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ok so i have bean with my fella for 2 years now we are engaged to be married
its bean good but i will say now 2 mouth ago we split up were back together now but it was because hes job and people around him said i was no good for him etc
my problem is when we split up he went to a gay sauna with a friend of both of us my mate told me that when they went my fella sucked off a man and went with him to a room my fella said that they only wanked each other of nothing more then last week they both told me that they have bean to two sana the second one they both didn't do nothing which i do believe but my main prob is that it went from wanking each other off in the common room to going back to a room together and my fella told me that the guy that he wanked of it was his first gay experience
i cant get it out of my head that more happen every time i bring it up he just said forget about it we was not together but i cant he took me their the other day to see what its like and belive me its to easy to do whatever you like shall i leave him or would it be best to forget about it and move in HELP

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steesbratt
steesbratt
11 years ago

We all come with pasts that cant be expired just because we find someone new, what people do when they are single should not make a difference. I say, dont forget it because there really is nothing to forget just make today and everyother day with him happy not live in his past.

11 years ago

thank you for the advice
maybe your right we need to just chill and go wwith the flow

11 years ago

John...I am going to completely agree with onlyinvegas. This is not the promising start to a marriage or a relationship. You are young...take your time. I have had like onlyinvegas two real relationships of any duration. The one that started at 22 lasted 4 years. The one that started at 29, when I think I grew up enough to know what a relationship really is, is still going on...and it will be 30 years this December. But take your time...commitment is hard and it takes honesty and a lot of work...just sayin'...Thomas

onlyinvegas
onlyinvegas
11 years ago

first of all you are 18... what is the hurry of the marriage thing. The man you are now you will not be at 25 and at 25 the man you will be at 30 will be the man you are most likely to be. I have been in two long term relationships. one for 14 yrs and one for 12. It is at times very hard work to stay together and be faithful. I think you guys should work things out for this is not a great start for marriage. do not be in a hurry you have the rest of your lives to share.

11 years ago

hey quick update i asked my man about what happen for real as its bean 6 weeks since he finally told me the truth he did take the boi back to a room and try to have sex with him but after the boi slipped it in my man told him no and they stoped but a hour later they wanked eachother off and the boi made him cum but their was 4 people in the room no what do i do

lagayable
lagayable
11 years ago

I think you should hire cheaters (the tv program) ... ps i agree with nate88 @cutkiwi never heard of marriage before sex :P

11 years ago

Am I reading this right - he rooted someone at the sauna and that was his first gay experience? what about you for 2 years?

nate88
nate88
11 years ago

I'd say forget it if you really love him but testing would be required. 2 years and engagemnt is a lot of time to know if you should leave or not. Love him - stay. Undecided - your call. Remember - when cemented in any relationship, you inherit his family, friends luggage and laundry - dirty or clean.The same with him or in any relationship. I'm a romantic and hope youboth can work through it but you have to let it go or you'll NEVER be happy and the relationship will not last. Best wishes -Andy