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This may be of interest to someone, an academic overview of the discourse that eventually framed the 'homosexual' construct as we currently recognise it. (Please note, this is audio only.)

Make yourself comfortable; sit back and listen...

MobuttMonkey Everyone is different these sure these easier to believe that everyone is the same, but look around you, just nature it is very varied.

I am sure I will get nailed to the cross but I do not think there is either gay or straight 100%. Your body responds to stimulation. Man or woman will achieve orgasam if done properly no matter who is the partner. The Gay or Straight argument comes into play once the hormone level drops. This is where a lot of young men fall victim to shame and guilt. When their pulse is pumping and their cock is hard anyone can get them off. Afterwards the so called straight guy often gets aggressive with the gay guy or the partner, " hey I'm not gay" bullshit comes into play. When I was a young man in high school a hot young guy named Jon A. used to come over to my place all the time just for a blow job or to fuck me. Back then I allowed it because I was a horny teen. mHe had a nice long thick dick and loved to fuck me. After he always said "you know im not a faggot like you but my girlfriend is on the rag" or some such shit. I really didn't care he had just pumped me full and I could get off by myself. Gay Straight Bisexual Pansexual Omnisexual is just another word for horny. We think about a natural and beautiful activity too hard and apply stigma's to it. Just enjoy it while you can, your tight taught young body wont last forever, once you are my age you realize on how much you missed out on and have your regrets.

'Stright' identity just means a good boy that conforms

Most Males will identify as Str8 or BI depending on what the environment will allow or prefers

I can only come at this from my own experience. A lot of straight men will come visit me after reaching out on dating apps because I offer no fuss blow ‘n go with a private gloryhole. But perhaps even though they know a guy is on the other side of the wall perhaps because they can’t actually see me they don’t view it as straight or gay, it’s just getting off? I do also have a few straight guys who message me just to tell me how disgusting I am, so that indicates to me that those straight men are offended by me just exisiting where as the ones who visit maybe don’t care either way?

Straight guys that have sex with men must find other guys sexually attractive. I like girls as friends but sex for me is with guys....younger than me and I couldn't even entertain straight sex. Money or not.

I think these guys are Bisexual or Pansexual, and it's easier for them to be with their preference than that.A real straight man doesn't even ask the question.

I've had many str8 guys come to my door looking for a blow job only, and all for the same reason; their wives/gfs refused to suck dick. Though those same women sure won't turn down having their pussies eaten, especially when the guy can flick her clit just right with his tongue and drive her to orgasm.

2. Should be SEX IS SEX and no need to label. Sex and love are 2 different things entirely.

Sexuality

The sexuality spectrum refers to the idea that people's sexual identities and orientations are complex and resist easy classification. Instead of offering people a choice between either homosexual or heterosexual - or even a choice between homosexual, heterosexual, or bisexual - it provides a way of talking about sexuality along in terms of many possibilities. The sexuality spectrum also allows for greater fluidity of sexual identity and expression. You might change from one position to another or move about the spectrum. Large-scale studies have supported both the idea that broad terms can be misleading for some people and that people often have sexual orientation ranges rather than fixed orientations.To some extent, the shift from categories or sexuality to a sexuality spectrum is a generational shift. Millennials increasingly prefer to identify themselves along a spectrum. However, the spectrum is neither a specifically millennial phenomenon nor a concept embraced by all millennials.

Different Sexual Orientation SpectrumsThe spectrum itself isn't a singular entity. Instead of one line with complete homosexuality at one end and complete heterosexuality at the other, there are more than 200 scales people have developed to define sexuality.

• https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-sexuality-spectrum

Gender

gender continuum

also called gender spectrum, in the study of human sexuality, the thesis that gender is not “binary,” or limited to the specific genders “man” and “woman” (or “boy” and “girl”), but continuous, forming a spectrum of differing degrees and combinations of the mental, emotional, behavioral, and biological traits commonly possessed by or attributed to members of the male or female sex. Such characteristics include gender identity (one’s self-conception as a man, woman, or other gender or genders); sexual orientation; scalable personality traits such as assertiveness, inquisitiveness, empathy, and kindness (see also five-factor model of personality); the observance of culturally defined behaviours such as dress, social interaction, and social roles; and the physical traits associated with biological sex—including external genitalia, sex chromosomes, sex-related gene expression, sex hormones, and brain structure and activity—which vary along a continuum ranging from male to intersex to female.

In addition to single and combined genders, the gender continuum thesis also recognizes genders that involve a regular alternation between man and woman or between other genders within the continuum, as well as genders that fall outside of the continuum altogether. Genders within both of these categories are variously named and often overlapping, as indicated in the terms bigender (having a gender that combines man and woman), third gender (having a gender that is neither man nor woman), pangender (having all genders or more than one gender), genderqueer (having a gender that is not solely man or woman), and agender (having no particular gender).

• https://www.britannica.com/topic/gender-continuum

Gay4pay means you do it for money. You *might* be curious, but without the money, no gay sex. I don't see why not. I am early middle age. If a gorgeous 18yo, smooth, sweet, delicately perfumed girl offered herself to me I would do out of curiosity. I know I am gay (homo), but I would 100% do it. And at 18 or 19 with hormones raging, you would try it even faster. So the fact that most gay porn models in e.g. Czechia are gay4pay does not really seem all that remarkable, when you consider most of the time they are just asked to have sex with other gorgeous, young guys. They all smell nice, glow, have that magic of youth... and there is damn good money to be had. Ultimately money is the deciding factor though.

Straight Plus

"Straight Plus is to be straight but almost bisexual. When you are straight plus you are attracted to people of either gender, but you to are not fully attracted to either."

• https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Straight%20Plus

Consider a colour chart as an analogy for sexuality.

Start with the primary colours, and let them represent what the Kinsey Scale depicted: red, yellow, blue correlated to straight, bi, gay. Then let the secondary colours, orange, green, purple, correlate to one degree of sexuality away from the primary, mostly straight, mostly bi, mostly gay, and so on. Tertiary colours, lime, teal, violet, sienna etc., include the variations in sexuality to which humans identify. This extension of the palette is analogous to the spectrum of sexuality, and a colour sphere would be the synthesis of all degrees of sexuality needed for a person to posit themselves, far from the biological binaries of male/female and straight/gay as can be. The colour sphere is inclusive of all possible degrees of all possible sexual identities.

C4LEB gives helpful information. Cluster analysis shows that there is a custer that can be called

Mostly Heterosexual or Straight Plus,

which is the largest sexual minority in surveys. They identify as heterosexual, live a mostly heterosexual life and see their homosexual excursions as something in addition to their heterosexual life, and they never show up at LGBT organizations. Some men say that they began sexually experimenting with men when their wives were not interested in sexuality anymore. But they don’t fall in love with other men of their age, they only enjoy their penis fetish with other men who are in the same situation. Others may be afraid of a label that is less harmless, but I find the addition of this category useful.

People who see themselves as clearly bisexual also come in different flavours:

Bisexual – more heterosexual,
Bisexual – without a preference
Bisexual – more homosexual

Actually, many people who identify as straight or gay have homosexual or heterosexual experience, which is why the additional categories

Exclusively heterosexual / Exclusively homosexual

can be useful, because

Heterosexual / Homosexual

have a certain vagueness.

We must also clearly distinguish sexuality from preferences concerning cohabitation. Women, for example, who would like to live together with their children and the breadwinner, find it easiest to realise this project with a man, which does not mean that she values sexual satisfaction from men more highly than from women, if she has experience with both.

Since men are on average more dominant, it is no wonder that men prefer to live with women than to face the challenge of living with another man.

In the end, I find it most useful to describe people by the sexual practices they enjoy, supplemented by descriptions of the bodies they prefer.

Men who have sex with men (MSM) are men who engage in sexual activity with members of the same sex, regardless of how they identify themselves. These men may identify as gay, homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual, or may dispense with sexual identity altogether. The WHO notes that MSM "encompasses the large variety of settings and contexts in which male-to-male sex takes place, across multiple motivations for engaging in sex, self-determined sexual and gender identities, and various identifications with particular community or social groups".

Human sexual practice is diverse. In response to the need to better understand that diversity in the face of the HIV epidemic, a fact became widely known that had previously been understood by few: a significant population of men who do not self-identify as 'gay' or 'bisexual' sometimes have sexual contact with other men. It was recognised that a descriptor for behaviour, rather than an assertion of social identity, was needed, and the term “men who have sex with men”, and its acronym MSM, came into being.

Categorising an individual’s sexuality is not a simple matter of asking a single question. There must be considered three aspects of sexuality: (1) how people describe their sexuality, (2) to whom people say they are sexually attracted, and (3) with whom people say they have had sexual experiences. Moreover, the agreement between stated sexual identity, sexual attraction and sexual experience varies.

At least one in 20 Australian men report sexual contact with another man in their lifetime, however few Australians reported a sexual identity other than heterosexual. It seems that both same-sex attraction and homosexual experience are more common than a declared homosexual or bisexual identity would suggest. (Statistically, among Australian men, 97.4% identified as heterosexual, 1.6% as gay or homosexual and 0.9% as bisexual. Among these men, 91.4% reported only opposite-sex attraction and experience; thus, some same-sex attraction or experience was reported by 8.6% of men.)

There is a wide and open-ended range of motivations for MSM activity, tempered by: negative associations with same-sex identification (discrimination and bullying); lack of personal sexual clarity; societal and parental disapproval and/or expectations; contraception; digital and physical venue access; coercion (sexual abuse by older family/social network members and then leverage to prevent disclosure); fear of familial or social isolation; fear of quality of life changes; notions of masculinity and patriarchy; religious conservatism; pathologising of homosexuality; institutional stigma and discrimination; homoeroticism as play; power and dominance; immediate sexual gratification; same-sex environments; paid sex for survival; sexual experimentation or adventurism; easy, uncomplicated nature of sexual encounters between men; even revenge.