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You older/old guys...can you tell me what you know and how to live? I fear for my future I guess in some ways.
You older/old guys...can you tell me what you know and how to live? I fear for my future I guess in some ways. How do you...and do you...get sex? What do other people think of your behavior now and in the past? Do you have children? What do they think of your lifestyle now or in the past? Were you able to avoid disease and diseases?
I have a wife and children now. Slutted out till I was thirty and then settled down. I sometimes visit here or read stories online to remember good times. Now that I'm in my forties, I'm a much happier person. We all have our own trajectories in life. Having a family was more important to me than having all the sex from before. There is still sex when you are older. Enjoy your youth, don't receive unprotected anal (HIV) and slut out. From time to time, think about what you want your future to be.
I'll offer a few things.
1) If it interests you, try it. A lot of dissatisfaction comes from the things we let get away. Find a reason to say yes and give something that catches your fancy a try. In the end, we're just a pile of experiences and consequences.
2) Broaden your ideas on relationships. Another large pile of anxiety is based on romantic relationships. Media crushes us, from movies to music, with ideas on what 'happy' looks like. Heaping all your needs onto one person is all but guaranteed to fail. Hold your friends a little closer and remember that a friend is a relationship. They're already choosing you each and every day.
3) Sex is best with someone you love. This includes your own hand.
4) Fight. Fight for the future that you want. People are ridiculous, especially if they're in power. It's up to us to fight for something better.
Take it all one day at a time. But have a focus. if you are very depressed or anxious you should probably seek medical and or psychological help. You can focus on the near future such as getting a job, getting through a day of quarantine, read a book that interests you, but don't overthink. Sex is nice but not necessary. relationships are always the best. Cultivate friendships. Don't be what you are not. Don't try to please other people but don't think only of yourself. Have fun when you can. Live life for today but don't think there will not be a tomorrow.
as get older things we do through our lives begin to take shape--growing up and into my adult years i would usually think i was invincible--now as got older arthritus is all the way through my body--even though arthritus isnt a older persons problem--people as young as 14 have been diagnosed with it but it has deteriorated the bones/joints in my right knee and have to have mri done to see how bad plus going to do the left one see if it has anything going on with it
so remember while young take better care of yourself-- we arent as invincible as we think we are--
sex can be a tough thing to get especially when alot of them are seekingy younger guys to be with--as like i do as well-- and as you get older you will look back at this day when you said gross to older when you get our age and you want a younger guy to be with--they will say same thing to you--
ive never worried about what others think about me in the past present or the future--if they dont like me thats their problem
i am 49 yrs old andbeen a very active person sexually--never used condoms and i never has any std's or anything so i guess i been lucky
O.k. Thanks guys. Anyone else please keep responding. I've been so depressed this past year and suffering from p.t.s.d. from herniated and bulging discs in my back and now terrible tinnitus I got from the stress of getting prepared for the lockdown/quarantine. (As opposed to loud noises. I feel confident this is the case from what I have seen/read and that it is in certain nerves as opposed to my ear drums.) I must push on...it's just been so hard. I can't believe I have been feeling this way but it's true. I have...so few friends. At least any that I am close to I guess. I GUESS I fucked up. Still not entirely sure about that either to be honest. I have been VERY fortunate in life and that includes...at times...having good or even great friends. But now I have found myself...rather alone for a while now, sigh. I have family but even there my relationship with them at the least feels strained. Sigh...I am thankful to be able to converse with whomever here in what seems like a real level of honesty.
Live for to day and not tomorrow as do we well 74
...and other people's futures as well concerning what all I am enquiring about.