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Growing Up With Internet Porn
So I've been seeing a commercial on TV for a show on CNN that is airing tonight about porn addiction. Since we are all on this internet porn site, I wanted to see how others actually feel about their own views on porn.
I started watching porn when I was about 10 years old. My parents had just given me my first computer that I could use on my own in the privacy of my own bedroom. It wasn't like "oh good, now I can watch porn", I started off watching a lot of YouTube, playing online games, and finding some chat rooms. Eventually my 10 year old hormones started kicking in and one day when my parents weren't home, I typed "porn" into Google and boy did my eyes nearly pop out of my skull.
The first thing that porn did for me is to help me come to realize that I was gay. I was so intent on watching the guy sex, the girl sex just didn't do it for me. I wanted to see other guy's dicks. It made me comfortable with my own sexuality. I was never scared, or "questioning", about my being gay. I figured if this many people out there liked other boys as well, then it must be OK. I've never flaunted my sexuality. I guess you could call me one of the "straight acting" gay guys. But I've never said that I wasn't gay when asked.
Porn led to some fun times as a teen with other teen boys from my school and neighborhood. There was more than one occasion where a buddy of mine and I would watch a porn and then try to copy what the porn actors were doing. Whether that be making out, giving blow jobs, or rimming and fucking. So yes, you could say that porn was our sex education teacher.
And that is where the show on CNN I think is going to try to emphasize. Porn has become the leader in sex education. I'll be the first to admit, even from my experience, that porn is not the best way to get your sex education. But sex is the one thing that parents don't want to talk about, that parent's don't want the schools teaching, and parent's don't want you hooking up with older people to learn either.
I believe at 10 years old that is when you want to start teaching boys and girls about sex. That is when their bodies are starting to turn on the sexuality switch. By 13 the hormones are in full gear, and most boys don't know what to do with it. By 15 a good majority of boys, at least out of my own little surveys over the years, have experimented with sex with mutual masturbation or blow jobs before their parents have given them "the talk". I did a small survey for a paper I wrote and most parents I talked to said they gave "the talk" only after they had found out, or believed, that their kids were sexually active. That is like teaching a kid a stove burner is hot after they put their hand on one that's on high.
Everything in life, besides sex, seems to be taught long before you need it. Why is that? Why is society so scared about sex? Do you want to know the group of people that I've found that teach their kids about sex, how the body is not something to be ashamed of? Nudists!! This group of people seem to be so much more open minded that sexuality is just basic human nature and not something to be afraid of. There is no body shaming. If you are young or old, fat or skinny, it's just you being you naturally.
I think one of the biggest failures of porn, it that it doesn't teach the "love" aspect of sex. Porn teaches that sex is just sex, that sex is fun to do, and that it's no big deal to do it. It doesn't teach that when you find a boyfriend or girlfriend that sex is used to show your love and affection to that person. I've gotten better at it over the last few years, but I remember a boyfriend I had when I was 19 where though I really did have an affection for him, I had a hard time with sex to show love. We ended up doing sex only when we were both horny until we broke up cause we both went to different schools.
I think it is going to be a hard thing to change. The government in the school system isn't going to be able to help much beyond what it does now. It has to be up to the parents to really make the change. The longer parents wait to start talking about sex, the earlier that kids reach out to the internet for porn, the more dysfunctional in sex a lot of kids are going to be as they grow up.
That's my take on things.
Hey Rastriker95 Blog
One of the best written blogs I have read on here for a long time.
It is an interesting subject and I think most kids are sexually curious at a young age, and the more taboo it's made the more long term damage that can be done.
The biggest damage to a younger males and females is body shame, which I see a lot of in media and often in the Education system and many religions.
Kids are impressionable and any incorrect or shaming can last a lifetime.
Parents need to take a more active role and less relying on schools, and not let the internet be the family nanny.
I think most parents get that, but also something to consider is many parents had limited sex education, so the effects of the internet are only now being realised.
I know if internet was around when I was a kid and teen I’d be showing myself on there a lot.. I know I watched a lot of fellows showing their cocks and buttholes and what was even more fun was sometimes one of them lived close enough to go pic up and have fun
some fellows would see my adult cock be like wow and wanna see it but now a days you got to e careful if deciding to meet
Porn cured my depression, opened my mind to beauty, sexuality and primal urges in a way that no “sex education” from a school or parent ever could.
There’s a curious group of men at the moment who refuse to masturbate because they believe that this will improve their lives, make them stronger, healthier and better in social situations. They call it “No Fap”, the internet has many sights like Reddit that will allow men to discuss their positive opinions on not ejaculating on a regular basis, which doesn’t sound like much fun to me.
i learned about sex first from online porn. str8 porn only drew my attention to guys and by 14 was a regular masturbater to gay porn. i learned about love when i was 16. two totally different things, but sex is a common denominator for so many things, good and bad. as a teacher of 8 and 9 year olds, they all know about sex through online porn. way too early for that exposure and i'm sure younger kids are looking as well. by the time they hit puberty, hormones and porn go hand in hand. each driving kids toward the other. the views of young kids are biased based on porn well before they even have sexual feelings. and so the internet is full of other dangerous things available to kids so i'm not degrading porn, just throwing my thoughts together.
There (for the most part) is no such thing as an addiction to porn. There is and can be but what is and isn't I would say is at best not easily defined in my opinion. I don't think there is any question that people should not spend insane amounts of time or all of it with anything whether it is porn or not. With that said if someone does do this a bunch or for a little while I am not a hundred percent sure that there is anything wrong with that especially if it does not hurt them (or anyone else) and if they can afford it in all manners and ways. In my case sometimes I am just looking for the right video where it has good production, the angles I am looking for, the right kind of hotness of boys, and the right kind of performance. I often prefer seeing something I have never seen before (not repeating the same video over and over is what I mean) so I for one have never believed that people have to keep getting into more and more depraved if not outright abusive sex when watching a bunch of it. For me concerning the amount of time and energy it is just about looking for new clips, videos, and performances (for the most part as old ones can still be great too).