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Billy, what did you do?

Billy, First HUGS. I have done just that, " It means you are letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life." I am hopeing the same will be done for me. I do not say this in any type of vindictive way I am saying it because I have made friends that I do not get to talk to any more and I want that back. Much Love and respect to you Billy...

well put OP and others! Without forgiveness you are dooming yourself to the cycle of pain. It is literally inescapable on the path of anger and more importantly, attachment. Holding on to what happened is a way of holding on to the abuser; it's a way of feeling safe and in control as someone who's had their early life thrown out of control by someone they depend on (adults). But this is a false control...

sorry, didn't want to change this blog into who you'll never forgive. ... i think Billy meant people who hurt you personally, most of them are family members or close friends ... @AlanAlba: i know that not everyone of them feels guilty or thinks about what he has done to me, but i don't care anymore. forgiveness is a remedy, but when i forgive, it could be for the ones who abused me too and this is something i don't want. i'm with Billy, let them rot in hell. i found another way and it's much better for me. the most important thing is love and i feel the love of my boyfriend and my parents every time, it's all i need.

Forgive Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Mao, the Kims, Isis beheaders? Sorry, there are just some people who can never be forgiven. I forgave someone in my life who was extremely hateful towards me despite me having helped them in many ways. They are still hateful and deserving only contempt.

One person I will never forgive..... the one who abused me..... he is not human to me and will never get my forgiveness..... he will rot in prison and when he is dead will rot in hell....

"there are some things i can never forgive and i will never ever give them the relief of my forgiveness to release them from their guilt" ............................................................chris1993 this hate you burden yourself with is a cancer and you are the only one who is suffering.....you are the one who needs to be released. Sorry if this hurts but it needs to be said.........Naturally I know nothing of the circumstances but I do not think the person or person you hate so passionately are trouble by their guilt as much as you seem to think they are. It seems to me as though you carry this hate around with you a lot. Maybe the guilty only feel guilty for a tiny fraction of the time. Like is said, this hate you carry around is consuming you and possibly clouding your mind.

there are some things i can never forgive and i will never ever give them the relief of my forgiveness to release them from their guilt.

Happy your mum is doing well Billy..

Hugs 2 u jericho :)

uyy Billy ... you touch my heart with your words, you're a beautiful boy. We have never been friends, but also not enemies ... I like to talk and know yourself better

A few years ago I forgave my mom.... it was on mothers day..... after years of neglect from her I forgave her.... she was neglectful because of her drug and alcohol abuse.... she abused drugs for 15+ years..... she has been sober sum years now.... we have a beautiful relationship now

OMG.. This is one of the best blogs I have seen this year.. Thanks Billy.. So often we hold on to the past.. Let go and move on..... Happiness is living life in the now.... Move on and be free..

The Catholic Church has a thing called confessional...probably very therapeutic, Christ said to confess our sins one to another....I know I'm not perfect...a long way from that, however I believe it's the direction you're headed that makes the difference! That being said I think we were put on this earth to "help one another". I believe God made me the way I am...I make NO apology for that, whether you think I'm gay, straight, transgender, or what have you. Madonna is far from the example we should follow, confessions tour notwithstanding, she is a showman like Trump (although he has struck a chord in the American heartland-- people are mad as hell and not going to put up with the establishment bullshit any longer!). Hope you find inner peace my friend. Best regards and love...Alex

Have You Confessed? Asked Madonna in her "Confessions Tour" -concert endings around the world. Then She was "hanging" there on the "Christ" singing "Living To Tell". Jike Jesus Christ. The screen behind (and on) the stage were full of words from the Bible. And lots of explosions and mega-size pictures from orphins in Africa. The Pope was busy watching Desperate Housewifes from TV on that time. Even he had a ticket (it was to private lounge just behind the stage) but no. Maybe Madonna did the best she can do. Now we have problems here... sorry you have problems over there in Western World. Like Donald Trumpet. And massive amounts of refugees, We don't have. in common. our countries and cultures have been living in peace now almost 30 years(1 decade...almost:)) and we can all help each others, if needed. These all things come to your life and into your feelings. Like Billy said, youcan read it from the blog but what I think and I really hope I'm 100% wrong IS that this whole Ball called Tellus is going to change in next few years so much that we don't have time anynore to think thing like I wrote before. Just thinking about 1 day/1 wek/1/month living ahead and then I have a picture in my mind already: "Apocalypse Now". I really don't hope so but the world is near for that. Day By Day... Then it's time to forgive everyone you think you should do that. Creepy:(((((((
anyway have a nice Tuesday and big hugs:)

I'm assuming you made this post in light of recent events....good to have you back by the way....you cannot control what others may say or think about you....however you can control how much real estate you allow them in your mind...don't let the bastards get you down...because in the final analysis what YOU think matters more than ALL The other things! Hope this helps! Love....Alex

Holding anger towards another person keeps that person in you. Sincerely forgiving that person, releases you from his/her grasp.

As always you spread Love to everyone...

Hmmm this post made me think of @RustyGates a YouTuber who relentlessly harasses me there I've tried to reason with him to no avail I've since closed my YouTube and opened a new YouTube but only to store videos so I can embed them on my other sites and of course he has shown up there with his new YouTube channel to thumbs down my vids and flag them lol I don't hate him nor do I even think about him but last week he commented on one of my vids bringing him to mind for a few moments again I tried to reason with him again to no avail so I left it at that and didn't think about it until I read this post I hold no animosity towards him and hope only the best for him on his journey...

To err is human; to forgive is divine :))

Mike :)