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████ The trick is to approach guys NOT from your faculty..eg..if U are studying accounting,go for the Engineering boys..or the HOT physics boys..and vice-versa...the best time is Freshers week...........QED...................DAVE........................████████

I am nearly twenty and i am not completely out, it's complicated, i am out at Uni but not at home mainly because my Father is quite prominent in my country and i love too much to embarrass him

a good way to start your journey is to attend a gay pride celebration and parade. Go with some of your 5 best friends, It is in St. Louis June 29/30. Many straights and families attend, and you can blend in without any fear of being seen, and if anyone you know sees you there , THEY are there for there same reason, and can't really say much can they? Go to:
http://explorestlouis.com/visit-explore/discover/st-louis-lgbt/?gclid=COGyt6neicYCFQaraQodaYEAoQ
and it will give you info on the parade. (google gay St. Louis too). Go walk the crowd , look for one or more guys your own age, stand by them , chat them up, and you just may find the first love of your life. Nothing ventured , nothing gained, so shrug off your fears, go and watch the parade and maybe hangout out with some new found friends. over 60,000 attend the St. Louis PRIDE parade, and there are other activities, and usually tables/gazebos set up for information on groups that may help you to come to terms with your gayness. Look every one of us on this site had the same feeling of fear around your age. You just have to start your wonderful journey with a bit of courage. I wish you all the best young man and if you want to chat , private me hugz Ron xoxo

That kinda sounds like me too. I'm a 20 yr old college student that's bi. Other than a handful of close friends, no one knows that I've had a boyfriend for the past 8 months or so. I just play it low key, if people don't need to know, then I don't tell them. I have only 1 close friend that is gay, the rest are all str8. My parents don't know yet either and I don't plan on saying anything until I am sure I met the right person (male or female). College or maybe in a college town is the best place to be gay or bi, you'll meet others like you with little effort, younger people tend to be more open and if you want to be a slut, there's opportunity everywhere (ask my dorm neighbor!). I messed around with a few guys & some girls in my teens, but joining here and finally meeting a boyfriend-worthy guy are my first steps into gay life. I guess if I had any advice, it's just be yourself, try to find others like you and just let it happen, I have heard a lot of horror stories about people who puch it hard in the beginning and get taken advantage of (if that makes sense). Good luck!

At 20 years old you should be getting dick as often as you want. Consider going to college, preferably a large state school where there are lots of guys your age away from home for the first time and who want to finally explore their homosexuality while preserving their privacy. If going to college is not in the cards then at least move to the college town and get a job. There's always a gay sub-culture there and make 5 new best friends - new best friends with benefits. Your current best friends are simply an old habit left over from your youth but who aren't doing anything for you other than holding you back and you've outgrown them. This is what I came to realize for myself towards the end of high school when I was 18. I started drifting away from them and joined a gym that a lot of gays patronized where I soon got my first taste of dick and was totally hooked. It was an epiphany for me and I realized how little I actually had in common with my old friends whom I came to understand were merely situational acquaintances. So stop denying yourself the exquisite pleasures that come with the blessing of being gay. It's time for you to move on with your life and start getting the fair share of dick you're entitled to.

I'm bisexual but I think my parents are figuring it out. My mother figured it out, I think my brother kinda knew too from my Facebook. But other than that, no one really knows.

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You don't know any Gays. You know us and we are all as bent as cork screws. The world is full of gays all looking for a young twink like yourself, so just wait until one finds you.

I have told all of two people. Rather ironically a lot of my close friends are gay, and I still can't work up the courage to tell them. Honestly I don't think I would have worked up the courage to tell even the two that I did if it were not for a few of the wonderful people on this site. they know who they are and I thank them.

There is no 'right' time to be out. This will come when you are ready. You don't need to be 'out' to everyone, just the people that understand and care. I am only 'out' to my boyfriend and some of his friends and I am happy to keep it this way for the moment. I was 46 at the time and that is when I was ready. You will know (and feel) when you are ready. Don't get worried or stressed about it.
The first thing 'gay' I did in life was, like you, having an account on GBT. I think that is a positive first step. Everything developed (I developed and gained courage) from there and now I am a much different (better) person.

i like your post and you pressed send ... thats a step further than most tc friend your journey is easier than some harder than others ... be yourself bro :)

I live on the west side of Missouri, south of KC and I am only out to a few close friends. Seems like you should be able to find some gay friends in St. Louis, or even better still at college if you're not ready to be out at home.

███ LOADS of folk are "secretly" gay...some say they are "happy and married,thank you"..but they are the worst..!!.here speaketh the voice of experience..Ha-Ha.....QED.....DAVE™....█████████