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Crushing on a friend...
Anyone here ever tell a friend that you had a serious crush on them even though you were pretty sure they were straight? I've got a friend who I've pretty much been secretly in love with for a few years now. He knows I'm gay but has no idea I like him so much. I really want to tell him simply to get it all on the table and move on. I figure if he hates me for it, so be it, we part ways and get on with life. If he still wants to be friends, at least I'll know he's a real friend and I'll get it off my chest. If he feels the same way, we live happily ever after. The last thing I want to do is lose a friend but I feel really dishonest about this and, as I'm sure many of you know, it's really tough being friends with someone when all you want to do is share yourself with them in the most intimate ways possible. Anyone have any thoughts on this?
Pretty sure everyone that commented on this is gone now but I'm assuming situations like this are a pretty common theme in a lot of guys lives so I'll give a bit of an update. About a week ago I decided to send my friend a note and let him know how I feel about him. I didn't go into a ton of detail but made it clear that I have a crush on him. I didn't hear a thing from him for 6 days and could only assume the worst. I figured he'd never talk to me again. I was an emotional wreck all week. He finally texted me Saturday and basically told me he wasn't interested but, even though he was pretty rattled by me telling him, we are still cool and he still wants to be friends and hang out every now and then. Even though I want his cock in my mouth more than just about anything in the world, that response was a huge relief to me. I figure if he sticks by me and is still a friend to me after this, he'll probably be a friend for life. That's worth a lot to me.
Guys, thank you so much. I had actually forgotten all about writing this. All of your responses are appreciated and I'll update you guys of any developments in my situation. My gut tells me that it won't go well if I just come out and tell him I really like him. Hinting about him and I fooling around, like Jack suggests, is probably the route I am going to take on this. Ultimately I'd love it if something real worked out between us but even just a chance at having a little fun with him would be well worth the risk of him just never talking to me again.Â
I think when your younger everybody goes through that. I had a few in grammar school. Some took me up on it and others said WTF!
I had a straight friend who I had a crush on. I was about 30, he was about 24. This was around 1988. He was super nice and super hot and he had a girlfriend. We were not close friends. I knew him from a college photography class, but we talked a lot and we admired each others photographs and we would some times go out together to take photos. I was not out to him. One evening, after class we went to a local brew pub for a beer. I said something really corny to him like I could look at him all night long. He was very flattered and he said I was the first gay man who had ever come out to him. We stayed friends and still hung out together. As soon as I knew he wasn't interested in me, I got over my crush on him. I hate to give advice, because I could be completely wrong and then fuck up your friendship with this guy, but I think maybe you should say something to him. He knows you're gay. That's a good start. Have you two ever talked about sexual encounters you have had in the past? You could bring up the subject of sex and then maybe ask him if he ever fooled around with another guy or if he ever thought of fooling around with another guy or would he ever let a guy give him a bj. Or you could complement him on his appearance. Or just flirt with him a little. I don't know. If he is straight, he still might fool around with you, but he probably would never be in love with you. It will take some courage to say something about how you feel about him, but it probably would be better for you in the long run to finally know where he stands. As far as losing him as a friend, you might lose him, you might not lose him. I really don't see what the big deal is there. Good luck.
I've been through the whole telling my best friend and hating me thing. Been about a year now that we haven't talked. Hurt a lot for months afterwards, but it had to happen. I just couldn't keep it inside. That said, he's never told anyone else as far as I'm aware, so there's nothing for which I can be angry at him. I'd just say be careful in telling anyone how you feel, and realise that it may not go as smoothly as you hope.
With as many str8 guy I have fucked I say never assume he too str8 for boipussy or a blow job. I have seen guys pounding  ass I never in a million would have thought they'd be tempted. Also I am a 100% baseball jock. No one ever takes me for gay ever it can be nice but also its you are hidden underneath