer from this. you have to think what self-conflictions your father is facing aswell. im sure things will get better as both or maybe one of you will come to terms with the situation. also dont forget keep an open mind you never know what can spark you. have the chance try a girl.lol porn isnt the best tool to test sexuality. and the crush by girls comment i cant agree with you more ! Girls like to have things they cant have... aha Anyway hope this helped any but hope things end up for the better as i am still struggling with sexuality. all the luck :>

Well listen ... its hard for dads to accept that their sons maybe gay. Figure while he was raising you he always had the image/vision of you being like him. getting married datting and what not. At the same time he does love you and wants to support you. we arent the only people that suffer from this. you have to think what self-conflictions your father is facing aswell. im sure things will get better as both or maybe one of you will come to terms with the situation. also dont forget keep an open mind you never know what can spark you. have the chance try a girl.lol porn isnt the best tool to test sexuality. and the crush by girls comment i cant agree with you more ! Girls like to have things they cant have... aha Anyway hope this helped any but hope things end up for the better as i am still struggling with sexuality. all the luck :>

Being gay isn't a choice. If you know you are, then tell your father that. Then ask him when he made the choice to be hetrosexual. I'm glad he seems sympathetic, but I think he's trying to confuse you more than help. Previous posts here from Dennis and Thomas say it all, and I would encourage you to really think about what they said. Love and caring for you, and all the best success in college. ,,,, Steve

hi well maybe it is a mixed message but it does sound like your dad cares about you and even if he thinks being straight is something you could choose when he says he is supportive of you being gay i think hes really trying to tell you he will love you no matter what. I donno, maybe im wrong but i hope thats true. My dad would probly just hit me.

Dennis is pretty spot on. Your Dad is calling it a choice. There isn't a choice. And just because you can do it with a woman, doesn't make you straight. I am a proud gay man today, but long before you were a sparkle in your parent's eyes, I tried the straight thing. Married and all. It wasn't right. I didn't choose what I am. Just as you know you are gay. I guess my confusion is are you confused or is it about your Dad's questioning and lack of real support?

You can do what Dennis suggests about trying out a man. Or you can just tell your Dad you did and now you know. Thomas

Ur dad is messing with ur head because, I think, he doesn't want to accept ur homosexuality. He doesn't want to be embarrassed around his friends because he has a gay son, or whatever, but that's his problem, not yours. First of all u don't need to have sex with anybody to know what turns u on. It's biological....period. It's as simple as this: If a girl turns u on ur str8. If a guy turns u on ur gay. If both turn u on ur bi, although that can get a little more complicated for obvious reasons. It's not a 'choice' that u make as ur dad put it. You are born who u are. Be proud and confident to be that person. Don't let anyone, even ur dad, confuse u as to who u are. Only u can know that. Tell him how his behavior towards ur sexuality makes u feel. Tell him that he says he is supportive but his behavior reflects otherwise and it makes u feel he is rejecting you. Tell him that it means a lot to you that he loves and accepts you just the way you are. Tell him to please stop the persuasiveness and give u the space to be who u are or to explore who that person is without his influence.

If you've already been with a guy then u already know if it was right for u sexually. If u haven't been with a guy it wouldn't hurt to find a nice, loving guy who you like a lot and go to bed with him. It doesn't have to be a long term commitment approach. Just explore ur sexuality. By the end of the night you will have no question about what ur sexual preference is. I think u will not only find the confirmation u seek but rather elated by the experience.

I read ur 'about me' comments in ur profile. You are a very caring, loving, and warm guy that someone would be lucky to have as a partner. There are many other guys out there ur age looking for just that.

This is a very special time in ur life. Be true to yourself. You're perfect just the way you are. Love yourself as much as u want somebody to love. Here's to your future. (((hugs))) :Dennis

ask him the same thing. since he think that if you go fuck a girl you turn str8 like its some choice to him. ask him way he is not gay. has he tried it...hmmm i no its dificult with family but you have to make iy clear and that his words are hurtful. I had the backwards father in the world a man of a 6th grade education. he to said all i needed to do was meet the right women.. I told him that I loved him very much but this is who I am. so stop with the I only need to meet the right girl. good luck

You know in your own heart that you are gay and you don't need to prove it to your Dad or anyone else.You are over 18 so more than old enough to be your own man.Dads generally find it more difficult than Mums to accept hat their child is gay.Just hang in there stand firm and be yourself and hopefully your Dad will eventually accept the truth or will just give up trying to get you to change your sexuality.Best wishes let usknow how it goes even with a private message.xx