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I'm 48, happily married with 2 grown kids. Wife and I are in good shape and have a good sex life. However, I was sexually molested from ages 10-12 years old. That progressed into me getting sucked off once a week by a gay classmate during my h.s. years. (it was incredible) For some reason, 30 years later, I now find myself fantasizing about making love to a cute 18-30 y/o twink bttm type. Love the pics, vids, etc. I've chatted on craigslist (before it stopped posting personals) and Grindr.
Please help me with advice. I don't want to ruin my family or my life. I'm just so horny for twink sex. Any words of wisdom will help me.
Thanks!
Frankly I think that telling your wife is the worst thing you can do. See a therapist or a priest or whatever works for you. Personally I think it is very selfish when telling there partners about their infidelities. Those people are just trying to reduce their guilt feeling and in turn are hurting the people who love them.
If you really want to have sex with young men, it would be best to get a divorce but I'd think seriously about giving up what you have.
there is good advice here. be honest with yourself and your partner. live your life that way.
You were molested? But it was incredible?
You have a responsibility to your wife and kids. Don't let bad passing thoughts and bad advice lead you to giving your wife disease or getting a divorce. Maybe you should discuss getting divorce with your wife after telling here of your desires if you really plan on going through with this madness.
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Abuse fucks with your mind. I'd suggest checking yourself and your mental well being before venturing out on a fantasy. It might be just that - a fantasy that won't satisfy your desires. If you are happily married, why risk it? If you trust your wife, it's something to discuss with her instead of keeping it bottled up and acting on impulse. Consequences man, consequences. Remember too, some guys would give anything to have a stable relationship like you.
Thanks for all the great and wise advice!
Maybe try arranging your first meeting in another city well away from where you currently live. If you are to engage in any sexual activity with them, then use all precautions. make sure that you have chatted with them for quite a while before meeting up and try and suss out from their replies if they meet up with random guys often. If so, then move on to another guy just in case. Although others here are advising you to be honest and up front with your wife from the start, that is all well and good.. but as you stated... you do not wish to destroy your family life at this present moment in time. As this is just something that you are currently fantasizing about, telling your wife immediately and asking for a divorce as one member stated could leave you regretting your actions/openness for the rest of your life, if after telling the family, who may then not accept your desires, You may find that after your first meeting with a guy, you find out that it isn't actually what you want, and never wish to go with another guy again as long as you live. That is one hell of a gamble to take based on something that maybe a one-off whim. Test the water first a bit, and then make the decision, .... is this what you want for the rest of your life, or do you actually prefer your wife and that the boy thing now once and done is over.
I say be honest. If youre going down the route you want then people are going to get hurt regardless. Might as well get it out of the way.
But you may have to accept you can't have happily married with kids and fucking sweet young things.
Advice from a 27 year guy who's never been in a relationship or been intimate.
I'm sorry to read about your abuse brother, but just so you know many of us here were also abused it is reported that 16%of men were sexually abused before the age of 16 although we know the stats are incorrect and why these statistics are probably underestimated is Males who have such experiences are less likely to disclose them that are females. Only 16% of men with documented histories of sexual abuse (by social service agencies, which means it was very serious) considered themselves to have been sexually abused, compared to 64% of women with documented histories in the same study. The reason I bring this up is bring awareness that you're not alone and that it's likely half of us have had similar experience of abuse. I agree with most everyone else that if you love your wife and it sounds to me like you do. You aren't going to want to put her health at risk little a lone hurt her emotionally. There for my suggestion is nothing wrong with watching a little porn and jerking off fantasizin, don't keep anything on any pc she may use at anytime actually best thing is a usb flash drive they're small and easy to conceal and if she should somehow come across it well it's not yours and no matter what don't claim ownership and believe me, I do believe honesty is most important in a relationship but both of your safety and the safely of the relationship comes first as nobody is being hurt. At any rate that is just my opinion as I'm not a phycologist.
Won't condoms help with this?
I suggest you beat your wife mercilessly and force her to dress like a man for a few weeks then get super drunk and go to town on her. Pictures and video please.
thanks.
Just do it... go for it... find a picture in google of a guy that looks similar to you and just start looking for someone. Live the fuckin life, you don't wanna be 60 and not be able to do anything you want. This is it dude!, you are not gaining Karma points for "the next" thing. THIS IS IT! There's nothing after this shot! just fuckin do it! Enjoy your damn life. Don't sacrifice it. Use rentmen dot com or similar. You in Chicago right? there are many twinks there.