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I generally agree with flow of thought here. When I accept someone, I acknowledge them with a short thank you on their page. Most of the time I never hear from them again. It makes you wonder what "friendship" means on this site. Since being on someone's friend list confers no benefit or privilege (it used to when there where "private" videos and photos), I have become a lot more selective. I look at their profile and ask myself why does this person want to be friends with me and do I want to interact with him. If their profile page is blank and if they have been a member a long time and never posted anything, I will usually reject them.

I do not friend guys who do not take the time to fill out there profiles or at the very least read mine. Other then that I will friend. but you have to put something on the table or dont bother

I have vacillated on this question as long as I have been a member. I started always saying yes. Then I decided to be selective. Then I was back to if it makes you feel good, why not. And now, I am kind of more like lakescruiser. I see a profile with nothing. And tell them, I like to know a little about a friend...so fill me in...either update your profile, post on my wall or send me a pm. If no response...after a few days...I decline it. Of all the people on my friends list...there are probably 25 I actually post on walls, or pm, or email or chat with outside of GBT. I know who I care about. And hopefully they know it to. I have resisted purging the list. Not sure why. Don't know if this helps or confuses. I seem to do both with great ease. Thomas

I find that pages that just have the single word GUYS in theire profile are usally the guys that dont share much about themselfs and you wonder if they,ll make a good friend or not.
And if your a guy that wonders why you dont have many good friends.Have a look at your profile and see if you can make it better.
My advise is to go to there page when you recieve a request and take a good look at there whole page.I even look at there Wall to see if its an active wall or if the last message was
like 99 days ago.

I don't have a large list of friends by any means, but I do find it annoying that I seem to be the one who has to instigate a post or conversation with someone. I would regard a friend as someone you would be in regular email contact with. Anyone who "runs by" and slams a post on your wall is just like walking down the street and saying "hi, how's things going?" to a complete stranger on the street - it's not really a friendship. I have offered to email with several guys and that's as far as it has gone (if didn't want to, they should have said), I also have a guy at the moment who has requested a friendship, and I'm in 2 minds weather I should add him, and tell him what I would expect from a friendship, or just accept him randomly. As andy has pointed out - maybe I should have a clean out. But what do you do if you remove someone and they ask you wtf? what did I do? You've then just offended them. I guess we should post our rules for friendship on our profile so that everyone knows - I know some guys have. Not sure if my ramblings make any sence???

I have yet to turn anyone down. If later on you decide they are an ass there is always the remove button

Hi Stees - difficult to answer. I used to do the same as 'lakecruiser' and was fine with it. As time has passed, My 'printed' friendship guide liens HURT a new member and made me look like a harsh bully. He gave me cause to reconsider how others may take my approach as offensive. I now will usually accept and try to communicate for real friendship. Occassionally I must CLEAN HOUSE and for those that will never communicate or reply to communications - I must cut them loose. Some members look as friendship ONLY as a NUMBER for their own personal goals. No offense intended to ANY member with this statement. I have a friend who COMPLAINS - 'No One Will Talk With Me'. Send him many messages and no reply but he still publically complains of being LONELY. ???????????????????? IDK, Andy

hi my rule is no avatar or profile..no friendship just reject and msg the guy with the reason why!

I think you are informed when a friend uploads a new vid???

(i dont have an answer) One add on question... what benefits do u get when you are friends as opposed not being friends??? it seems u can do all the same things ...