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You got our support, Benji. Stay strong.

Glad you are talking and sharing! Been there! Take it one day at a time and it will get much better! ((((((HUGS!!!!!!))))))

@topjockcock...thanks for sharing the struggle you and Brian have had. I would like to suggest that the relationship between a person and their therapist is a very personal one. Benji seems to be doing well with his. So let's not try to play doctor and suggest what he should do. I am sure it is meant in a positive and helpful way, but none of us are truly qualified to provide guidance as to what Benji should be doing in therapy. Just my opinion. No offense intended.

just get better young friend. we are a team here

Stay strong, remember there is a strong community behind you for support.

Hi I hope you are doing OK. Who is doing your the therapy. I talked to my sister and gave just basic details, which really is all I have. I hope you are seeing a clinical psychologist with a PhD. when you look for a psychiatrist some will try and make use there therapist but they typically just have a Masters. You want a Ph D. I will share something ver yery personal. Brian went through a horrible time coming to terms with him truly being gay. We were together like 2 years and he just had a melt down. He couldn't see me, he didn't want to be gay and everyone was really worried he was in a deep depression and it took almost a year for him to come to terms with who he was and not be ashamed. it was hell for me. I didn't see him for over 3 months he missed a ton of school he said everyone knew he was gay which was just not true. He never would leave his parents house except when they could get him to go to school. He took some percocet he had that were mine actually and he jut happened to be holding them before his melt down. His parents couldn't find them, I told them he had them. That went over well NOT. My doctor wrote me a script cause I was all banged up from football. Now he is fantastic and loves his life so you can come out on the other side. I make sure he never misses his meds. I give them to him first thing in the monring. It was such a helpless feeling not being able to fix my boy.

So glad to hear that you are on the mend - there is a shampoo commercial here in Australia [not sure if any of you 'over there' have seen it] but its slogan is "It won't happen overnight, but it will happen" Benji, this I feel is 'your' slogan you will get better as time goes by - as I have said before WE are HERE FOR YOU should you need to talk about anything.
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Toby

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You would be surprised at when you are just telling someone that is anonymous your story by listening t your own words you e amazing discoveries on or own. The psychological term is third person resence. My sister is a psychoanalyst and she has taught me so much.Plus I have read her text boos that she felt were most important I have read 14 out of 26 so far.

So glad you are feeling better Benji. This is the 2nd crisis you've faced in the last 6 months and you faced it head on both times. We're proud of you and we love you. (((hugz))) :D

Ditto on what everyone else here has commented. See the therapy through and remember just because SOME other people don't love you (which is a shame for them!) that doesn't mean you shouldn't Love YOURSELF! **hugs**

Very happy to hear that you are doing ok, keep up with the therapy and have a happy future! Hugs, Fred

Glad to hear you are doing better and getting the help you need!

Luv u lots

glad you are feeling better,love Scott

Yes the talking is so important Benji.. So good to hear you are getting better.. How you deal with your past if so important for your future happiness. Please don't feel ashamed, just work on finding your own happiness and love the ones that support you..

I love you very much, Benji. Not even a teenie tiny hint of disappointment. You have my total support as you move forward. You cannot change what happened in the past, but you can change how it affects you. Love, Grandpa R.D.

You are going to be fine Benji...it takes time and effort. But you will find that place in yourself that is safe. Hugs Thomas