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So what is your answer? Of course I respect anyone's personal views of sex.  For me, I don't think there is a question of whether or not I could hold down a monogamous relationship. Sex for me is for fun, which is what I think nature really intended. If we were meant to be with just one person for the rest of our lives I think nature would have made us like some of the animals of the world that DO have monogamous relationships.

Sex for humans is a fickle thing if you think about it.  Boys and girls are able to have children at a young age, yet society thinks that is wrong. By making people wait until they are 18 to have sex we are nearly one third of the way through the optimal prime time for us to have children. The only reason that the laws of 18 and above sex exist is because society thinks that under 18's can't make informed decisions about their actions. Yet every day they are making informed decisions on every thing else they do. Why do you think that is?

Keeping in mind that this is just an opinion blog, and that I'm not a doctor, phycologist, counselor, or even a researcher, it is my opinion it is because adults do not want to talk to children about sex.  By the time I actually had Sex Education class in high school I was well on my way to becoming a full blown sex monster. lol. I learned more about sex from the boys and men I was hooking up with than I ever did from my parents and a one semester high school class that I didn't have until I was 16.

I think parents and schools need to start teaching about sex way before the age they want to now.  And I don't mean just the "penis goes in vagina sex" either. Sex Education should also include information about sexuality, talking about WHY women are always looking to make themselves beautiful with make up and such. Why advertisements show scantly dressed women and men without thier shirts on.

Take a look at photography, which I happen to know a bit about.  Even kids are shown in legit advertisements and photo shoots without their shirts on and their pants riding low to show off their underwear, or even lower till their pants are right at the top of what I call "the cock line", if you know what I mean.

I think I could have a healthly relationship with somone, as long as he and I understood that being solo to each other is not a requirement.  I had a roommate from when I was 23 to 25, and the two of us were great together.  Even my mom and dad thought that they two of us were a couple, and that is saying something knowing my dad.

We slept in the same bed, ate meals together, went out to shows and parties (the office types), took a few vacations together, and even had sex together often. But we both understood that we were not monogamous. It helped that I told him the full story of my background. But you could say that he and I were in a very loving relationship. The reason that we had to breakup is because I was still going to college and wanted to stay living in the L.A. area, and he got a job offer that would have been stupid to turn down that was on the east coast. Without being officially "married" and never had joined our bank accounts, it was really easy to do the separation.  Easy that way, but emotionally it was still hard of course.

But people are always looking. How many divorces are because of part of the couple is running away with a new sexual partner?  How many men step out on their wives to hook up with a sex worker or someone else they know?  And I have totaly respect and admireation for those that can keep one partner and never cheat.

I enjoy sex!  I love meeting new people to find out what they are about, even if it is just a one night stand.  I don't know how many men hooked up with me that were married to women, or other men, or had a girlfriend in the years when I was an active hustler and escort. It was work that I loved doing and have no regrets about it.

Not everyone can be a hustler, escort, or porn star though. But living your own life, having fun while you're living it, and not having to answer to anyone but yourself for your actions I think is the best way to be for me. I do miss not being able to give my parents grandchilden though, that would have been fun.  

I do get a lot of people asking why I didn't get into porn if I think that having sex is such a fun thing, and I'll leave that answer for another post. But I just wanted to throw this out there today, and see how many have the same or similar mindset. I hope that those that do will shoot a reply.  So until next time....